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Is he going to ask me out? 10 points for best advice!?
Well I like this boy since August and he just broke up with his girl friend last Friday. And today I noticed that he was asking my friend questions.. then she would come over to me and say, '; Do you like ( his name )? Then I said, '; Yes. '; Then he pulled her back over and said something else then my friend came over and kept on asking questions about me liking him. Then he would walk over to me and get all nervous looking and walk away... this happened only today! I don't know if he is going to ask me out and I have no clue what to say because he is popular and I'm not! What should I do? Does it sound like he is going to ask me out?Is he going to ask me out? 10 points for best advice!?
HE IS GOING TO ASK YOU OUT!!!!!!!!!!!
LOL.
He will definitely ask you out, otherwise he wouldnt have acted like that!
be prepared!
~鈾モ櫏鈾
HE IS GOING TO ASK YOU OUT!!!!!!!!!!!
LOL.
He will definitely ask you out, otherwise he wouldnt have acted like that!
be prepared!
~鈾モ櫏鈾
Is love means forgive and forget? 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
We ';loved'; each other for 4 years. We had on and off long distance relationship for 2 years. I moved to different states.
I was so frustrated with the relationship. I forced him to make a decision--I kind of ask him to move to where I live. I am not sure whether I did hurt his big ego somehow.
But he responded me with..
He does not want to have a relationship with me. He wants me to leave him alone with no any types of contacts. He even said, he will get a law enforcement involved.
To be honest, it was the most hurtful things that someone (I love or know) say to me. I cried many times when think about it.
He is now regretting and asking for forgiveness.
Is love mean forgive and forget? Or Should I tell him to move on?
Thank you.Is love means forgive and forget? 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
sorry to hear that. why r u interested in knowing if he should move on?. what he does is not ur biz. take care of ur own life. 4 years n he doesnt make a comitment n when u ask him to do so, he badly hurts u? that is not love. there's why I tell u: YOU take care of ur own life YOU move on. forget about him. make a deep analisys of ur self to know what opportunity areas u can develop to become a better person, work on them n go out to the world to get a great man! loosing him hurts? ofcourse it does, u r human. give u a time to live the pain, resolve it n start being happy again.
oh, btw, if I am wrong (not too probably but just to cover all possiblities) n he is really sorry n a great man n ur real love: with more reason u should do what I am telling u to do. re invent ur self, get out, attract the attention of other men: u'll drive him crazy, u'll have him beggin u to come back with u. n u know what? he will have to make many many things to deserve u again. is not being mean. is being intelligent. it will even be good for him. resolving his own issues, fighting for ';his lady';, getting to really appreciate u (changing the way he perceives u) will make him a real man n prepare him for a really commited, respect based relationship. oh...n if he doesnt show up again? great! u'll know then with no doudt that he didnt deserve u. u'll find the ';right one'; and end of the story.
but start working on urself girl! u have many things to fix. dont waste any minute!Is love means forgive and forget? 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
Forgive him for your sake, you may even want to forget it. Do it if you can, but don't get back with him. Like the 1st respondent said ';Love does not hurt'; and its not suppose to be terribly complicated. So if your experience with this man has been both hurtful and complicated then his love for you isn't good enough. Move on and find someone who can love you for real.
Love my dear, should not hurt. Nor should it be difficult.
Forgive him, because carrying this baggage can hurt you. Forget him and find someone that supports you and care about your feelings. Forgive and Forget
I dont understand why he would get mad at you and say he would get the law involved. That is the part that bothers me the most about this. I would talk to him more about this, but aman should not hurt you that much if he loves you.
Tell him to move on and you need to forget that love.
No, dear, love means sharing, truthfulness, caring. He made you feel like a creep. Apparently, the person he dumped you for in the first place has now dumped him. Tell him to take a long walk off a very short pier.
it sounds like that maybe you have been just worrying about yourself and you should try to worry about what he is thinking.
I think the two of you are hurting from the distance and giving an ultimatum while the two of you are going through such a rough patch is something that hurts and hinders the progress of the relationship. Love is all about forgiving and compromising. What he did was out of response to you because he felt so hurt and betrayed that you are forcing his hand at the moment. If you two love each other, no matter how far you two are apart, you will find a way to make the love work. I believe you should do what is in your heart and whether or not you want the relationship continue. That is for you to decide and noone else.
You probibly hurt him when you forced him into a desision to move to where you live, or else. What he did was most likely in response to that.
Maybe you should both forgive each other leave off trying to force the other to do something their not sure they want to do and try and be friends again and see what happens
love is very complicated. There is always your goods and your bads. love hurts. you can forgive but you will never forget. You should give it another try. But dont put your hopes and efforts so high.
When you feel that strongly for someone it can make you do crazy things. I was so in love with someone once that i started hating them for it and treating them really badly cos id never felt like that and i didnt know what to do about it
i think youve just got to trust your insticts.
Id like to think if you still care about someone that much and they do to that should be enough. cos it doesnt happen too often.
work out whats best for you
would getting hurt again outway the great times you could have with him until that point came, (if it ever did)?
He said that to you out of anger. If you love him, want to be with him and he wants to move to be with you forgive and forget.
If he has proven to you that he knows he has something good with you, then by all means open your arm to him while still keeping your ground. If not, let him go. Love mean that you should have the ability to forgive, but dont be stupid now. Nothing is worth your happiness. Love hurts, and it is difficult. If anyone tells you other wise then they know only the fantasy of love, not the reality.
1 more chance wont hurt but dont get soo into the relationship so if he messes up again it would be easy to let him go.
Look I went through something similar to this. If she would just open up and say it was a mistake I would completely forget what happened.
That is the hardest part of a relationship. Learning to forgive and forget. If you can't then move on.
I was so frustrated with the relationship. I forced him to make a decision--I kind of ask him to move to where I live. I am not sure whether I did hurt his big ego somehow.
But he responded me with..
He does not want to have a relationship with me. He wants me to leave him alone with no any types of contacts. He even said, he will get a law enforcement involved.
To be honest, it was the most hurtful things that someone (I love or know) say to me. I cried many times when think about it.
He is now regretting and asking for forgiveness.
Is love mean forgive and forget? Or Should I tell him to move on?
Thank you.Is love means forgive and forget? 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
sorry to hear that. why r u interested in knowing if he should move on?. what he does is not ur biz. take care of ur own life. 4 years n he doesnt make a comitment n when u ask him to do so, he badly hurts u? that is not love. there's why I tell u: YOU take care of ur own life YOU move on. forget about him. make a deep analisys of ur self to know what opportunity areas u can develop to become a better person, work on them n go out to the world to get a great man! loosing him hurts? ofcourse it does, u r human. give u a time to live the pain, resolve it n start being happy again.
oh, btw, if I am wrong (not too probably but just to cover all possiblities) n he is really sorry n a great man n ur real love: with more reason u should do what I am telling u to do. re invent ur self, get out, attract the attention of other men: u'll drive him crazy, u'll have him beggin u to come back with u. n u know what? he will have to make many many things to deserve u again. is not being mean. is being intelligent. it will even be good for him. resolving his own issues, fighting for ';his lady';, getting to really appreciate u (changing the way he perceives u) will make him a real man n prepare him for a really commited, respect based relationship. oh...n if he doesnt show up again? great! u'll know then with no doudt that he didnt deserve u. u'll find the ';right one'; and end of the story.
but start working on urself girl! u have many things to fix. dont waste any minute!Is love means forgive and forget? 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
Forgive him for your sake, you may even want to forget it. Do it if you can, but don't get back with him. Like the 1st respondent said ';Love does not hurt'; and its not suppose to be terribly complicated. So if your experience with this man has been both hurtful and complicated then his love for you isn't good enough. Move on and find someone who can love you for real.
Love my dear, should not hurt. Nor should it be difficult.
Forgive him, because carrying this baggage can hurt you. Forget him and find someone that supports you and care about your feelings. Forgive and Forget
I dont understand why he would get mad at you and say he would get the law involved. That is the part that bothers me the most about this. I would talk to him more about this, but aman should not hurt you that much if he loves you.
Tell him to move on and you need to forget that love.
No, dear, love means sharing, truthfulness, caring. He made you feel like a creep. Apparently, the person he dumped you for in the first place has now dumped him. Tell him to take a long walk off a very short pier.
it sounds like that maybe you have been just worrying about yourself and you should try to worry about what he is thinking.
I think the two of you are hurting from the distance and giving an ultimatum while the two of you are going through such a rough patch is something that hurts and hinders the progress of the relationship. Love is all about forgiving and compromising. What he did was out of response to you because he felt so hurt and betrayed that you are forcing his hand at the moment. If you two love each other, no matter how far you two are apart, you will find a way to make the love work. I believe you should do what is in your heart and whether or not you want the relationship continue. That is for you to decide and noone else.
You probibly hurt him when you forced him into a desision to move to where you live, or else. What he did was most likely in response to that.
Maybe you should both forgive each other leave off trying to force the other to do something their not sure they want to do and try and be friends again and see what happens
love is very complicated. There is always your goods and your bads. love hurts. you can forgive but you will never forget. You should give it another try. But dont put your hopes and efforts so high.
When you feel that strongly for someone it can make you do crazy things. I was so in love with someone once that i started hating them for it and treating them really badly cos id never felt like that and i didnt know what to do about it
i think youve just got to trust your insticts.
Id like to think if you still care about someone that much and they do to that should be enough. cos it doesnt happen too often.
work out whats best for you
would getting hurt again outway the great times you could have with him until that point came, (if it ever did)?
He said that to you out of anger. If you love him, want to be with him and he wants to move to be with you forgive and forget.
If he has proven to you that he knows he has something good with you, then by all means open your arm to him while still keeping your ground. If not, let him go. Love mean that you should have the ability to forgive, but dont be stupid now. Nothing is worth your happiness. Love hurts, and it is difficult. If anyone tells you other wise then they know only the fantasy of love, not the reality.
1 more chance wont hurt but dont get soo into the relationship so if he messes up again it would be easy to let him go.
Look I went through something similar to this. If she would just open up and say it was a mistake I would completely forget what happened.
That is the hardest part of a relationship. Learning to forgive and forget. If you can't then move on.
Quick ten points for whoever can provide me with the best advice.....?
There's this boy well man. I have been having feelings for him since I was 15. I've been knowing him since I was six. Now im 19 we talk on the phone and hang out. He knows that I like him but he doesn't know how strong my feelings are towards him. He's mentioned that he likes me alot and left it at dat. We are both shy around each other when it comes to talking about feelings but we can talk about any and everything. So happens yesterday I was tipsy and I spilled everything telling him how I really about him, he said he feels the same way and left it at that. I feel like I'm wasting my time worrying about him. Should I just leave it be and go my way or what I'm so confused????Quick ten points for whoever can provide me with the best advice.....?
You both have feelings for each other, thats pretty obvious, so why would you let it stay at just that? Ask him out, make sure he knows its a date, maybe hes just to shy about the situation, but one of you is going to have to make the first move, but it sounds like you both just waiting for the other.
Make something happen if you want something to happen.
Good luckQuick ten points for whoever can provide me with the best advice.....?
I think you shouldn't try to pursue anything. Why would you want to be with a ';Man'; that doesn't know how to express how he feels and what he thinks? It's not like you just meet the man, you been knowing him since you were a girl.If he can't be straight with you when it comes to important stuff like that then you don't need him.
If you both know you like eachother, but are too shy to do anything about it, you can do 1 of 2 things,
a) YOU can go for it, mention it again and see what comes out of it. Still nothing? Who knows. But sometimes guys like you to make the first move.
b) DO NOTHING. Wait for him to bring it back up or mention it.
WHAT?? You both confessed you have strong feelings for each other and you want to give it all up?? You must be mad, next time you see him you have to ask him out, or when he's talking, kiss him. Good luck!!!
ask him if you can go farther with your relationship if you really like him
You both have feelings for each other, thats pretty obvious, so why would you let it stay at just that? Ask him out, make sure he knows its a date, maybe hes just to shy about the situation, but one of you is going to have to make the first move, but it sounds like you both just waiting for the other.
Make something happen if you want something to happen.
Good luckQuick ten points for whoever can provide me with the best advice.....?
I think you shouldn't try to pursue anything. Why would you want to be with a ';Man'; that doesn't know how to express how he feels and what he thinks? It's not like you just meet the man, you been knowing him since you were a girl.If he can't be straight with you when it comes to important stuff like that then you don't need him.
If you both know you like eachother, but are too shy to do anything about it, you can do 1 of 2 things,
a) YOU can go for it, mention it again and see what comes out of it. Still nothing? Who knows. But sometimes guys like you to make the first move.
b) DO NOTHING. Wait for him to bring it back up or mention it.
WHAT?? You both confessed you have strong feelings for each other and you want to give it all up?? You must be mad, next time you see him you have to ask him out, or when he's talking, kiss him. Good luck!!!
ask him if you can go farther with your relationship if you really like him
What do you think of this? 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
I discussed about love life with my host mom. She is 54 years old. She have had many relationships. She has more than 30 boyfriends. However, they relationships never last longer than 4 years. She love to read romance books---I knew deep down she is longing for the ';soulmate'; or '; true love';. Althought, she did not admit.
I told her --she jumps in and out off the relationship too quickly. She does not know how to really love, care, communicate, and compromine with her partners.
She did not respond me.
I am just wondering. From this information. Do you think I am right about this? Please advice. Thank you
I am 22 years old. Of course I want to learn from her mistake.What do you think of this? 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
I believe you are correct. I've been thought the same thing. Any relationship depend on communication and compromise to make it work. Once the relationship have a bad communication or someone in the relationship stop compromising then the relationship goes bad. It is hard to find someone your age this smart.What do you think of this? 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
It seems to me that you already have learned from her mistakes.
You are very wise for 22. Yes, I believe you are very right about all of it. Use that to learn from - yourself! You are right on with your thinking! Good girl!
yea you are right, that's why she didn't respond, the truth hurts sometimes. 30 boyfriends at age 54, geez that 2 a year every year.
I would say that the romance novels feed her imagination and libido. After someone has been together for a few years (sometimes quicker) the powerful lust and newness in the relationship wears off and familiarity steps in. This can be a turn-off. She likes the swooning of seduction but becomes bored when the sex becomes routine and the prince charming becomes a fat, farting, bore... this is her preference ostensibly to not settle for anything less than her fantasy ';Lover'; and it's tragic because he is a fantasy and she may live alone unless she learns how to love someone. This could be that she doesn't yet know what she needs in a man and that the bodis-ripper books have flooded her thoughts with inferences that are not hers at all. I think you are right most of all. The problem is fantasy interfering with reality kind if like a really fat guy believing that he will marry a supermodel... not very plausible. Now you on the other hand should be just fine. Wait before you chose, wait alone, untill you find the right one, don't just chase them because you're scared to be alone. I will end on this, she is probably scared to be alone, not patient enough to wait and ';settles'; for someone who promises a way out of loneliness. I hope this hits the spot. I agree with you but the truth hurts. Best wishes in your life!
What I have learned so far is that some people treat love like a noun instead of a verb.
People think of love as something that just sort of happens to them. A feeling they get. A wave of emotion that comes over them like some silly song. And they wait for their ';true love';, their ';soulmate';. That one person who was created just for them by some higher being in the universe. They are controlled by their emotions, and once that feeling is gone they assume ';Oh, he is not the one';.
I personally think there is something more to love than that. Loving someone is something you have to DO, not something that just happens. You choose to love someone. There are good days, and there are bad days, but every day you can wake up and you can make that choice. The choice to love your partner. One day maybe they leave the toilet seat up, or say something insensitive... and some days the choice to love them is harder than other days...
I personally think that the secret to making relationships work is making that choice, day in, day out, and realising that everything in life is choice... it might take some of the magic and romance out of the whole thing... but it has worked for me so far.
To start I would not get advice for a person like that. she is living in a fansaty world. she has ideas of what relationships should be, and it ends b/c it does not meet her needs.
So yes you are right. do not do what she does. but keep in mind, you have a lot of trial and error to learn yourself.
love needs to sucrvise,you should give without excpecting to take ,if each of us does that the life will be better
You know her better than we do, but even with 11 more years of life than you, I'm still figuring this thing out. She may very well be holding out for a man who does not exist, but she has to come to that on her own. Only she will know when she's ready to commit. There's not right or wrong here, but people have to come to honesty in their own hearts for themselves.
your right mostly of course she can be having those tat seem sincere at first then trouble wen they meet been there !!!
Potentially I think you are right, I also think that she may be idealizing those romance novels, not many of them will reflect the mistakes that guys will make, doesn't mean that they aren't your soul mate or true love. My Grandparents have been married for 56 years, and I know my grandpa makes tons of mistakes, after all he is a big kid!! The important thing to do you already know about, watch other relationships find out what works and what doesn't and form your own plan. As for your host mom there isn't much you can do people can only hope to change themselves not others.
I bet you envy your host mom. 30 lovers! wow i bet you sit and listen to her all night about all her lovers.
It appears to me that you know more about life then you host mother and well she was surprised and well knew you spoke the truth when you said what you said. Someone that runs around with so many different men doesn't allow herself to get attached to one person and to fall in love and find commitment, or tofind compromise and devotion from one person.
She wants to find this special person but she just has a phobia of commitment or the whole love tackle she has been hurt in her past and finds it hard to trust another man.
I think you need to tell her that you want her to happy and what she is doing right now is just filling a void in her life but isn't bringing her the happiness she desires.
Tell her she need to weed through the guys and find the guy that makes her the happiest and work on making something more of it. Until she does this her life will be empty and well lonely tell her it is time to trust again and find someone to love for the rest of her life.
You sound right on the mark. We can't just get into relationships with people because they are nice. I think the fact that she reads romance novels all the time is a huge indication that she is a romantic at heart. However they could be sabbatoging her way of viewing real life. The way they write those books are very captivating but often not realistic. Unfortunately, we don't live in a fairy tale world. I believe she is desperately looking for Mr. Right but instead she is selling herself short and settling for Mr. Right now. Learn from her mistakes. Don't let anyone tell you that you have to find out for yourself. Don't miss your prince while you are so busy kissing all of these temporary frogs.
As an older woman who has had a lot of relationships, what you say may be right, or she may just be choosing the wrong men! She reads Romance novels, but they don't offer a realistic view of men. Neither do any of the Hollywood movies. It takes some really honest soul searching to find out who you are. Then you have to decide what you will and will not compromise on. That is when you start to learn what you are really made of, and only then should you embark on a relationship quest.
It is wise also to test a man while dating, to see if he has the emotional mettle to work at a relationship or has personality quirks that aren't compatible. I can't stand jealousy, so I set up an innocent situation to see where he stands on that issue. It's a pass/fail test. No looking back. Think back to situations where you were forced to do things or accept things you did not ever feel good about. Those are the red flags I am talking about. You don't compromise on those issues. See if the future Mr. is able to avoid your red flags.
The best books I've ever read on the subject were ';Mars and Venus On A Date'; by John Gray. I reread it twice to make sure it sunk in. We women see the world entirely differently from men. They are much more pragmatic about life, and if she has been reading Romance novels, I can guarantee she is seeing the world through rose colored glasses. Dr. Phil has some great advice on relationships in his books, too.
Life was very different when she was growing up. Women did not have the opportunities they do now. A woman was supposed to live through her man and her family, not have a thought of her own. Any woman who did was considered a ball breaker, and completely un-feminine, and other women and men would shun her for it. It is still that way in many Eastern cultures. So don't be too hard on her.
each case is different. No one should tolerate abuse, that needs to be said 1st.
Generally, however, I think you're right. It takes a lot of hard work to make a relationship work. If one is not willing, it cannot work. I do wish more women thought like you do, instead of dmanding we guys be perfect (and psychic).
Nah she is just and old ho, she gets what she wants and gets on her way. dont run your life the way she does, find something you like about people before you date them.
You may or may not be right about your host mom. There are a lot of reasons why someone would have so many partners, and not all of them hinge on being unable to communicate and compromise with your partner. Many women simply have bad taste in men, or will attach themselves to any man for validation, which can lead to abuse.
My advice to you would be to do what you think is right in a relationship. If your instinct is to leave, for any reason, go with that. Do what is best for you, and remember that your personal well-being is more important than any relationship. If it is a truly healthy and positive relationship, you won't have conflicting feelings about it.
Hi Cutie Pie: I used to wonder why, eastern culture was so set on the value of the journey and not the destination. The thing I learned was, on the way is where the adventure happens. But in order to stay on track, you have to have a set of standards. These guidelines will keep the bad mistakes to a minimum. When you make a mistake, that could possibly be the changing point of your entire life. Eg.. Getting pregnant when your young. I think you are right. Too many, '; in and out,'; relationships, are not good for the soul. If you keep doing the same thing all the time and wonder why your life is in turmoil, you think it would be time to change your guidelines?
RIGHT OR WRONG! Your opinion of her love life is just that,
based on your values. Is it not presumptious to say that longevety does not necessarily garantee a love well done, does it? Nothing holy has ever been achieved through denial. Each to his own. You have nothing shameful, least of all your body. True your idea of love differs but what is wrong, a women who loves variety or is a martyr who stands is a 20year relationship of doing right. Or a priest who hides behind his robe, declaing his holiness, while wanting little boys. If your host mom declares her truth, let it be. RIGHT OR WRONG! You want to be wright!
you'll be the same.
genes never lie.
I told her --she jumps in and out off the relationship too quickly. She does not know how to really love, care, communicate, and compromine with her partners.
She did not respond me.
I am just wondering. From this information. Do you think I am right about this? Please advice. Thank you
I am 22 years old. Of course I want to learn from her mistake.What do you think of this? 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
I believe you are correct. I've been thought the same thing. Any relationship depend on communication and compromise to make it work. Once the relationship have a bad communication or someone in the relationship stop compromising then the relationship goes bad. It is hard to find someone your age this smart.What do you think of this? 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
It seems to me that you already have learned from her mistakes.
You are very wise for 22. Yes, I believe you are very right about all of it. Use that to learn from - yourself! You are right on with your thinking! Good girl!
yea you are right, that's why she didn't respond, the truth hurts sometimes. 30 boyfriends at age 54, geez that 2 a year every year.
I would say that the romance novels feed her imagination and libido. After someone has been together for a few years (sometimes quicker) the powerful lust and newness in the relationship wears off and familiarity steps in. This can be a turn-off. She likes the swooning of seduction but becomes bored when the sex becomes routine and the prince charming becomes a fat, farting, bore... this is her preference ostensibly to not settle for anything less than her fantasy ';Lover'; and it's tragic because he is a fantasy and she may live alone unless she learns how to love someone. This could be that she doesn't yet know what she needs in a man and that the bodis-ripper books have flooded her thoughts with inferences that are not hers at all. I think you are right most of all. The problem is fantasy interfering with reality kind if like a really fat guy believing that he will marry a supermodel... not very plausible. Now you on the other hand should be just fine. Wait before you chose, wait alone, untill you find the right one, don't just chase them because you're scared to be alone. I will end on this, she is probably scared to be alone, not patient enough to wait and ';settles'; for someone who promises a way out of loneliness. I hope this hits the spot. I agree with you but the truth hurts. Best wishes in your life!
What I have learned so far is that some people treat love like a noun instead of a verb.
People think of love as something that just sort of happens to them. A feeling they get. A wave of emotion that comes over them like some silly song. And they wait for their ';true love';, their ';soulmate';. That one person who was created just for them by some higher being in the universe. They are controlled by their emotions, and once that feeling is gone they assume ';Oh, he is not the one';.
I personally think there is something more to love than that. Loving someone is something you have to DO, not something that just happens. You choose to love someone. There are good days, and there are bad days, but every day you can wake up and you can make that choice. The choice to love your partner. One day maybe they leave the toilet seat up, or say something insensitive... and some days the choice to love them is harder than other days...
I personally think that the secret to making relationships work is making that choice, day in, day out, and realising that everything in life is choice... it might take some of the magic and romance out of the whole thing... but it has worked for me so far.
To start I would not get advice for a person like that. she is living in a fansaty world. she has ideas of what relationships should be, and it ends b/c it does not meet her needs.
So yes you are right. do not do what she does. but keep in mind, you have a lot of trial and error to learn yourself.
love needs to sucrvise,you should give without excpecting to take ,if each of us does that the life will be better
You know her better than we do, but even with 11 more years of life than you, I'm still figuring this thing out. She may very well be holding out for a man who does not exist, but she has to come to that on her own. Only she will know when she's ready to commit. There's not right or wrong here, but people have to come to honesty in their own hearts for themselves.
your right mostly of course she can be having those tat seem sincere at first then trouble wen they meet been there !!!
Potentially I think you are right, I also think that she may be idealizing those romance novels, not many of them will reflect the mistakes that guys will make, doesn't mean that they aren't your soul mate or true love. My Grandparents have been married for 56 years, and I know my grandpa makes tons of mistakes, after all he is a big kid!! The important thing to do you already know about, watch other relationships find out what works and what doesn't and form your own plan. As for your host mom there isn't much you can do people can only hope to change themselves not others.
I bet you envy your host mom. 30 lovers! wow i bet you sit and listen to her all night about all her lovers.
It appears to me that you know more about life then you host mother and well she was surprised and well knew you spoke the truth when you said what you said. Someone that runs around with so many different men doesn't allow herself to get attached to one person and to fall in love and find commitment, or tofind compromise and devotion from one person.
She wants to find this special person but she just has a phobia of commitment or the whole love tackle she has been hurt in her past and finds it hard to trust another man.
I think you need to tell her that you want her to happy and what she is doing right now is just filling a void in her life but isn't bringing her the happiness she desires.
Tell her she need to weed through the guys and find the guy that makes her the happiest and work on making something more of it. Until she does this her life will be empty and well lonely tell her it is time to trust again and find someone to love for the rest of her life.
You sound right on the mark. We can't just get into relationships with people because they are nice. I think the fact that she reads romance novels all the time is a huge indication that she is a romantic at heart. However they could be sabbatoging her way of viewing real life. The way they write those books are very captivating but often not realistic. Unfortunately, we don't live in a fairy tale world. I believe she is desperately looking for Mr. Right but instead she is selling herself short and settling for Mr. Right now. Learn from her mistakes. Don't let anyone tell you that you have to find out for yourself. Don't miss your prince while you are so busy kissing all of these temporary frogs.
As an older woman who has had a lot of relationships, what you say may be right, or she may just be choosing the wrong men! She reads Romance novels, but they don't offer a realistic view of men. Neither do any of the Hollywood movies. It takes some really honest soul searching to find out who you are. Then you have to decide what you will and will not compromise on. That is when you start to learn what you are really made of, and only then should you embark on a relationship quest.
It is wise also to test a man while dating, to see if he has the emotional mettle to work at a relationship or has personality quirks that aren't compatible. I can't stand jealousy, so I set up an innocent situation to see where he stands on that issue. It's a pass/fail test. No looking back. Think back to situations where you were forced to do things or accept things you did not ever feel good about. Those are the red flags I am talking about. You don't compromise on those issues. See if the future Mr. is able to avoid your red flags.
The best books I've ever read on the subject were ';Mars and Venus On A Date'; by John Gray. I reread it twice to make sure it sunk in. We women see the world entirely differently from men. They are much more pragmatic about life, and if she has been reading Romance novels, I can guarantee she is seeing the world through rose colored glasses. Dr. Phil has some great advice on relationships in his books, too.
Life was very different when she was growing up. Women did not have the opportunities they do now. A woman was supposed to live through her man and her family, not have a thought of her own. Any woman who did was considered a ball breaker, and completely un-feminine, and other women and men would shun her for it. It is still that way in many Eastern cultures. So don't be too hard on her.
each case is different. No one should tolerate abuse, that needs to be said 1st.
Generally, however, I think you're right. It takes a lot of hard work to make a relationship work. If one is not willing, it cannot work. I do wish more women thought like you do, instead of dmanding we guys be perfect (and psychic).
Nah she is just and old ho, she gets what she wants and gets on her way. dont run your life the way she does, find something you like about people before you date them.
You may or may not be right about your host mom. There are a lot of reasons why someone would have so many partners, and not all of them hinge on being unable to communicate and compromise with your partner. Many women simply have bad taste in men, or will attach themselves to any man for validation, which can lead to abuse.
My advice to you would be to do what you think is right in a relationship. If your instinct is to leave, for any reason, go with that. Do what is best for you, and remember that your personal well-being is more important than any relationship. If it is a truly healthy and positive relationship, you won't have conflicting feelings about it.
Hi Cutie Pie: I used to wonder why, eastern culture was so set on the value of the journey and not the destination. The thing I learned was, on the way is where the adventure happens. But in order to stay on track, you have to have a set of standards. These guidelines will keep the bad mistakes to a minimum. When you make a mistake, that could possibly be the changing point of your entire life. Eg.. Getting pregnant when your young. I think you are right. Too many, '; in and out,'; relationships, are not good for the soul. If you keep doing the same thing all the time and wonder why your life is in turmoil, you think it would be time to change your guidelines?
RIGHT OR WRONG! Your opinion of her love life is just that,
based on your values. Is it not presumptious to say that longevety does not necessarily garantee a love well done, does it? Nothing holy has ever been achieved through denial. Each to his own. You have nothing shameful, least of all your body. True your idea of love differs but what is wrong, a women who loves variety or is a martyr who stands is a 20year relationship of doing right. Or a priest who hides behind his robe, declaing his holiness, while wanting little boys. If your host mom declares her truth, let it be. RIGHT OR WRONG! You want to be wright!
you'll be the same.
genes never lie.
How to gain my confidence back? 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
This is based in the true story.
When I was in college 18-20 years old. There are so many college guys want to my boyfriend. At the time, I dressed up nice and cute. I looked fresh and put together.
I graduated from college at age 20. I got a full-time job 3 days after graduated. I go to grad school right after finish my undergraduate. Life have been very busy. I have less time to take care of myself. I don't wear make up. I have to dress up professionally and conservatively for my job.
I am only 22. Most of my peers ad co-workers are in their late 20and 30. I want to be youngful. I want some attention from the guys like I used to when I was in college.
Thank youHow to gain my confidence back? 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
Clothes and makeup only can take you so far. First you have to have be confidence in yourself. One can look attractive with little or no makeup. As far as clothing goes, you just have to pick a stye that goes with your personality. A confidence person will attract attention from everyone especially guy.How to gain my confidence back? 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
Pick out your clothes the night before work.
Go to bed an hour earlier.
Get up an hour earlier and immediately go to exercise! (aerobics, walk, jog..whatever)
Hop in the shower.
Give yourself enough time to put on some make-up, blow dry your hair, pluck the eyebrows..whatever your beauty routine is.
When you get paid..set aside some money to be used at a salon or to buy yourself a fabulous outfit.
Go get your hair done and your manicure/pedicure and make the appointment in 4-6 weeks for your follow up!
Do something you really enjoy doing...read, movies, volunteer, go out with friends....
In no time you will be you again!
ok get sexy and conservative watch what not to wear they got great tips and in cosmo they have five min makeup tips girl get it back and you can ok get it and always shoulders back and breast out ok get it gurl
Invest time in yourself. Manicure your nails, style your hair and put your make up on each day...find something cute to wear, even if it's casual stuff...what ever makes you feel cute. do it.
~Go to a fabulous salon and treat yourself to an all day makeover! When you leave go shopping and buy some of the products you need for your new look. When you leave the salon you will feel so beautiful that you will not want to let the look disappear again.
You need to schedule in some time for yourself. Even that will make you feel a bit better. But life does tend to get serious, and work is not a place to be attention seeking. So, grab some me time, and get involved wih your hobbies and have fun after work!
When I was in college 18-20 years old. There are so many college guys want to my boyfriend. At the time, I dressed up nice and cute. I looked fresh and put together.
I graduated from college at age 20. I got a full-time job 3 days after graduated. I go to grad school right after finish my undergraduate. Life have been very busy. I have less time to take care of myself. I don't wear make up. I have to dress up professionally and conservatively for my job.
I am only 22. Most of my peers ad co-workers are in their late 20and 30. I want to be youngful. I want some attention from the guys like I used to when I was in college.
Thank youHow to gain my confidence back? 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
Clothes and makeup only can take you so far. First you have to have be confidence in yourself. One can look attractive with little or no makeup. As far as clothing goes, you just have to pick a stye that goes with your personality. A confidence person will attract attention from everyone especially guy.How to gain my confidence back? 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
Pick out your clothes the night before work.
Go to bed an hour earlier.
Get up an hour earlier and immediately go to exercise! (aerobics, walk, jog..whatever)
Hop in the shower.
Give yourself enough time to put on some make-up, blow dry your hair, pluck the eyebrows..whatever your beauty routine is.
When you get paid..set aside some money to be used at a salon or to buy yourself a fabulous outfit.
Go get your hair done and your manicure/pedicure and make the appointment in 4-6 weeks for your follow up!
Do something you really enjoy doing...read, movies, volunteer, go out with friends....
In no time you will be you again!
ok get sexy and conservative watch what not to wear they got great tips and in cosmo they have five min makeup tips girl get it back and you can ok get it and always shoulders back and breast out ok get it gurl
Invest time in yourself. Manicure your nails, style your hair and put your make up on each day...find something cute to wear, even if it's casual stuff...what ever makes you feel cute. do it.
~Go to a fabulous salon and treat yourself to an all day makeover! When you leave go shopping and buy some of the products you need for your new look. When you leave the salon you will feel so beautiful that you will not want to let the look disappear again.
You need to schedule in some time for yourself. Even that will make you feel a bit better. But life does tend to get serious, and work is not a place to be attention seeking. So, grab some me time, and get involved wih your hobbies and have fun after work!
Guys: DO U THINK THIS IS NORMAL?10 POINTS FOR BEST ADVICE!THANKS!!!?
I went out with this guy for our first date on Tuesday. he hasn't called until now. do u guys prefer to wait a few days like 3 days before u call the girl?
I need your honest opinions. Thanks.
I think the date went pretty well.He asked me out 3 days after he got my number. Does he probably follow the 3 days rule?
I know I posted this before but I need more answers. Thank uGuys: DO U THINK THIS IS NORMAL?10 POINTS FOR BEST ADVICE!THANKS!!!?
the hell with the 3 day rule if u like someone do your best to let them knowGuys: DO U THINK THIS IS NORMAL?10 POINTS FOR BEST ADVICE!THANKS!!!?
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I need your honest opinions. Thanks.
I think the date went pretty well.He asked me out 3 days after he got my number. Does he probably follow the 3 days rule?
I know I posted this before but I need more answers. Thank uGuys: DO U THINK THIS IS NORMAL?10 POINTS FOR BEST ADVICE!THANKS!!!?
the hell with the 3 day rule if u like someone do your best to let them knowGuys: DO U THINK THIS IS NORMAL?10 POINTS FOR BEST ADVICE!THANKS!!!?
yes fricking stupid ';rules'; --- i call as soon as possible then she knows i care and am interested --- all ';rules'; do is create confusion and uncertainty ---- best wishes
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