I went to an interview a few days ago. They panels were very cold-They did not smile and no sense of humor. Most of the panels have Ph.D and asked me so many analytical questions.
I am only 22 years old plus English is my second language. I was glad that I did not cry during an interview. I was very embarassed and felt like a dummy because I spoke broken English --did not answer questions clearly and correctly.
Anyway, I gave the panels all my resume. We went over my resume. I also provided them a portfolio, but we did not talk about my portfolio at all. At the end of the interview, I said, you can have my portfolio. They said, okay.
I went to other office and the secretary gave me her bussiness cards. The panels said, I can contact her anytime if I have questions. They also said, the closing date for this job is today.
I said, good bye to all the panels.
I went outsides. I got lose and saw the panels again. They still talked about my qualification. What do you think?Job Interview panels. 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
Hope did you learn why they asked those questions. What were they looking to find out about you.
Forget the feelings of rejection or it will ruin your life. Get above that and find out why????????????????????????????????????Job Interview panels. 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
If it is meant to be it will work out. Make sure you send all of them hand written thank you notes as a follow up.
Wednesday, July 28, 2010
Pressure in life? 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
Are they differences between being 22 and being 27?
I am under so much pressure to be succeed. I am tired and burnt out. All my class mates and co-workers are a few years older than me. I am 22 years old. My friends are about 26-29 years old.
Even though we work or take classes together. Of course, they are difference between us. I am always depressed to see some friends have stable jobs, relationships, and family. On the other hand, I am still struggling and trying to build my status.
Please advice. Thank you.Pressure in life? 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
you are measuring yourself against those who have already been there done that, and of course that is not fair to you. Why would you run such a ';head trip'; on yourself? There is a huge difference between where you are and where they are, and you know it.... stop the unrealistic comparisons and you will find yourself to be much happier. You have to decide for yourself what success is, you need to stop living by other people's yard sticks and devise your own measure for what is success. You would do well to develop friendships with those that have not gotten to where you are, younger people that could use a mentor, this helps them and reinforces all you have accomplished to this point, rather than focusing on those who are ahead of you in life. Truly, it isn't a race.Pressure in life? 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
Yes as a matter of fact there is. Scientific studies show that the adolecent mid matures commonly between 18-21 but this isnt always so. Also the human mind is at its all time high 25-30 so those colleages of yours are on the top of their game. Now either your brain hasnt fully developed or your just now getting ready to hit your peak! so nows definately not the time to be burnt out. Set the stage for something great. Because its on its way to you...
take care
My advice is to stop comparing yourself to your friends and just focus on your classes and your career. The are older than you and likely when they were your age they were still struggling and climbing the corporate ladder as well.
My sister just went to collage and she is only 16 when everyone else is 18 and up and she is way stressed out but i know that she can make it through. I don't think it really matters what age you are i think what reallly matters is your mentality, how old you act, and how well you can take things on. My sister doesn't act 16 she acts 19 so i think that going to collage is good for her, but if it were a person that acted like a normal sixteen year old i would think that it isn't such a good idea. I think that the more mature you are or act, the better you can take on a harder situation. So you know what it doesn't matter what all of them are doing just focus on you and get your work done. The more you focus on your work or school the better you'll do.As long as you keep an eye on every one else you will constantly be distracted and may not preform as well. Hope i helped.
Pressure is caused by trying to do something for money that you really don't like to do. There are two ways to suceed in life.
1.Competitive.... anything-for-a-buck mentality
2. Creative... find what you like to do and do it well.
I think you are experiencing JEALOUSY....I'm the same way. You just have to learn to accept the fact that your life is fine and that you are happy. Sure you'd like to have more, but who doesn't want more. Be content with what you have and with life.
There is no need to be depressed the only reason why you're friends have a stable job is that they probably have been at their job longer and that their family life is going good because they have more knowledge since they are older
Your life will get allot easier as you get older so just try you're best to stay happy and feel great about your life.
You need to back off and give yourself some breathing space. You will still succeed, but if you take it a little easier on yourself, maybe you will live to enjoy it. Life is not a competition with others. It's about being you and doing what makes you happy and being able to enjoy life. Maybe you won't get your stable job just yet or have a relationship til later. So what????? You are gonna be really miserable if you try to keep up with every one else. And no body will like you any less if you do things in your own time. Life is short my friend, take your time to enjoy it.
We all go thru trying times....you are definitely going thru one right now. Hang in there.
22 years old.... changing into a full blown adult. Very difficult. Not being a kid anymore and stepping up to adulthood isn't fun.
You'll do well. Stay in school and work hard. You are to be commended and respected. That is quite an accomplishment.
You are 22 years old and I don't know why you need to do so much so soon. Don't put too much on your plate or you will end up being unhappy but perhaps successful person. Take your time and work on one step at a time. Everything does not need to be accomplished at once. Stop and smell the roses and enjoy everyday.
I am under so much pressure to be succeed. I am tired and burnt out. All my class mates and co-workers are a few years older than me. I am 22 years old. My friends are about 26-29 years old.
Even though we work or take classes together. Of course, they are difference between us. I am always depressed to see some friends have stable jobs, relationships, and family. On the other hand, I am still struggling and trying to build my status.
Please advice. Thank you.Pressure in life? 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
you are measuring yourself against those who have already been there done that, and of course that is not fair to you. Why would you run such a ';head trip'; on yourself? There is a huge difference between where you are and where they are, and you know it.... stop the unrealistic comparisons and you will find yourself to be much happier. You have to decide for yourself what success is, you need to stop living by other people's yard sticks and devise your own measure for what is success. You would do well to develop friendships with those that have not gotten to where you are, younger people that could use a mentor, this helps them and reinforces all you have accomplished to this point, rather than focusing on those who are ahead of you in life. Truly, it isn't a race.Pressure in life? 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
Yes as a matter of fact there is. Scientific studies show that the adolecent mid matures commonly between 18-21 but this isnt always so. Also the human mind is at its all time high 25-30 so those colleages of yours are on the top of their game. Now either your brain hasnt fully developed or your just now getting ready to hit your peak! so nows definately not the time to be burnt out. Set the stage for something great. Because its on its way to you...
take care
My advice is to stop comparing yourself to your friends and just focus on your classes and your career. The are older than you and likely when they were your age they were still struggling and climbing the corporate ladder as well.
My sister just went to collage and she is only 16 when everyone else is 18 and up and she is way stressed out but i know that she can make it through. I don't think it really matters what age you are i think what reallly matters is your mentality, how old you act, and how well you can take things on. My sister doesn't act 16 she acts 19 so i think that going to collage is good for her, but if it were a person that acted like a normal sixteen year old i would think that it isn't such a good idea. I think that the more mature you are or act, the better you can take on a harder situation. So you know what it doesn't matter what all of them are doing just focus on you and get your work done. The more you focus on your work or school the better you'll do.As long as you keep an eye on every one else you will constantly be distracted and may not preform as well. Hope i helped.
Pressure is caused by trying to do something for money that you really don't like to do. There are two ways to suceed in life.
1.Competitive.... anything-for-a-buck mentality
2. Creative... find what you like to do and do it well.
I think you are experiencing JEALOUSY....I'm the same way. You just have to learn to accept the fact that your life is fine and that you are happy. Sure you'd like to have more, but who doesn't want more. Be content with what you have and with life.
There is no need to be depressed the only reason why you're friends have a stable job is that they probably have been at their job longer and that their family life is going good because they have more knowledge since they are older
Your life will get allot easier as you get older so just try you're best to stay happy and feel great about your life.
You need to back off and give yourself some breathing space. You will still succeed, but if you take it a little easier on yourself, maybe you will live to enjoy it. Life is not a competition with others. It's about being you and doing what makes you happy and being able to enjoy life. Maybe you won't get your stable job just yet or have a relationship til later. So what????? You are gonna be really miserable if you try to keep up with every one else. And no body will like you any less if you do things in your own time. Life is short my friend, take your time to enjoy it.
We all go thru trying times....you are definitely going thru one right now. Hang in there.
22 years old.... changing into a full blown adult. Very difficult. Not being a kid anymore and stepping up to adulthood isn't fun.
You'll do well. Stay in school and work hard. You are to be commended and respected. That is quite an accomplishment.
You are 22 years old and I don't know why you need to do so much so soon. Don't put too much on your plate or you will end up being unhappy but perhaps successful person. Take your time and work on one step at a time. Everything does not need to be accomplished at once. Stop and smell the roses and enjoy everyday.
What to do in this situation? 10 points for best advice :)?
Ok so theres this girl that I like. At first she seemed to like me, and then we both began liking each other, and ended up dance partners in PE and stuff.. but we weren't together at all, just friends. I've been building up the courage to ask her out to movies or for lunch or something, and now she seems to be liking my friend more, and talks to him alot more now. What should I do? He likes her back and I'm a good friend and don't want to wreck it for him, in case he really likes her. Should I just ignore my feelings and get on with life, and if she doesn't end up with him keep trying? But it's hard to ignore, and that's the problem. What should I do?What to do in this situation? 10 points for best advice :)?
maybe shes talking to him about you...and its just your jealousy thats making you feel as if there is more going on, i still think you should let her know of your feelings though the poor girl hasnt got a crystal ball so how can she know if you dont tell her? good luckWhat to do in this situation? 10 points for best advice :)?
Just have a chat to your mate and tell him that you like her and that you don't want to step on his toes but your going to ask her out and see if anything comes of it. Then go and ask her out straight away!
you should have called dibs. Besides that if it is supposed to be it will happen. Have a little faith. you saw her first you should take a shot first.
Good luck
ask her out if you like her your Friend will understand especially if he knows you like her and were friends first otherwise you may miss out on the girl you obviously interested in otherwise just stay her friend...
Ask her out! YOu're not interfering with her and your friend. If she liked your friend, she'd reject you, so there's no way your interfering with them, if she likes you and you like her back !
ignore your feelings for now unless she like likes you back
and if things dont work out between them then make your move
tell your friend to read up on the man laws. if you liked her first he needs to back off.
you ended up in the friendzone, your friend will end up dating her.
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This is what happens when you wait too long and plan things.
Don't worry I made the same mistake before but now I usually try to hang out with a girl within 1 or 2 weeks of meeting her and finding mutual interest. And I'll ask her out within a month.
If she still talks with you, ask her to hang out sometime at school, just you two. Then after hanging out several times, ask her out to dinner or something.
Sure maybe your chances are lower now since she talks to your friend more, but heck, they're not dating so why not ask her to hang out some time.
maybe shes talking to him about you...and its just your jealousy thats making you feel as if there is more going on, i still think you should let her know of your feelings though the poor girl hasnt got a crystal ball so how can she know if you dont tell her? good luckWhat to do in this situation? 10 points for best advice :)?
Just have a chat to your mate and tell him that you like her and that you don't want to step on his toes but your going to ask her out and see if anything comes of it. Then go and ask her out straight away!
you should have called dibs. Besides that if it is supposed to be it will happen. Have a little faith. you saw her first you should take a shot first.
Good luck
ask her out if you like her your Friend will understand especially if he knows you like her and were friends first otherwise you may miss out on the girl you obviously interested in otherwise just stay her friend...
Ask her out! YOu're not interfering with her and your friend. If she liked your friend, she'd reject you, so there's no way your interfering with them, if she likes you and you like her back !
ignore your feelings for now unless she like likes you back
and if things dont work out between them then make your move
tell your friend to read up on the man laws. if you liked her first he needs to back off.
you ended up in the friendzone, your friend will end up dating her.
eat more winter has started
This is what happens when you wait too long and plan things.
Don't worry I made the same mistake before but now I usually try to hang out with a girl within 1 or 2 weeks of meeting her and finding mutual interest. And I'll ask her out within a month.
If she still talks with you, ask her to hang out sometime at school, just you two. Then after hanging out several times, ask her out to dinner or something.
Sure maybe your chances are lower now since she talks to your friend more, but heck, they're not dating so why not ask her to hang out some time.
Christians - what do I do now your best advice didn't work?
I really tried! I read the Bible cover to cover. I thought about it. I found it tiresome, out of date, and annoying.
I talked with my minister and Christian friends. they did their best - but they couldn't tell me anything I didn't already know. (they also displayed a shocking lack of science education.)
I went to church regularly. I sang, and knelt, and stood, and listened, and laughed, and fell asleep.
I prayed reeeeal hard. nothing happened.
God obviously either doesn't exist, or else He doesn't want me. what's an atheist to do?Christians - what do I do now your best advice didn't work?
I can't tell by the tone of your question if you are being sincere or if you are trying to say....';I did what the Christians say to and followed their example but it didn't work and now I have proof that what they say is not true. God doesn't really care.';
I wonder what your attitude was....did you want to prove a point...that God isn't who He says He is and who we Christians believe He is? Or were you really trying to find God?
God knows who is sincere and who isn't. If you did those things with your mind already made up then that's why none of those things had the result you were looking for.
As for reading the Bible..
But a natural man does not accept the things of the Spirit of God, for they are foolishness to him; and he cannot understand them, because they are spiritually appraised.
But he who is spiritual appraises all things, yet he himself is appraised by no one. 1 Cor 2:14%26amp;15
In other words, the non-Christian doesn't understand the scripture because they don't have God's Holy Spirit dwelling within them to help them to understand.
But the Helper, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in My name, He will teach you all things, and bring to your remembrance all that I said to you. John 14:26
God Himself told Jeremiah...
You will seek Me and find Me when you search for Me with all your heart. Jeremiah 29:11
Since you have a Bible I would recommend looking up
John 3:16; Romans 3:23; 6:23; 5:8 and 10:9 %26amp; 10.
Go to God in prayer truly seeking Him and He will answer you.
The Lord is not slow about His promise, as some count slowness, but is patient toward you, not wishing for any to perish but for all to come to repentance. 2 Peter 3:9Christians - what do I do now your best advice didn't work?
An Atheist doesn't believe a God exists. What do you expect? God is a Spiritual concept and belief is a basic requirement. Don't waste anymore of your valuable time .... until you can be more objective.
A true scientist approaches an experiment with an open mind. You have declared yourself an Atheist. So your ';experiment'; failed because your mind was already made up. The results were flawed by your own unbelief.
Face it; the reason why you choose to run from God is because you know that if you accept that He exists, then you will be required to change your life in ways you're not ready to change.
You find it easier and more convenient to live with he lie, ';There is no God,'; then to come to the conclusion that you are a sinner in need of grace.
For instance, you can choose to believe or not believe you are your father's child, but your choice will never change the fact you are.
God is real; He sent His Son to save you from yourself, and only you can make the choice to accept His gift, or not.
God wants to be found by you. You are just misunderstanding Him. There are Christians out there who rely on evidence and not just feelings. You have to talk with THOSE Christians, because they relate the best to your mindset. (I am becoming one of those ';evidence'; Christians as we speak, but I am a work in progress.)
And what is it that you want to know? Care to email me?
For starters you can stop testing God. His word has no place in your heart, because you don't believe his word as the truth and that he is GOD. Faith comes by reading, but you reject it, and you are out to prove that God does not exist, so what do you expect?
I don't know what science education has got to do with Christianity, but haven't you heard of Christian Science?
I know of some doctors that are Christians who studied science but that didn't change there views on God. They give him the honor and praise that he DESERVES for all his creation. You know what else? ...they acknowledge this fact, that God gave them the knowledge and wisdom to become doctors. (healers in a sense)
It is up to you to accept or reject God. What ever choices you make in life that you will reap.
Have you tried reading it in latin? Maybe it works in latin. Maybe you tried the wrong denomination. Are you sure your friends are ';real'; Christians.
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God loves everyone. It also depends on what you prayed for. God has a tendency of doing things on his own time line. Also there is nothing about god that is scientific it comes down to do you have faith or not. But meanwhile I will pray for you to find yor path
God isn't Walmart. You can't just read the Bible and pray and expect instant Gratification. Saying you tried is saying you didn't want it to work. Just remember that God loves you and wants you to love him back. As Yoda said, ';Do or do not; there is no try.';
God Loves you!
you my friend have the intellect to decipher religious bs, its a gift so embrace it.
i highly recommend torrenting ';ttc philosophy of religion'; it is very interesting and settles the questions about religion.
Choose another path.
If you attempted all of this in earnest and looked within and did not find that which you are seeking, then find a path that has meaning for you.
find some educated open minded Christians and do some soul searching. Personally I think as long as your seeking truth, God will be happy with you whether or not you settle on Christianity.
Seeing is not believing, believing is seeing.
Did you have an open mind? Did you believe that God actually could exist?
We need to give it more time. Moses wandered 40years in the desert. Give it time. Everything happens in God's timing
Christianity is not magic honey
and what exactly where you hoping to happen?
You shouldn't lie anymore for starters.
what are you thankful for?
sorry... a question with a question...
When you prayed, did you talk, or did you listen?
You are not looking n the right place..Go to your library and check out Conversations with God by Neale Donald Walsch..The truth in this miracle book will set you free..God bless
You aren't a Christian.
Probably went to a bad church
turn to God. He is the answer.
did you rub the bible three times before reading it?
Deal with it!
Check out: NotReligion.com and try another ';Church'; if possible. (Just don't give up searching out there!)
You can accept or reject GOD. It is your choice. If you want to meet Jesus then all you have to do is say ';hello';.
Yup, you got a bargaining problem.
What did you expect to happen?
So how long should you build the foundation for your life?
Is your life for sale, how much? Is it, give me what I want, ';knowledge, wealth, a pretty girl, a fancy car...'; and it's yours kind of sale?
You already know faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen. Belief is powerful! Take a look around this world man. Hearts and minds are controlled by belief. Choose to believe in the most powerful force on earth LOVE! I recommend it for everyone, Love. Now I'm not the smartest man in the world. But I know what love is!
I have no idea ';how'; one reads history. But usually turning Saints back into people so you can feel the dirt between your toes keeps things in context. From loaves and fishes to filet-o-fish sandwich. Now go re read your bible.
Your already smart but Science will only educate you, but you are more than the sum total of an IQ test.
When in a spiritual desert, dig into the word for spiritual context, retreat and refreshment. Which gives you the strength to love your God with all your heart and your neighbour as yourself.
I sense your in a hurry.
With all the information available today, as in thousands of years of recorded history and beyond, one would come to understand how slow life really is instead of the, ';not as advertised'; we experience today. It takes some people 40 years wandering in a desert wilderness to learn to live life with patience, and listening to the silent lessons.
What will your wilderness be a life without love and being loved? Genuine real love.
Slow down at least you'll get there.
The ';love'; of money is the root of all evil.
What ever you choose if you don't beleive it you'll never be it.
Two hands WORKING are better than a thousand hands clasped in useless prayer. Non-existent supernatural beings who can hear, listen, and act are logical contradictions. Just live in the NATURAL world - it's the only reality that we know.
No one knows anything about the supernatural, and anyone who says they do is either smug and arrogant in their woeful ignorance, or are just plain delusional. Think about that.
(But I suspect you are already with me on this).
Have you considered going to a more contemporary church?
When you read the Bible cover to cover, what is it you were looking for? Without God in your heart how can you understand His word? When you really want to study the Bible it's so much easier to join a Bible Study or begin a devotional first before trying to read it entirely without structure.
When you went to church, did you go with a willing heart or were you just going through the motions? When you sang were you really worshipping God, or were you just going through the motions?
When you prayed did you simply make requests, or did you thank God for your blessings and show Him some admiration. Did you confide in Him and admit to and apologize for anything you may have done that goes against Him? When you prayed, did you listen for Him?
';Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives; he who seeks finds; and to him who knocks, the door will be opened.'; -Matthew 7:7-8
God wants all of us. He is right there waiting, all we have to do is knock. If your heart is truly willing to let Him in, then He will. He is waiting for you, it's your decision to make, He can't and won't force it upon you.
';Trust in the LORD with all your heart
and lean not on your own understanding;
in all your ways acknowledge him,
and he will make your paths straight'; -Proverbs 3:5-6
When someone becomes a Christian it's not an instantaneous transformation and then everything is fine and dandy. I speak from personal experience. If you truly desire Christ's love and forgiveness, if you truly want to understand God and have a relationship with Him then your heart would be open and willing. When you accept Christ's love and open your heart to Him you will notice a big change in your heart. That is the beginning!
Believing takes a lot of patience, faith, change and effort. God will help you but you must let Him into your life first. He cannot help you until you are ready to receive Him.
Do not give up. Try approaching this again. Start by ditching the ';atheist'; label. If you like you can refer to yourself as a seeker.
Consider joining CBS (Community Bible Study). It's a Bible based study open to anyone, even non-believers. They are conducted in many states and you will meet lots of great people who can surely encourage you.
If you want to start out more slow go to a Christian bookstore and ask for Daily Devotionals or Bible Studies which were made specifically for seekers or someone new to Christianity. Here's a decent place to start online:
http://www.communitybiblestudy.org/
May your journey be fruitful and blessed. Please let me know if I can help you further! :)
Try praying to Mary, the Mother of Jesus. Ask her to help you believe in her Son. Never has it been known that anyone who fled to her protection, implored her help, or sought her intercession was left unaided.
http://www.medjugorje.org/rosary.htm
http://www.rosary-center.org/howto.htm
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The fifteen promises of Mary to Christians who recite the rosary:
1. Whoever shall faithfully serve me by the recitation of the Rosary shall receive signal graces.
2. I promise my special protection and the greatest graces to all those who shall recite the Rosary.
3. The Rosary shall be a powerful armor against Hell, it will destroy vice, decrease sin, and defeat heresies.
4. It will cause virtue and good works to flourish; it will obtain for souls the abundant mercy of God; it will withdraw the hearts of men from the love of the world and its vanities and will lift them to the desire of eternal things. Oh, that souls would sanctify themselves by this means.
5. The soul which recommends itself to me by the recitation of the Rosary, shall not perish.
6. Whoever shall recite the Rosary devoutly, applying himself to the consideration of its sacred mysteries, shall never be conquered by misfortune. God will not chastise him in His justice, he shall not perish by an unprovided death; if he be just, he shall remain in the grace of God and become worthy of eternal life.
7. Whoever shall have a true devotion for the Rosary shall not die without the Sacraments of the Church.
8. Those who are faithful to recite the Rosary shall have during their life and at their death the light of God and the plenitude of His graces; at the moment of death, they shall participate in the merits of the saints in Paradise.
9. I shall deliver from Purgatory those who have been devoted to the Rosary.
10. The faithful children of the Rosary shall merit high degree of glory in Heaven.
11. You shall obtain all you ask of me by the recitation of the Rosary.
12. All those who propagate the Holy Rosary shall be aided by me in their necessities.
13. I have obtained from my Divine Son that all the advocates of the Rosary shall have for intercessors the entire Celestial Court during their life and at the hour of death.
14. All who recite the Rosary are my sons, and brothers of my only Son, Jesus Christ.
15. Devotion to my Rosary is a great sign of predestination.makeup hair cheap make up
I talked with my minister and Christian friends. they did their best - but they couldn't tell me anything I didn't already know. (they also displayed a shocking lack of science education.)
I went to church regularly. I sang, and knelt, and stood, and listened, and laughed, and fell asleep.
I prayed reeeeal hard. nothing happened.
God obviously either doesn't exist, or else He doesn't want me. what's an atheist to do?Christians - what do I do now your best advice didn't work?
I can't tell by the tone of your question if you are being sincere or if you are trying to say....';I did what the Christians say to and followed their example but it didn't work and now I have proof that what they say is not true. God doesn't really care.';
I wonder what your attitude was....did you want to prove a point...that God isn't who He says He is and who we Christians believe He is? Or were you really trying to find God?
God knows who is sincere and who isn't. If you did those things with your mind already made up then that's why none of those things had the result you were looking for.
As for reading the Bible..
But a natural man does not accept the things of the Spirit of God, for they are foolishness to him; and he cannot understand them, because they are spiritually appraised.
But he who is spiritual appraises all things, yet he himself is appraised by no one. 1 Cor 2:14%26amp;15
In other words, the non-Christian doesn't understand the scripture because they don't have God's Holy Spirit dwelling within them to help them to understand.
But the Helper, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in My name, He will teach you all things, and bring to your remembrance all that I said to you. John 14:26
God Himself told Jeremiah...
You will seek Me and find Me when you search for Me with all your heart. Jeremiah 29:11
Since you have a Bible I would recommend looking up
John 3:16; Romans 3:23; 6:23; 5:8 and 10:9 %26amp; 10.
Go to God in prayer truly seeking Him and He will answer you.
The Lord is not slow about His promise, as some count slowness, but is patient toward you, not wishing for any to perish but for all to come to repentance. 2 Peter 3:9Christians - what do I do now your best advice didn't work?
An Atheist doesn't believe a God exists. What do you expect? God is a Spiritual concept and belief is a basic requirement. Don't waste anymore of your valuable time .... until you can be more objective.
A true scientist approaches an experiment with an open mind. You have declared yourself an Atheist. So your ';experiment'; failed because your mind was already made up. The results were flawed by your own unbelief.
Face it; the reason why you choose to run from God is because you know that if you accept that He exists, then you will be required to change your life in ways you're not ready to change.
You find it easier and more convenient to live with he lie, ';There is no God,'; then to come to the conclusion that you are a sinner in need of grace.
For instance, you can choose to believe or not believe you are your father's child, but your choice will never change the fact you are.
God is real; He sent His Son to save you from yourself, and only you can make the choice to accept His gift, or not.
God wants to be found by you. You are just misunderstanding Him. There are Christians out there who rely on evidence and not just feelings. You have to talk with THOSE Christians, because they relate the best to your mindset. (I am becoming one of those ';evidence'; Christians as we speak, but I am a work in progress.)
And what is it that you want to know? Care to email me?
For starters you can stop testing God. His word has no place in your heart, because you don't believe his word as the truth and that he is GOD. Faith comes by reading, but you reject it, and you are out to prove that God does not exist, so what do you expect?
I don't know what science education has got to do with Christianity, but haven't you heard of Christian Science?
I know of some doctors that are Christians who studied science but that didn't change there views on God. They give him the honor and praise that he DESERVES for all his creation. You know what else? ...they acknowledge this fact, that God gave them the knowledge and wisdom to become doctors. (healers in a sense)
It is up to you to accept or reject God. What ever choices you make in life that you will reap.
Have you tried reading it in latin? Maybe it works in latin. Maybe you tried the wrong denomination. Are you sure your friends are ';real'; Christians.
LOLOLOLOL
God loves everyone. It also depends on what you prayed for. God has a tendency of doing things on his own time line. Also there is nothing about god that is scientific it comes down to do you have faith or not. But meanwhile I will pray for you to find yor path
God isn't Walmart. You can't just read the Bible and pray and expect instant Gratification. Saying you tried is saying you didn't want it to work. Just remember that God loves you and wants you to love him back. As Yoda said, ';Do or do not; there is no try.';
God Loves you!
you my friend have the intellect to decipher religious bs, its a gift so embrace it.
i highly recommend torrenting ';ttc philosophy of religion'; it is very interesting and settles the questions about religion.
Choose another path.
If you attempted all of this in earnest and looked within and did not find that which you are seeking, then find a path that has meaning for you.
find some educated open minded Christians and do some soul searching. Personally I think as long as your seeking truth, God will be happy with you whether or not you settle on Christianity.
Seeing is not believing, believing is seeing.
Did you have an open mind? Did you believe that God actually could exist?
We need to give it more time. Moses wandered 40years in the desert. Give it time. Everything happens in God's timing
Christianity is not magic honey
and what exactly where you hoping to happen?
You shouldn't lie anymore for starters.
what are you thankful for?
sorry... a question with a question...
When you prayed, did you talk, or did you listen?
You are not looking n the right place..Go to your library and check out Conversations with God by Neale Donald Walsch..The truth in this miracle book will set you free..God bless
You aren't a Christian.
Probably went to a bad church
turn to God. He is the answer.
did you rub the bible three times before reading it?
Deal with it!
Check out: NotReligion.com and try another ';Church'; if possible. (Just don't give up searching out there!)
You can accept or reject GOD. It is your choice. If you want to meet Jesus then all you have to do is say ';hello';.
Yup, you got a bargaining problem.
What did you expect to happen?
So how long should you build the foundation for your life?
Is your life for sale, how much? Is it, give me what I want, ';knowledge, wealth, a pretty girl, a fancy car...'; and it's yours kind of sale?
You already know faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen. Belief is powerful! Take a look around this world man. Hearts and minds are controlled by belief. Choose to believe in the most powerful force on earth LOVE! I recommend it for everyone, Love. Now I'm not the smartest man in the world. But I know what love is!
I have no idea ';how'; one reads history. But usually turning Saints back into people so you can feel the dirt between your toes keeps things in context. From loaves and fishes to filet-o-fish sandwich. Now go re read your bible.
Your already smart but Science will only educate you, but you are more than the sum total of an IQ test.
When in a spiritual desert, dig into the word for spiritual context, retreat and refreshment. Which gives you the strength to love your God with all your heart and your neighbour as yourself.
I sense your in a hurry.
With all the information available today, as in thousands of years of recorded history and beyond, one would come to understand how slow life really is instead of the, ';not as advertised'; we experience today. It takes some people 40 years wandering in a desert wilderness to learn to live life with patience, and listening to the silent lessons.
What will your wilderness be a life without love and being loved? Genuine real love.
Slow down at least you'll get there.
The ';love'; of money is the root of all evil.
What ever you choose if you don't beleive it you'll never be it.
Two hands WORKING are better than a thousand hands clasped in useless prayer. Non-existent supernatural beings who can hear, listen, and act are logical contradictions. Just live in the NATURAL world - it's the only reality that we know.
No one knows anything about the supernatural, and anyone who says they do is either smug and arrogant in their woeful ignorance, or are just plain delusional. Think about that.
(But I suspect you are already with me on this).
Have you considered going to a more contemporary church?
When you read the Bible cover to cover, what is it you were looking for? Without God in your heart how can you understand His word? When you really want to study the Bible it's so much easier to join a Bible Study or begin a devotional first before trying to read it entirely without structure.
When you went to church, did you go with a willing heart or were you just going through the motions? When you sang were you really worshipping God, or were you just going through the motions?
When you prayed did you simply make requests, or did you thank God for your blessings and show Him some admiration. Did you confide in Him and admit to and apologize for anything you may have done that goes against Him? When you prayed, did you listen for Him?
';Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives; he who seeks finds; and to him who knocks, the door will be opened.'; -Matthew 7:7-8
God wants all of us. He is right there waiting, all we have to do is knock. If your heart is truly willing to let Him in, then He will. He is waiting for you, it's your decision to make, He can't and won't force it upon you.
';Trust in the LORD with all your heart
and lean not on your own understanding;
in all your ways acknowledge him,
and he will make your paths straight'; -Proverbs 3:5-6
When someone becomes a Christian it's not an instantaneous transformation and then everything is fine and dandy. I speak from personal experience. If you truly desire Christ's love and forgiveness, if you truly want to understand God and have a relationship with Him then your heart would be open and willing. When you accept Christ's love and open your heart to Him you will notice a big change in your heart. That is the beginning!
Believing takes a lot of patience, faith, change and effort. God will help you but you must let Him into your life first. He cannot help you until you are ready to receive Him.
Do not give up. Try approaching this again. Start by ditching the ';atheist'; label. If you like you can refer to yourself as a seeker.
Consider joining CBS (Community Bible Study). It's a Bible based study open to anyone, even non-believers. They are conducted in many states and you will meet lots of great people who can surely encourage you.
If you want to start out more slow go to a Christian bookstore and ask for Daily Devotionals or Bible Studies which were made specifically for seekers or someone new to Christianity. Here's a decent place to start online:
http://www.communitybiblestudy.org/
May your journey be fruitful and blessed. Please let me know if I can help you further! :)
Try praying to Mary, the Mother of Jesus. Ask her to help you believe in her Son. Never has it been known that anyone who fled to her protection, implored her help, or sought her intercession was left unaided.
http://www.medjugorje.org/rosary.htm
http://www.rosary-center.org/howto.htm
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The fifteen promises of Mary to Christians who recite the rosary:
1. Whoever shall faithfully serve me by the recitation of the Rosary shall receive signal graces.
2. I promise my special protection and the greatest graces to all those who shall recite the Rosary.
3. The Rosary shall be a powerful armor against Hell, it will destroy vice, decrease sin, and defeat heresies.
4. It will cause virtue and good works to flourish; it will obtain for souls the abundant mercy of God; it will withdraw the hearts of men from the love of the world and its vanities and will lift them to the desire of eternal things. Oh, that souls would sanctify themselves by this means.
5. The soul which recommends itself to me by the recitation of the Rosary, shall not perish.
6. Whoever shall recite the Rosary devoutly, applying himself to the consideration of its sacred mysteries, shall never be conquered by misfortune. God will not chastise him in His justice, he shall not perish by an unprovided death; if he be just, he shall remain in the grace of God and become worthy of eternal life.
7. Whoever shall have a true devotion for the Rosary shall not die without the Sacraments of the Church.
8. Those who are faithful to recite the Rosary shall have during their life and at their death the light of God and the plenitude of His graces; at the moment of death, they shall participate in the merits of the saints in Paradise.
9. I shall deliver from Purgatory those who have been devoted to the Rosary.
10. The faithful children of the Rosary shall merit high degree of glory in Heaven.
11. You shall obtain all you ask of me by the recitation of the Rosary.
12. All those who propagate the Holy Rosary shall be aided by me in their necessities.
13. I have obtained from my Divine Son that all the advocates of the Rosary shall have for intercessors the entire Celestial Court during their life and at the hour of death.
14. All who recite the Rosary are my sons, and brothers of my only Son, Jesus Christ.
15. Devotion to my Rosary is a great sign of predestination.
What is the best piece of advice anyone has ever given you?
Follow your heart and not your head. Heads tend to be too rational. Your heart is your true self so following that will never steer you wrong.
You know what? I've found it to be completely true. Yea, I've had my heart broken a time or two ... but I am stronger and better for it. I wouldn't live any other way ...
**************************************…What is the best piece of advice anyone has ever given you?
Think before we make judgements because most often what we don't like in someone or ridicule them for is something we see and recognize in ourselves that we don't like or are insecure about.What is the best piece of advice anyone has ever given you?
Pick your battles.
gooooood goooood advice for me... i now think before i jump.
My mother always told me to listen to my conscience and follow it and I couldn't go wrong. Unfortunately, I sometimes didn't listen to it and ended up making wrong choices at times.
To go along in your own crowd, not other's, and this helped me a lot because I did what I did and didn't care if people appreciated it or not.
wear socks and keep your feet dry IN NAM 1970
Don't eat yellow snow.
Quit smoking all that crack - and come up with a better name for yourself ;);););)
Put your faith in the answers that you can find
Don't let anyone tell you any different.
That's my story and I'm sticking to it (same thing)
Don't take anyone's crap.
';It's always darkest right before the sun rises.';
My dad told me to always throw the empty beer bottles out of the car so there are no open containers if I got pulled over.
He told me to throw them in the ditch so nobody would get a flat tire from glass in the road.
';Get out of the street.';
hahaha
My grandfather told me once that in my life I would have acquaintances and friends and over time I would know the difference. He was right. There are very few people I can call my true friends.
i dont care how hard you work, i only want the results.
maybe not, but my dad always says it and it sticks w/ me!
Respect yourself and other will respect you as well.
punch-out after work and punch-in at home(means don't go to bars after work if your married go straight home)
Don't eat yellow snow.
'No one can give u better advice than yourself'- My dad told me once.
Surfs up dude?!?!
measure twice cut once
Whenever you think life is tough and you have it bad.There,s always someone who has it way worse than you.Count your blessings!
i don't know about 'ever', but recently, get a new id and forget him!☺so i did!☺
don't let your babies grow up to be cowboys
IT Would have to be what Sidney Freeman says on M*A*S*H, ';Ladies and Gentleman, take my advice, pull down your pants and slide on the ice.'; This figutatively means that you should be willing to make a mistake, they are going to happen so learn to live with mistakes and move on. This is what advice I have taken truly to heart and made my personal motto.
Just smile.
Don't give up.....Don't ever give up.
True words to live by.
Keep your friends close and your enemies closer.
Screw em all but 6
Kepp them for pall bearers
To stop apologizing. Say it once and then stop.
You know what? I've found it to be completely true. Yea, I've had my heart broken a time or two ... but I am stronger and better for it. I wouldn't live any other way ...
**************************************…What is the best piece of advice anyone has ever given you?
Think before we make judgements because most often what we don't like in someone or ridicule them for is something we see and recognize in ourselves that we don't like or are insecure about.What is the best piece of advice anyone has ever given you?
Pick your battles.
gooooood goooood advice for me... i now think before i jump.
My mother always told me to listen to my conscience and follow it and I couldn't go wrong. Unfortunately, I sometimes didn't listen to it and ended up making wrong choices at times.
To go along in your own crowd, not other's, and this helped me a lot because I did what I did and didn't care if people appreciated it or not.
wear socks and keep your feet dry IN NAM 1970
Don't eat yellow snow.
Quit smoking all that crack - and come up with a better name for yourself ;);););)
Put your faith in the answers that you can find
Don't let anyone tell you any different.
That's my story and I'm sticking to it (same thing)
Don't take anyone's crap.
';It's always darkest right before the sun rises.';
My dad told me to always throw the empty beer bottles out of the car so there are no open containers if I got pulled over.
He told me to throw them in the ditch so nobody would get a flat tire from glass in the road.
';Get out of the street.';
hahaha
My grandfather told me once that in my life I would have acquaintances and friends and over time I would know the difference. He was right. There are very few people I can call my true friends.
i dont care how hard you work, i only want the results.
maybe not, but my dad always says it and it sticks w/ me!
Respect yourself and other will respect you as well.
punch-out after work and punch-in at home(means don't go to bars after work if your married go straight home)
Don't eat yellow snow.
'No one can give u better advice than yourself'- My dad told me once.
Surfs up dude?!?!
measure twice cut once
Whenever you think life is tough and you have it bad.There,s always someone who has it way worse than you.Count your blessings!
i don't know about 'ever', but recently, get a new id and forget him!☺so i did!☺
don't let your babies grow up to be cowboys
IT Would have to be what Sidney Freeman says on M*A*S*H, ';Ladies and Gentleman, take my advice, pull down your pants and slide on the ice.'; This figutatively means that you should be willing to make a mistake, they are going to happen so learn to live with mistakes and move on. This is what advice I have taken truly to heart and made my personal motto.
Just smile.
Don't give up.....Don't ever give up.
True words to live by.
Keep your friends close and your enemies closer.
Screw em all but 6
Kepp them for pall bearers
To stop apologizing. Say it once and then stop.
I did something dumb. What is the best advice to give me?
Hey all...I really did something dumb that is really out of my nature. I stole sumthin under $10 from Wal-mart....and it was me and my friends. Obviously we got caught but neither of us was arrested. We jus went to the back and follow what they were saying. When the police came they had talked to each of us and ask why. I replied no reason jus being a follower. We was talking about their experience of dealing with situations as such. This is my first offense and they pulled up my record and saw that it was clear. However,I am not allowed to go back to the store. what i dont understand why they wrote a summon to appear in front of the judge. They said its not a big offense and they said do not do it again. I went to court and the judge jus called the names and sasked do i want a public offender or what? i said yes (i guess). and i got to go back in July. I mean, whats up? What do you think i should do? I called the public offender and she waive it but how? what do you think will happenI did something dumb. What is the best advice to give me?
FYI it is public defender -- call the public defender as your court date gets close and speak with them most likely they will work out a plea agreement and you won't have to go to court you may get probation or a stay out of trouble order just listen to the public defenderI did something dumb. What is the best advice to give me?
Plead guilty for the shoplifting and take your punishment, don't go back to the store, and stay away from friends who get you intro trouble.
Don't do dumb stuff.
FYI it is public defender -- call the public defender as your court date gets close and speak with them most likely they will work out a plea agreement and you won't have to go to court you may get probation or a stay out of trouble order just listen to the public defenderI did something dumb. What is the best advice to give me?
Plead guilty for the shoplifting and take your punishment, don't go back to the store, and stay away from friends who get you intro trouble.
Don't do dumb stuff.
Does he like me 10 points to best advice?
I like my neighbors friend. I talk to his brother and I told him that I liked his brother. He told him and he said that I was cute and if I lost 10 pounds he would date me (im over weight by 5 pounds L. He asked me once if I thought he was cute and I said idk. I saw him on Halloween and he was in the same neighborhood as I was in. He saw me and he came towards me and my friend and he was like whats up and then he had to go away cause his dad called. Then he saw us again and he came over and talked again and he walked with me n my friend and he put his arm out and I don鈥檛 pay attention and I ran unto it and busted my lip L. Then he went away again and came back when he seen us again and he was with his friends and he jumped on me and my friends back. Then he went away again lol and he saw us once again and my brother and his friends were with him and he was like my nuts are itching and he said someone itch them. I saw him tuesday and he was at his friends and he was playing football and he kept looking over at me and my friend and he flicked her off. I don鈥檛 talk to him a lot I added him on myspace and he added me and he sends me a lot of app invites .. my friend sent him a friends request and he denied it but he added me :] does he not like her??? i looked at his friends and i was on his top number 15 :]Does he like me 10 points to best advice?
He sounds like a douche.
Like what the hell, lose ten pounds to date you!?
He's a shallow b@stard.Does he like me 10 points to best advice?
it could be that he likes u
but since u said that u didnt noe if u liked him hes waiting for u to give him a sign that its okay for him to move in
if u really like him and want him to do something, make a lil move
flirt with him whenever u c him and let him noe its ok to approach u and that u want him to
Yes he ABSOLUTELY likes you.
I'LL BET HE LIKES YOU ABOUT THE 10 POUND THING IT SOUNDS LIKE HE LIKES YOU EVEN IF you dont lose ten pounds...
just ask him, thats the only way you gonna know for sure,no matter what we may say.
he mite like u but a guy who wants u to lose weight or he won't date u!!! that is sooo shallow...u want a guy who is goin to like u for u.....u don't want to change for him b/c u do this one little thing for him he;ll ask u to do other things that u don't want to do...i would forget about him b/c he is not wrth changin urself for! u are sooo much better then that and u want someone who is going to treat u rite!
He sounds like a douche.
Like what the hell, lose ten pounds to date you!?
He's a shallow b@stard.Does he like me 10 points to best advice?
it could be that he likes u
but since u said that u didnt noe if u liked him hes waiting for u to give him a sign that its okay for him to move in
if u really like him and want him to do something, make a lil move
flirt with him whenever u c him and let him noe its ok to approach u and that u want him to
Yes he ABSOLUTELY likes you.
I'LL BET HE LIKES YOU ABOUT THE 10 POUND THING IT SOUNDS LIKE HE LIKES YOU EVEN IF you dont lose ten pounds...
just ask him, thats the only way you gonna know for sure,no matter what we may say.
he mite like u but a guy who wants u to lose weight or he won't date u!!! that is sooo shallow...u want a guy who is goin to like u for u.....u don't want to change for him b/c u do this one little thing for him he;ll ask u to do other things that u don't want to do...i would forget about him b/c he is not wrth changin urself for! u are sooo much better then that and u want someone who is going to treat u rite!
Ill keep posting till I get the best advice..lol Men ?? Women? thanks for taking the time.?
Ok look, this question here i need here is a serious heart to heart , i wrote it a fews time and got a few answers but some were just ignorant, dumb or heartless. I need some good advice, to motivate me to become better, or what to do as far as my issue.
Im a very independent, once was strong , live alone 23 years old, grad college, own car, etc. I dont need a mans money , u all know where im going with this.
Any how ive was dating a guy for 3 years, He made me quitmy modeling, friends, ruined all my stuff I worked hard for, yet we both were in love and as all couples had our good days. After our last big burst i moved into a new apt, wanting a new start, signed up for school again just to keep me busy and I wounde up letting him back in the new apt this June. Things got really out of hand and physical as always, and he wasnt working, always in the house id come home from work he'd be leaving or playing video games. Well the last fight we had in June the cops came, i called them because he broke my new stuff and it really pissed me off. We havent seen each other much after court, i dismissed all charges and he got off scott free, I feel like i really crossed him by calling the police but i was so fed up. Its been 4 months now and he hates me. He has called me maybe 4 x over the summer for sex , thats it and every once in a blue drunk. I miss him though, i wanna work this out. I now CANT focus in school, my new apt looks like **** again, im sad , lonely and ive tried everything. Books, meditations, yoga, therapy, freinds.etc... The only thing i havent tried is moving on and meetin new men, I dont want a new man touching me or getting to know me. I truly love my ex and miss he, i know he feels like he can never trust me again with the cops but i would never do that again it just was a crazy moment. Was i wrong? I have taken him back so many times. He has bitten me where ive had to have surgey, ruined my stuff.. etc., I forgave him for worse.. I need advice. I know this isnt heathly, I cant stop texing and calling him for 4 weeks now, no answer..what to do?? How long does this heart ache take and MEN what could an EX do for u to make you want them back??Ill keep posting till I get the best advice..lol Men ?? Women? thanks for taking the time.?
Darling I know you probably don't want to hear this but please leave it be. its obvious he thinks the ball is in his court that's why he is not answering but he sounds like bad news and you know the saying... treat them mean keen and this so true in a sense. No girl ever, well hardly, longs for a man who gives her everything.... that's what we all say and hope for but secretly, from past experiences, we like men who keep us on our feet who make us work for love, but over all the biting is a bit mad and you were in your rights to call police I know how men are...they see red and trash your whole life up never mind your stuff.
You wont feel like this forever babe....trust me ive been there and it is truly hell. all you feel like doing is crying and you just want to break and to have him there cuddling you and all you can think of is the good times but when he is back in your arms all you will think about is the bad times.
From the moment you called the police you have put up a barrier in the eyes of your ex and now you have huffed/annoyed/ made him hate you and not ring you no more or call around for sex etc this has scared you in the sense you don't have that thing in the back of your mind when you are getting on with your life, that says well at least i will see him, he will be back or i will hear from him in a few days. now that has been taken away from you, your sort of safety, reassuring net has gone you gave subconsciously panicked and grown this Obsession that you now need him as he doesn't want you by not showing any interest.
So try and understand this and go out with your friends and meet new lads at clubs.... your young, you are supposed to be meeting new ppl not dwelling over ex's....
I know you can do it, it seems impossible now but trust me you will be laughing about it soon hun! Try it!Ill keep posting till I get the best advice..lol Men ?? Women? thanks for taking the time.?
All I can suggest is for you to go to counseling to find out why you love a man who abuses you.
i think honesty if you want to better for yourself.. you need to give him up and find yourself..... you really lost yourself and your spirit....
the question is.. do you want to be in love with this man and be miserable or do you want to have a good future.? a good job... good money... have friends and be happy....
you already know what he is like. what he turns out like..... is he's lazy or not....
dont feel sorry for him because you mention that he doesnt work but stays over..... if so... he is a lazy bumm who knows how to get it and what and where he wants it... he's got a roof over his head because of you.... those guys will never change..... they say they will get a job but no... they wiill never.....
do whats best for you even tho you really like this guy.. somtimes you guys just arnt ment to be.......
you need to meet new people and sooner or later you'll find one that treats you way better... one who loves you way better... and one who has a goal they like to reach... even when or if you guys do get marry... he'll still try to reach his goals while he is still loving you...
you dont want to raise a BIG boy in your house.. he'll become a baby and you'll have to take care of him...
I've seen this question before and if you didn't get any ';good advice';, it's because you are looking for someone to give you the answer you want to hear. Why ask the question if you don't want to hear the truth. The truth is, no matter how much you miss him and the few good times you have when he's around, it's just not worth all the negative stuff you keep listing. For someone who is so ';independent';, it sure sounds like you are dependent on a losing relationship. It's not going to get any better the next time he comes back. Stop the madness and move on for goodness sake. There is someone out there who will treat you better than him.
My goodness what a long pouring out of a story. Now perhaps you will think I am heartless, I am not. I am caring and compassionate and have lived, been, hurt and suffered much. You complain to much. You want someone to rescue you and solve your problem. You could spend a lot of time and money in therapy, I'll try to save you the money.
You will receive much advice ad much points of view. This is my advice to you.:
Stop wasting your money on self help books, most suck. Take control of your life, empower yourself. The past is gone, the future is up to you, the present focus on that. Our power lies in our choices. We must face the consequences of our actions and decision's. I Believe in karma. Everything we do comes back. We do bad it comes back threefold,we do good it comes back threefold.
Define what you want to change in your life make a list set goals then do it. It's hard work and requires patience and time. Don't play the victim and blame you ex saying ';he made me do this made me quit my job etc'; You CHOOSE to quit your job.
If your ex was a scumbag you should have left him. Look at your self esteem. Set standards for men and realize you deserve better. If I were you I would forget about your ex, sounds like you are obsessed. Take a look at that. Why do you want him back? Do you need him? What need/needs do you want him fulfill? Look up codependency. It is up to YOU to meet your needs, not him and if your relationship is based on need then it's unhealthy.
Be equals in relationships, complement each other, share. Love is not possession or controlling or needy.
Now I have given you advice from much experience with men, what you now CHOOSE to do is up to you, I can help you no further.
Good Luck,
Kaja
well all i can say is that you need to really get help...i have had three abusive relationships 2 of which the men hit me an 1 were i was the abuser...its hard to say i wantto leave with out the other gettin upset...love is a strange thing..it makes you do crazy things...
all i can say is that you an your x need to really tlk bout yur problems...the only way to know if your really in love an want to make it wrk is if yal are ready to tlk bout the things that has happened in the past...
in my opinion i think that you shud let him go an try to move on but thats me...true it will be hard but i did it an my new bf is semi great we're still tryn to get to kno each other and its only ben 3 months...jus tlk to him an i think you an him will be fine...
i hope that helps
You want to hear that it will all be ok, that he will change and not be mean, or hit you, or break your stuff. The reality is he isn't going to change because you keep rewarding his behavior by letting him back in and even begging him to come back. I ask you what is it you love about him? How often do you get to see the part you love if you can even name it. Do you like how sweet he is after he messes up and how he brings you flowers or something he knows you love after you are bruised and your stuff is torn apart? What cost is it to you to get to that? Listen and listen close. You have forgotten how to love yourself. You need to find a good therapist and really figure out why you are drawn to this man. Get help, you are worth it.
lady, this man doesn't care about you thats very obvious and clear! you need to ask yourself why you would want to be with a man who beats on you,and just wants you for a sex object? whats going to end up happenning is he will accidentally or purposely end up killing you, this is an abusive person,watch the true crime stories on tv women get murdered by people like this all the time there bodies end up being found in shallow graves,garbage dumpsters. or sometimes never found at all!! i would very strongly suggest that you find a support group for battered women, you exhibit very strong symptoms of battered womens syndrome. my best advice to you is to find a church that has a (celebrate recovery program) celebrate recovery covers many topics, the rest of the advice is to get involved in a church, get on the internet and put (battered women support groups) in your search bar, i truly hope and pray this will send you in the right direction to get out of this situation, you even said it yourself';i know this isn't healthy'; my prayers are with you, find god in your heart and ask him to help you ,HE WILL HELP YOU, YOU MUST ALSO HELP YOURSELF, GOD BLESS YOU!
well i think you already know what you have to do, you just need to find a way to do it :) your prior relationship with him was clearly abusive. you were not wrong in calling the police because once any sort of violence starts, it generally ends with someone like you becoming a statistic. people become ex's for a reason. in your case, reasons. you say you want him back. i am not sure why. if you look at what you have said, if you reach back into your memory and weigh the good times against the bad times, i am certain you will realize that he is not the one for you. yes you have done much to move on. you will have to get by the hurdle of not wanting anyone other than him to touch you. please keep going to meditations, yoga, and hanging out with your friends. you may not be ready quite yet to meet a new man, but once you begin to believe in yourself and in a yet unfound relationship you will have no problems in making that next big step. as far as what any of my ex's could do for me to want them back? nothing. that is why they are ex's.
Im a very independent, once was strong , live alone 23 years old, grad college, own car, etc. I dont need a mans money , u all know where im going with this.
Any how ive was dating a guy for 3 years, He made me quitmy modeling, friends, ruined all my stuff I worked hard for, yet we both were in love and as all couples had our good days. After our last big burst i moved into a new apt, wanting a new start, signed up for school again just to keep me busy and I wounde up letting him back in the new apt this June. Things got really out of hand and physical as always, and he wasnt working, always in the house id come home from work he'd be leaving or playing video games. Well the last fight we had in June the cops came, i called them because he broke my new stuff and it really pissed me off. We havent seen each other much after court, i dismissed all charges and he got off scott free, I feel like i really crossed him by calling the police but i was so fed up. Its been 4 months now and he hates me. He has called me maybe 4 x over the summer for sex , thats it and every once in a blue drunk. I miss him though, i wanna work this out. I now CANT focus in school, my new apt looks like **** again, im sad , lonely and ive tried everything. Books, meditations, yoga, therapy, freinds.etc... The only thing i havent tried is moving on and meetin new men, I dont want a new man touching me or getting to know me. I truly love my ex and miss he, i know he feels like he can never trust me again with the cops but i would never do that again it just was a crazy moment. Was i wrong? I have taken him back so many times. He has bitten me where ive had to have surgey, ruined my stuff.. etc., I forgave him for worse.. I need advice. I know this isnt heathly, I cant stop texing and calling him for 4 weeks now, no answer..what to do?? How long does this heart ache take and MEN what could an EX do for u to make you want them back??Ill keep posting till I get the best advice..lol Men ?? Women? thanks for taking the time.?
Darling I know you probably don't want to hear this but please leave it be. its obvious he thinks the ball is in his court that's why he is not answering but he sounds like bad news and you know the saying... treat them mean keen and this so true in a sense. No girl ever, well hardly, longs for a man who gives her everything.... that's what we all say and hope for but secretly, from past experiences, we like men who keep us on our feet who make us work for love, but over all the biting is a bit mad and you were in your rights to call police I know how men are...they see red and trash your whole life up never mind your stuff.
You wont feel like this forever babe....trust me ive been there and it is truly hell. all you feel like doing is crying and you just want to break and to have him there cuddling you and all you can think of is the good times but when he is back in your arms all you will think about is the bad times.
From the moment you called the police you have put up a barrier in the eyes of your ex and now you have huffed/annoyed/ made him hate you and not ring you no more or call around for sex etc this has scared you in the sense you don't have that thing in the back of your mind when you are getting on with your life, that says well at least i will see him, he will be back or i will hear from him in a few days. now that has been taken away from you, your sort of safety, reassuring net has gone you gave subconsciously panicked and grown this Obsession that you now need him as he doesn't want you by not showing any interest.
So try and understand this and go out with your friends and meet new lads at clubs.... your young, you are supposed to be meeting new ppl not dwelling over ex's....
I know you can do it, it seems impossible now but trust me you will be laughing about it soon hun! Try it!Ill keep posting till I get the best advice..lol Men ?? Women? thanks for taking the time.?
All I can suggest is for you to go to counseling to find out why you love a man who abuses you.
i think honesty if you want to better for yourself.. you need to give him up and find yourself..... you really lost yourself and your spirit....
the question is.. do you want to be in love with this man and be miserable or do you want to have a good future.? a good job... good money... have friends and be happy....
you already know what he is like. what he turns out like..... is he's lazy or not....
dont feel sorry for him because you mention that he doesnt work but stays over..... if so... he is a lazy bumm who knows how to get it and what and where he wants it... he's got a roof over his head because of you.... those guys will never change..... they say they will get a job but no... they wiill never.....
do whats best for you even tho you really like this guy.. somtimes you guys just arnt ment to be.......
you need to meet new people and sooner or later you'll find one that treats you way better... one who loves you way better... and one who has a goal they like to reach... even when or if you guys do get marry... he'll still try to reach his goals while he is still loving you...
you dont want to raise a BIG boy in your house.. he'll become a baby and you'll have to take care of him...
I've seen this question before and if you didn't get any ';good advice';, it's because you are looking for someone to give you the answer you want to hear. Why ask the question if you don't want to hear the truth. The truth is, no matter how much you miss him and the few good times you have when he's around, it's just not worth all the negative stuff you keep listing. For someone who is so ';independent';, it sure sounds like you are dependent on a losing relationship. It's not going to get any better the next time he comes back. Stop the madness and move on for goodness sake. There is someone out there who will treat you better than him.
My goodness what a long pouring out of a story. Now perhaps you will think I am heartless, I am not. I am caring and compassionate and have lived, been, hurt and suffered much. You complain to much. You want someone to rescue you and solve your problem. You could spend a lot of time and money in therapy, I'll try to save you the money.
You will receive much advice ad much points of view. This is my advice to you.:
Stop wasting your money on self help books, most suck. Take control of your life, empower yourself. The past is gone, the future is up to you, the present focus on that. Our power lies in our choices. We must face the consequences of our actions and decision's. I Believe in karma. Everything we do comes back. We do bad it comes back threefold,we do good it comes back threefold.
Define what you want to change in your life make a list set goals then do it. It's hard work and requires patience and time. Don't play the victim and blame you ex saying ';he made me do this made me quit my job etc'; You CHOOSE to quit your job.
If your ex was a scumbag you should have left him. Look at your self esteem. Set standards for men and realize you deserve better. If I were you I would forget about your ex, sounds like you are obsessed. Take a look at that. Why do you want him back? Do you need him? What need/needs do you want him fulfill? Look up codependency. It is up to YOU to meet your needs, not him and if your relationship is based on need then it's unhealthy.
Be equals in relationships, complement each other, share. Love is not possession or controlling or needy.
Now I have given you advice from much experience with men, what you now CHOOSE to do is up to you, I can help you no further.
Good Luck,
Kaja
well all i can say is that you need to really get help...i have had three abusive relationships 2 of which the men hit me an 1 were i was the abuser...its hard to say i wantto leave with out the other gettin upset...love is a strange thing..it makes you do crazy things...
all i can say is that you an your x need to really tlk bout yur problems...the only way to know if your really in love an want to make it wrk is if yal are ready to tlk bout the things that has happened in the past...
in my opinion i think that you shud let him go an try to move on but thats me...true it will be hard but i did it an my new bf is semi great we're still tryn to get to kno each other and its only ben 3 months...jus tlk to him an i think you an him will be fine...
i hope that helps
You want to hear that it will all be ok, that he will change and not be mean, or hit you, or break your stuff. The reality is he isn't going to change because you keep rewarding his behavior by letting him back in and even begging him to come back. I ask you what is it you love about him? How often do you get to see the part you love if you can even name it. Do you like how sweet he is after he messes up and how he brings you flowers or something he knows you love after you are bruised and your stuff is torn apart? What cost is it to you to get to that? Listen and listen close. You have forgotten how to love yourself. You need to find a good therapist and really figure out why you are drawn to this man. Get help, you are worth it.
lady, this man doesn't care about you thats very obvious and clear! you need to ask yourself why you would want to be with a man who beats on you,and just wants you for a sex object? whats going to end up happenning is he will accidentally or purposely end up killing you, this is an abusive person,watch the true crime stories on tv women get murdered by people like this all the time there bodies end up being found in shallow graves,garbage dumpsters. or sometimes never found at all!! i would very strongly suggest that you find a support group for battered women, you exhibit very strong symptoms of battered womens syndrome. my best advice to you is to find a church that has a (celebrate recovery program) celebrate recovery covers many topics, the rest of the advice is to get involved in a church, get on the internet and put (battered women support groups) in your search bar, i truly hope and pray this will send you in the right direction to get out of this situation, you even said it yourself';i know this isn't healthy'; my prayers are with you, find god in your heart and ask him to help you ,HE WILL HELP YOU, YOU MUST ALSO HELP YOURSELF, GOD BLESS YOU!
well i think you already know what you have to do, you just need to find a way to do it :) your prior relationship with him was clearly abusive. you were not wrong in calling the police because once any sort of violence starts, it generally ends with someone like you becoming a statistic. people become ex's for a reason. in your case, reasons. you say you want him back. i am not sure why. if you look at what you have said, if you reach back into your memory and weigh the good times against the bad times, i am certain you will realize that he is not the one for you. yes you have done much to move on. you will have to get by the hurdle of not wanting anyone other than him to touch you. please keep going to meditations, yoga, and hanging out with your friends. you may not be ready quite yet to meet a new man, but once you begin to believe in yourself and in a yet unfound relationship you will have no problems in making that next big step. as far as what any of my ex's could do for me to want them back? nothing. that is why they are ex's.
Words of wisdom? 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
I am a type A person. I am a recent graduate. I have Master's Degree at age 22. I want to get things done very fast. I have been applied for jobs in the past months. I have been to many interviews with many huge organizations. Unfortunately, they don't hire because I am young and lack of experiences. Well, I refuse to work as an assistant since I am holding my Master's Degree. (I worked as an assistant to Chair for 2 years).
I plan to back to my home country. There are many opening positions there. They really want someone who is majoring in the fields and study aboard like me. My problem is I am very ego. I will only take management positions. I know it is wrong.
Please help. Any words of wisdom. Thank you very much.
Sorry, english is my second language.Words of wisdom? 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
You are an incredible young woman hope along with a whole geneartion of others who may be achievers like yourself. I personally side with those who say let level management leaders see how your school smarts allows you to transfer those skills to organization assests and make it better and efficient.
Start low. Always express interest in advancement. But don't put it like that. Instead say you are always willing to view new challenges as new learning experiences inside the organization. IN due course if you are as good as you said you are here in this post, then others wil l definitely see it wherever you are hired.
In fact if you repeat tihs process many times over say the next few years then over time in 5 years say you will have a track record that other organizations will fight for to have you work for them. Of course you could negotiate whatever salary you want to at that point.
But just as life shows, every living thing starts as a seed. It is true in everything we do in life as well. We start small. We do that because we are learning and becoming more intelligent in what we do. So that we can be more effective and productive in life.
Right now your ego only sees yourself larger than any company that will hire you. Place your ego aside. Look instead at the ogranization you want to work for. When you are hired others will learn about yours skills and see you as a valuable asset. That is what your ego should look like. Not what you see about yoursef. But what other leadrs see abot you.
Your only truly as big as the way others see you.
Later and good luck to you in the future. By the way your English is fine.Words of wisdom? 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
Follow your desires and your heart... but also do what is in your best interest to advance. No offense... 22 is young and every employer conciders (to some degree) the level of mature experience one might have for a particular position. Take the assistant position then show the upper level management (with your accomplishments and diplomacy) how much more valueable you would be to the company if you were working at a higher level. They will promote you.
At this time, you should seek not for the amitious desires of your heart, but rather you should seek out those who can, and will, help you attain them.
When you go to interviews, you should be interviewing the person who's interviewing you! You need to be asking yourself, ';Do I think I can work with this person?'; Is this someone who can help me attain my goals, eventually?';
That is the best for you now.
A Master's degree does not give you a ticket to a management position unless you own the company. The many interviews without getting a single job offer speaks clearly about what the workplace needs. Ego gets you nowhere. Only track record would show our real worth. The sooner you accept this reality the better for you. Remember the saying ';the proud will be humbled and the humble will be lifted up.'; Good luck.
Quite simply, you haven't earned a management position.
As you appear to be goal oriented, determine what characteristics you need for a management position (probably including experience), and pursue it. (If you were ready for management, you would know that a goal, and a plan to reach that goal, are essential to success)
Good question ';grasshopper';. You are at an age of observation, of introspection. Watch, learn.., and later you'll be asked to put it all together. Learn patients. To know that you are waiting, can be of help. To push a wine before its time is asking for less than expected.
Once you get a job in your field becoming a manager is a matter of time. The more responsible you are the faster you will be promoted. Start low and aim high.
There are two theories to arguing with women. Neither one works.
HUMBLE YOUR SELF
seize the day your heart is telling you something listen to it
You are 22. Sure, you have credentials, but I being fresh out of school, I can't imagine you would have many real-world management skills. What they teach you in school is a whole lot different than what you will encounter in real life. It's good to be ambitious, but you are being a bit unrealistic. You have a lot more to prove than a 45 year old that's been in the business for 20+ years. Take an entry level position, and if you are found to be a worthy employee and a hard worker, you will likely be promoted. And if you're not? At least you'll have job experience and something to put on your resume, thus increasing your chances of a management position with another potential employer. Swallow your pride a little bit, otherwise you may very well be unemployed for a long time.
In your country and perhaps in your family, having a Master's
Degree may mean a lot more than it does here. It's a great
achievement, but only shows potential employers that you
have tenacity and intellegence..but not necessarily the long,practical experience in their fields to excel. Everyone
starts out at the relative bottom here, master's degrees or not. If you're so confident in your abilities, you must give other
people the opportunity to see this, they're not mind readers. Advancement can be rapid, even mecurial if you're truly
brilliant in their field. If they give you a chance, you should
give them one to ... to see what you can do. Look at it as
a great challenge..how far can you advance in the shortest
amount of time. Otherwise, this is the country of opportunity...
make one for yourself by starting your own business, school,
or any other innovative idea relating to your specific field so you won't ever have to work
for anyone but yourself. I always advise people to think about
being the captian of their own ship instead of a crew member.
For someone your age I would suggest the source of wisdom The Urantia Book. I'm sure it is in your native laguage.
P.555 - 搂5 You will learn that you increase your burdens and decrease the likelihood of success by taking yourself too seriously. Nothing can take precedence over the work of your status sphere--this world or the next. Very important is the work of preparation for the next higher sphere, but nothing equals the importance of the work of the world in which you are actually living. But though the work is important, the self is not. When you feel important, you lose energy to the wear and tear of ego dignity so that there is little energy left to do the work. Self-importance, not work-importance, exhausts immature creatures; it is the self element that exhausts, not the effort to achieve. You can do important work if you do not become self-important; you can do several things as easily as one if you leave yourself out. Variety is restful; monotony is what wears and exhausts. Day after day is alike--just life or the alternative of death.
http://www.urantia.org/papers/paper48.ht鈥?/a>
I plan to back to my home country. There are many opening positions there. They really want someone who is majoring in the fields and study aboard like me. My problem is I am very ego. I will only take management positions. I know it is wrong.
Please help. Any words of wisdom. Thank you very much.
Sorry, english is my second language.Words of wisdom? 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
You are an incredible young woman hope along with a whole geneartion of others who may be achievers like yourself. I personally side with those who say let level management leaders see how your school smarts allows you to transfer those skills to organization assests and make it better and efficient.
Start low. Always express interest in advancement. But don't put it like that. Instead say you are always willing to view new challenges as new learning experiences inside the organization. IN due course if you are as good as you said you are here in this post, then others wil l definitely see it wherever you are hired.
In fact if you repeat tihs process many times over say the next few years then over time in 5 years say you will have a track record that other organizations will fight for to have you work for them. Of course you could negotiate whatever salary you want to at that point.
But just as life shows, every living thing starts as a seed. It is true in everything we do in life as well. We start small. We do that because we are learning and becoming more intelligent in what we do. So that we can be more effective and productive in life.
Right now your ego only sees yourself larger than any company that will hire you. Place your ego aside. Look instead at the ogranization you want to work for. When you are hired others will learn about yours skills and see you as a valuable asset. That is what your ego should look like. Not what you see about yoursef. But what other leadrs see abot you.
Your only truly as big as the way others see you.
Later and good luck to you in the future. By the way your English is fine.Words of wisdom? 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
Follow your desires and your heart... but also do what is in your best interest to advance. No offense... 22 is young and every employer conciders (to some degree) the level of mature experience one might have for a particular position. Take the assistant position then show the upper level management (with your accomplishments and diplomacy) how much more valueable you would be to the company if you were working at a higher level. They will promote you.
At this time, you should seek not for the amitious desires of your heart, but rather you should seek out those who can, and will, help you attain them.
When you go to interviews, you should be interviewing the person who's interviewing you! You need to be asking yourself, ';Do I think I can work with this person?'; Is this someone who can help me attain my goals, eventually?';
That is the best for you now.
A Master's degree does not give you a ticket to a management position unless you own the company. The many interviews without getting a single job offer speaks clearly about what the workplace needs. Ego gets you nowhere. Only track record would show our real worth. The sooner you accept this reality the better for you. Remember the saying ';the proud will be humbled and the humble will be lifted up.'; Good luck.
Quite simply, you haven't earned a management position.
As you appear to be goal oriented, determine what characteristics you need for a management position (probably including experience), and pursue it. (If you were ready for management, you would know that a goal, and a plan to reach that goal, are essential to success)
Good question ';grasshopper';. You are at an age of observation, of introspection. Watch, learn.., and later you'll be asked to put it all together. Learn patients. To know that you are waiting, can be of help. To push a wine before its time is asking for less than expected.
Once you get a job in your field becoming a manager is a matter of time. The more responsible you are the faster you will be promoted. Start low and aim high.
There are two theories to arguing with women. Neither one works.
HUMBLE YOUR SELF
seize the day your heart is telling you something listen to it
You are 22. Sure, you have credentials, but I being fresh out of school, I can't imagine you would have many real-world management skills. What they teach you in school is a whole lot different than what you will encounter in real life. It's good to be ambitious, but you are being a bit unrealistic. You have a lot more to prove than a 45 year old that's been in the business for 20+ years. Take an entry level position, and if you are found to be a worthy employee and a hard worker, you will likely be promoted. And if you're not? At least you'll have job experience and something to put on your resume, thus increasing your chances of a management position with another potential employer. Swallow your pride a little bit, otherwise you may very well be unemployed for a long time.
In your country and perhaps in your family, having a Master's
Degree may mean a lot more than it does here. It's a great
achievement, but only shows potential employers that you
have tenacity and intellegence..but not necessarily the long,practical experience in their fields to excel. Everyone
starts out at the relative bottom here, master's degrees or not. If you're so confident in your abilities, you must give other
people the opportunity to see this, they're not mind readers. Advancement can be rapid, even mecurial if you're truly
brilliant in their field. If they give you a chance, you should
give them one to ... to see what you can do. Look at it as
a great challenge..how far can you advance in the shortest
amount of time. Otherwise, this is the country of opportunity...
make one for yourself by starting your own business, school,
or any other innovative idea relating to your specific field so you won't ever have to work
for anyone but yourself. I always advise people to think about
being the captian of their own ship instead of a crew member.
For someone your age I would suggest the source of wisdom The Urantia Book. I'm sure it is in your native laguage.
P.555 - 搂5 You will learn that you increase your burdens and decrease the likelihood of success by taking yourself too seriously. Nothing can take precedence over the work of your status sphere--this world or the next. Very important is the work of preparation for the next higher sphere, but nothing equals the importance of the work of the world in which you are actually living. But though the work is important, the self is not. When you feel important, you lose energy to the wear and tear of ego dignity so that there is little energy left to do the work. Self-importance, not work-importance, exhausts immature creatures; it is the self element that exhausts, not the effort to achieve. You can do important work if you do not become self-important; you can do several things as easily as one if you leave yourself out. Variety is restful; monotony is what wears and exhausts. Day after day is alike--just life or the alternative of death.
http://www.urantia.org/papers/paper48.ht鈥?/a>
I need new makeup! Who offers the best advice as far as makeup application and product type is concerned?
I don't wear makeup on a daily basis (homemaker) but when I do, I feel like it looks muddy or overdone. I currently use Bobbi Brown foundation, loose powder, eye liner, etc. Is it possible my makeup is old or expired? Or is it user error? Where can I go to learn how to get a fresh, ';five minute face?'; I live in Austin, TX. But we have all the usual players in town, MAC, Bobbi Brown, etc. Or am I aiming too high? It's been so long since I have shopped for make up (in the grocery store). Perhaps there are products out there that work great and don't cost a lot???I need new makeup! Who offers the best advice as far as makeup application and product type is concerned?
Makeup definitely expires. If your foundation is more than a year old, chuck it. Lipsticks are probably the only cosmetic that you can keep for more than a year, but if it starts to smell funny - chuck it!
Any of the makeup counters can help you with getting the 'five minute face' and 'fresh' is what makeup is all about this spring. One of the current hot looks is peach or coral lipstick and gold eyelids. Super hot and super easy!
I am definitely a product slut with high-end taste. Currently, I am addicted to NARS because their eyeshadows and lipsticks are just saturated in color and I LOVE it. For a very quick face, though - check out Mineral Makeup. I love bareMinerals, but I think the L'oreal Bare Naturale line is less messy.I need new makeup! Who offers the best advice as far as makeup application and product type is concerned?
ok I love make up. loose powder from mac could be good I think that sum Mac products are to heavy for summer. I use sephore brand and they got make up there called Make up forever, I love it and there is someone to help you and they do make up for free. or if you want light and organic Aveda. hope it helps. I think that is your best bet.
Don't bother with make-up. I reckon that people shouldn't jugde you by what you look like but your personality. So what is the point. It is a waste of money.makeup hair cheap make up
Makeup definitely expires. If your foundation is more than a year old, chuck it. Lipsticks are probably the only cosmetic that you can keep for more than a year, but if it starts to smell funny - chuck it!
Any of the makeup counters can help you with getting the 'five minute face' and 'fresh' is what makeup is all about this spring. One of the current hot looks is peach or coral lipstick and gold eyelids. Super hot and super easy!
I am definitely a product slut with high-end taste. Currently, I am addicted to NARS because their eyeshadows and lipsticks are just saturated in color and I LOVE it. For a very quick face, though - check out Mineral Makeup. I love bareMinerals, but I think the L'oreal Bare Naturale line is less messy.I need new makeup! Who offers the best advice as far as makeup application and product type is concerned?
ok I love make up. loose powder from mac could be good I think that sum Mac products are to heavy for summer. I use sephore brand and they got make up there called Make up forever, I love it and there is someone to help you and they do make up for free. or if you want light and organic Aveda. hope it helps. I think that is your best bet.
Don't bother with make-up. I reckon that people shouldn't jugde you by what you look like but your personality. So what is the point. It is a waste of money.
How can I give my friend the best advice possible?
My best friend since high school is in a crisis. I haven't seen her for three years, but we have kept in touch on the internet and phone. Anyway, she has been with her current boyfriend for three years. He is a bit younger than her, and she lives with him. She said he can be a jerk sometimes. Anyway, she now tells me that she is still in love with her ex boyfriend. She dated him in high school, and says she never got over him, and she saw him this week after a long time because he is military, and she slept with him...and he proposed to her! She feels horrible, and like a hypocrit because she said she dosn't believe in what she is doing, but she dosnt know who to chose! I really don't know what to tell her. I told her to just follow her heart, and to imagine who she would rather start a familiy with? But, she says both! She is so confused! I just don't know because I dont really know neither of the guys. I met her old boyfriend in high school, but he was somewhat of a womanizer, and hit on me at the time! Then, after he broke up with her he was stalking her practically! But, the guy she is with now never lets her goof around..tells her she is being stupid or annoying all the time, and seems way too full of himself. She says her ex has really matured, and she trusts him!How can I give my friend the best advice possible?
She should really break up with her current boyfriend. Ask your friend, ';Can you really see yourself living with a guy who doesn't respect you?';
Sounds to me that her bf is a possessive and conceited guy. Do you really think that you can stand her being held around by some guy?
There are a lot of reasons why she has to leave her current boyfriend. Meeting her ex just strenghtens the will to break up.
I think your friend should go back with her ex. There is a reason why she NEVER got over him even when she met other guys. They just met in the wrong time and place during highschool, that's why their relationship back then didn't work.
Just forget your friend's ex's attitude during highschool. People during that stage are usually immature and naive.
Tell her to take things slow with her ex. There's no need to rush into marriage.
Best wishes.How can I give my friend the best advice possible?
deff. the ex! dont let her get treated the way her current bf is treating her! she needs to have enough respect for herself to see that he is A JERK! a pure jerk.......
She should really break up with her current boyfriend. Ask your friend, ';Can you really see yourself living with a guy who doesn't respect you?';
Sounds to me that her bf is a possessive and conceited guy. Do you really think that you can stand her being held around by some guy?
There are a lot of reasons why she has to leave her current boyfriend. Meeting her ex just strenghtens the will to break up.
I think your friend should go back with her ex. There is a reason why she NEVER got over him even when she met other guys. They just met in the wrong time and place during highschool, that's why their relationship back then didn't work.
Just forget your friend's ex's attitude during highschool. People during that stage are usually immature and naive.
Tell her to take things slow with her ex. There's no need to rush into marriage.
Best wishes.How can I give my friend the best advice possible?
deff. the ex! dont let her get treated the way her current bf is treating her! she needs to have enough respect for herself to see that he is A JERK! a pure jerk.......
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HELP ME!!!! PLEASE!!!!! PLEASE GIVE ME YOUR BEST ADVICE!!!?
They say when you meet the love of your life, time stops. And that's true.
I grew up with this girl. I knew her since I was born. I lived next door to her. We would do everything together. Laugh, play run around and always be with each other. A great friendship.
We always had a great connection throughout our Primary School Years. At Year 5 and 6, I developed feelings for her that I could never describe...She lit my whole world up with just one smile.
I remember in our final years of Primary School, we would always sit next to each other in class and we would take off our shoes and play with each others feet.... It might sound strange, but at that moment I knew that I loved her with all my heart and I wanted to always be with her forever..
I would never stop missing her, she was the best friend anyone could ever ask for. Then the absolute unthinkable happens....
My parents decide to move away from our town, My safezone, My home. I was moving away from the one Girl I truely loved.
On my last day of living in my town, I said Goodbye to her, knowing full well that I would hardly see her again.
Over time, it would be over weeks then months and eventually became years until I was over her house.
We would still see each other at school, but that was never the same..
I had friends, but I always felt alone...
As years went on, we would talk less and less. Not being in the same classes as her made it worse and now being in Year 12, the last time I was at her house was 7 Years ago.
From Kindergarten to year 10 I loved her and she was always on my mind.
Now in Year 12, She has a Boyfriend. Not telling her how i felt all those years have made me very empty and sad.
Even now, I still wish we had the connection we once had. All I feel now is sadness and lonliness.
I just want her to know that I still Love Her and I will always care about her.
What Should I do???
HELP ME!!!! PLEASE!!!!! PLEASE GIVE ME YOUR BEST ADVICE!!!?
ur story like movies,its a very painful story,anyway u must go to tell her how u feel,yes go head tell her everything,she maybe ur one love .i hope u will fix the situation .HELP ME!!!! PLEASE!!!!! PLEASE GIVE ME YOUR BEST ADVICE!!!?
Staighten up your spine and go tell her..
Stop being such a whiner and be a MAN !! Thats what the girls prefer..
If she says a No you lose nothing but if she says a YES you get your life back on track !!! DO it dude... mebbe she wants you to do it !!!
I hear you buddy! I hear you!
Too sad!
Time to move on.....
good things come when you least expect....
theres nothing to say you wont meet again, but till then.... live a little..
theres nothing lonelier than a life of mourning..... :)
Let her see what you just wrote. Heck, if my bf wrote something like that, I'd marry him!
Tell her, just the way you ended your letter. And tell her, that if she ever breaks up....to call you.
contact her and tell her all this things u hide or better go to her and tell her face to face better :(
Oh, man, your story is so sad and bitter sweet. I think you should compose a nice long letter telling her how you feel, because your very good at making your emotions come alive on the blank white. I felt your longing and pain and I think that she would feel the same. You never know, she might have the same feelings you do, and only has a boyfriend to cover up feelings of loss. I really think you should pursue this relationship, and in the meantime, we'll be waiting for chapter 2! Good luck!!!
Wow! I've been in this same situation, but in my case I lost touch w/the person and I never saw him again.
Think about it this way. You are wasting your life pining over this person who clearly has no idea how you feel and is out there dating other people. You need to decide what you want. If you Love her then you need to face whatever fears you might have and just tell her; otherwise you need to move on and start dating other people. Listen, the more you wait the more time goes by and you get older and older. One of three things could happen: 1. You get the girl you want 2. You stay lonely and depressed or 3. You go on w/your life date and find someone else.
It's better to find out now if she likes/loves you back than waste time thinking about her.
Sounds like the love of your life had an idea but wasn't sure because you never told her your true feelings. If I were you I'd go over there and sit down with her for a few hours on a day she's home and the b/f isn't there. Tell her you need to talk to her seriously. Tell her from your heart how you feel and ask her how she feels. If she truely wants to give it a shot beyond just friendship I bet she'll let go that other boyfriend in no time! Good luck! Looks like there might be a future in there for the two of you after all!
It seems you really do love.
that is sooo sweet of you
maybe you should go over her house cause i think you guys are still some kind of friends,
tell her over those years that we lived next to your we have really got to know each other we have our time like the laughing huging telling each other our secrets then i started to like you, you hit my heart with a big hammer. and i just never got the right time to tell you that i Love you and that i care about you. i just want you to know that and i hope someday we can be together.
then just wait a sec and see what she says she may have liked you too you never know.
I hope you find a way to telll her if you done use my advice.
Good Luck
I grew up with this girl. I knew her since I was born. I lived next door to her. We would do everything together. Laugh, play run around and always be with each other. A great friendship.
We always had a great connection throughout our Primary School Years. At Year 5 and 6, I developed feelings for her that I could never describe...She lit my whole world up with just one smile.
I remember in our final years of Primary School, we would always sit next to each other in class and we would take off our shoes and play with each others feet.... It might sound strange, but at that moment I knew that I loved her with all my heart and I wanted to always be with her forever..
I would never stop missing her, she was the best friend anyone could ever ask for. Then the absolute unthinkable happens....
My parents decide to move away from our town, My safezone, My home. I was moving away from the one Girl I truely loved.
On my last day of living in my town, I said Goodbye to her, knowing full well that I would hardly see her again.
Over time, it would be over weeks then months and eventually became years until I was over her house.
We would still see each other at school, but that was never the same..
I had friends, but I always felt alone...
As years went on, we would talk less and less. Not being in the same classes as her made it worse and now being in Year 12, the last time I was at her house was 7 Years ago.
From Kindergarten to year 10 I loved her and she was always on my mind.
Now in Year 12, She has a Boyfriend. Not telling her how i felt all those years have made me very empty and sad.
Even now, I still wish we had the connection we once had. All I feel now is sadness and lonliness.
I just want her to know that I still Love Her and I will always care about her.
What Should I do???
HELP ME!!!! PLEASE!!!!! PLEASE GIVE ME YOUR BEST ADVICE!!!?
ur story like movies,its a very painful story,anyway u must go to tell her how u feel,yes go head tell her everything,she maybe ur one love .i hope u will fix the situation .HELP ME!!!! PLEASE!!!!! PLEASE GIVE ME YOUR BEST ADVICE!!!?
Staighten up your spine and go tell her..
Stop being such a whiner and be a MAN !! Thats what the girls prefer..
If she says a No you lose nothing but if she says a YES you get your life back on track !!! DO it dude... mebbe she wants you to do it !!!
I hear you buddy! I hear you!
Too sad!
Time to move on.....
good things come when you least expect....
theres nothing to say you wont meet again, but till then.... live a little..
theres nothing lonelier than a life of mourning..... :)
Let her see what you just wrote. Heck, if my bf wrote something like that, I'd marry him!
Tell her, just the way you ended your letter. And tell her, that if she ever breaks up....to call you.
contact her and tell her all this things u hide or better go to her and tell her face to face better :(
Oh, man, your story is so sad and bitter sweet. I think you should compose a nice long letter telling her how you feel, because your very good at making your emotions come alive on the blank white. I felt your longing and pain and I think that she would feel the same. You never know, she might have the same feelings you do, and only has a boyfriend to cover up feelings of loss. I really think you should pursue this relationship, and in the meantime, we'll be waiting for chapter 2! Good luck!!!
Wow! I've been in this same situation, but in my case I lost touch w/the person and I never saw him again.
Think about it this way. You are wasting your life pining over this person who clearly has no idea how you feel and is out there dating other people. You need to decide what you want. If you Love her then you need to face whatever fears you might have and just tell her; otherwise you need to move on and start dating other people. Listen, the more you wait the more time goes by and you get older and older. One of three things could happen: 1. You get the girl you want 2. You stay lonely and depressed or 3. You go on w/your life date and find someone else.
It's better to find out now if she likes/loves you back than waste time thinking about her.
Sounds like the love of your life had an idea but wasn't sure because you never told her your true feelings. If I were you I'd go over there and sit down with her for a few hours on a day she's home and the b/f isn't there. Tell her you need to talk to her seriously. Tell her from your heart how you feel and ask her how she feels. If she truely wants to give it a shot beyond just friendship I bet she'll let go that other boyfriend in no time! Good luck! Looks like there might be a future in there for the two of you after all!
It seems you really do love.
that is sooo sweet of you
maybe you should go over her house cause i think you guys are still some kind of friends,
tell her over those years that we lived next to your we have really got to know each other we have our time like the laughing huging telling each other our secrets then i started to like you, you hit my heart with a big hammer. and i just never got the right time to tell you that i Love you and that i care about you. i just want you to know that and i hope someday we can be together.
then just wait a sec and see what she says she may have liked you too you never know.
I hope you find a way to telll her if you done use my advice.
Good Luck
Stuck between 2 cousins?10 POINTS FOR BEST ADVICE?
There's this guy i know him for a while and i think he likes me lately he has been spending alot of time with me and just yesterday we had a party and so i was standing across from him with my friends and the whole time he was looking then blushing away from me....lol...which was very cute!! But then here's the other side....his cousin also likes me but none of them know that there cousin likes me....hes also a nice guy he always brings me flowers when ever he comes and his sister told me that he likes me...ALOT!!! And he's friends with my guy friend so he told my friend that i was very preety.But i dont know what to do i mean the problem is there both nice guy,and if they get to know that there other cousin likes the girl they like....God knows whats gonna happen.What should i do???Stuck between 2 cousins?10 POINTS FOR BEST ADVICE?
Who's the hottest, make your mind up and go for it.Stuck between 2 cousins?10 POINTS FOR BEST ADVICE?
What you need to do is decide which one will treat you better and will make you the happiest. That will be the one you need to persue and make sure the other one knows that you just want to be friends and nothing more.
Go with your heart if one of them gets mad at you just tell him that he will have to get over it that you like the other one and explain that you want to be freinds it just can't be anythig more..
follow your heart and be with the one that makes you the most happy... dont rely on materials like flowers and compliments go by what your heart is telling you...who will you be more happy with....and until you decide dont flirt too much with either one you dont wanna lead the one your not gunna be with on...but honest is the best path...so whoever you have to break the news too be honest cause lies hurt so much worse....good luck but this is your decision
Who's the hottest, make your mind up and go for it.Stuck between 2 cousins?10 POINTS FOR BEST ADVICE?
What you need to do is decide which one will treat you better and will make you the happiest. That will be the one you need to persue and make sure the other one knows that you just want to be friends and nothing more.
Go with your heart if one of them gets mad at you just tell him that he will have to get over it that you like the other one and explain that you want to be freinds it just can't be anythig more..
follow your heart and be with the one that makes you the most happy... dont rely on materials like flowers and compliments go by what your heart is telling you...who will you be more happy with....and until you decide dont flirt too much with either one you dont wanna lead the one your not gunna be with on...but honest is the best path...so whoever you have to break the news too be honest cause lies hurt so much worse....good luck but this is your decision
I HATE MY JOB. 10 points for best advice?
am 24 years old. I am an office manager for this small office of 10 employees for over a year. My job is to take care of everything in the office, inventories, supplies, correspondence, files, refreshment. I also manage 2 staff houses. I am responsible for all HR related matters. I am coordinating with finance on paying all the bills for stuff houses and office. We have 7 expats and am handling of their visa and travel schedules. I am contacting all vendors and hosting office guests. I am organizing workshops and handling a project. I am also a receptionist and answering the office phone. I successfully designed office manual and security guideline.
I recently hate my job for various reasons such as politics, unprofessional, and too much workload for me. I have 4 different bosses in the past year. The newest boss is the stupid person. She asked to do everything, but she does not even understand the work.
P.S. I earned Master's Degree and am now doing Ph.D. I constantly believe that I am deserved to be treat better with my education and talents. Although, I am young and inexperience. Sorry, English is my second language.I HATE MY JOB. 10 points for best advice?
I am surprised that the school you are getting your PhD from is allowing you to keep working like that.
Is your goal to be an office manager? If it is keep doing what your doing and back off the PhD studies for a while. If it is not then get rid of it and take a job at the school as a G.A. If your are getting your PhD through a distance learning school look for an adjunct position at a local community college while you finish your PhD.I HATE MY JOB. 10 points for best advice?
You deserve to get out of their and find a job that will benefit your talents and education. It might not be easy to begin with, but I'm sure it will be worth it, especially if you know you want it and can do it.
Good luck :)
P.S. Your English is good :)
you hate your job, then quit. you CAN make that choice.
I agree with the first person to answer. Quit.
However I would save up enough money to live on for a while before you do so.
My advice is to quit!! life is too short to be doing work that you hate!
I recently hate my job for various reasons such as politics, unprofessional, and too much workload for me. I have 4 different bosses in the past year. The newest boss is the stupid person. She asked to do everything, but she does not even understand the work.
P.S. I earned Master's Degree and am now doing Ph.D. I constantly believe that I am deserved to be treat better with my education and talents. Although, I am young and inexperience. Sorry, English is my second language.I HATE MY JOB. 10 points for best advice?
I am surprised that the school you are getting your PhD from is allowing you to keep working like that.
Is your goal to be an office manager? If it is keep doing what your doing and back off the PhD studies for a while. If it is not then get rid of it and take a job at the school as a G.A. If your are getting your PhD through a distance learning school look for an adjunct position at a local community college while you finish your PhD.I HATE MY JOB. 10 points for best advice?
You deserve to get out of their and find a job that will benefit your talents and education. It might not be easy to begin with, but I'm sure it will be worth it, especially if you know you want it and can do it.
Good luck :)
P.S. Your English is good :)
you hate your job, then quit. you CAN make that choice.
I agree with the first person to answer. Quit.
However I would save up enough money to live on for a while before you do so.
My advice is to quit!! life is too short to be doing work that you hate!
Is she worth it i need the best advice?
my girlfriend broke up with me 6 month ago because she started dated this guy.we were in relation for 8 years.actually i lived in san francisco.i took the break up very badly,i felt so lonely.since 3 month my ex was having tough relationship with a new boyfriend and a roommate,she started to talk to me,i help her through this situation and we started kissing sleeping with each over and having great sex i though i could be back with her,most of the night she will turn up to my place for something to eat.i have a job to go back to ireland i fell like living america and start a new life because she told me she doesnt love me anymore and she fell attracted to other guy,she just recently start to talk to this friend and boyfriend,i fell she really use me
god i need the best adviceIs she worth it i need the best advice?
Yes, she used you. It was hard to tell at first because you were blinded by the fact that you still love and care about her. You were kinda like a safe haven just in case things with her and her new boyfriend did not work out, like in this case, it didnt.. If I were you, I would go ahead and take the job back in Ireland, and start brand new.. Maybe that is what you need to finally push you to move on from her.. It will not be easy because you and her were together for 8 years, but that is the step you may need to take.
You will find someone who is deserving of your love and affection.. I wish it was more men like you, especially where I live.. Good Luck!Is she worth it i need the best advice?
Seems to me she wants attention and doesn't know who she really wants. You don't need your emotions played with. I would ask her if I were you ';should I move on or not'; see her response and if you don't get good feed back move on to another who would appreciate you
Next time she comes round, ask her what the hell is going on. Confrontation is the key baby.
she's whore
This is easy. You are blinded by the fact that you care for her.. If you could be objective then you would see she is using you and you could be pissed off and see it to get over her. breaking up is hard. your problem is that oyu are obviously a good perosn. She has taken advantage and you know it and it hurts. /you think by getting back with her that voids her actions, but it doesnt. Can you trust her? No. Is she worth it? No Do you need to be a man? Yes. Dont let her walk all over you. She is the loser. Not you.makeup hair cheap make up
god i need the best adviceIs she worth it i need the best advice?
Yes, she used you. It was hard to tell at first because you were blinded by the fact that you still love and care about her. You were kinda like a safe haven just in case things with her and her new boyfriend did not work out, like in this case, it didnt.. If I were you, I would go ahead and take the job back in Ireland, and start brand new.. Maybe that is what you need to finally push you to move on from her.. It will not be easy because you and her were together for 8 years, but that is the step you may need to take.
You will find someone who is deserving of your love and affection.. I wish it was more men like you, especially where I live.. Good Luck!Is she worth it i need the best advice?
Seems to me she wants attention and doesn't know who she really wants. You don't need your emotions played with. I would ask her if I were you ';should I move on or not'; see her response and if you don't get good feed back move on to another who would appreciate you
Next time she comes round, ask her what the hell is going on. Confrontation is the key baby.
she's whore
This is easy. You are blinded by the fact that you care for her.. If you could be objective then you would see she is using you and you could be pissed off and see it to get over her. breaking up is hard. your problem is that oyu are obviously a good perosn. She has taken advantage and you know it and it hurts. /you think by getting back with her that voids her actions, but it doesnt. Can you trust her? No. Is she worth it? No Do you need to be a man? Yes. Dont let her walk all over you. She is the loser. Not you.
Basic Grammar help. 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
I want to ';title'; my artifacts/work samples on my portfolio. Please help correct the grammar or rename it for me. English is my second language. Thank you very much.
Project 1
UNDERGRADUATE BUSINESS PROGRAMS COMPARISON PRESENT BY HOPE SMITH
Project 2
Review and Performance Analysis of the Housing Opportunities for Persons with AIDS (HOPWA) Program as
Administered through the U.S. Department of Housing and Urban Development Present By Hope Smith
Project 3
MBA Program Admission Record Present By Hope Amith
Project 4
Fall 2006 Schedule of Class Present By Hope SmithBasic Grammar help. 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
Project 1
A Comparison of Undergraduate Business Programs - Presented by Hope Smith
Project 2
Review and Performance Analysis of Housing Opportunities for Persons with AIDS (HOPWA) Program; as administered through the U.S. Department of Housing and Urban Development - Presented by Hope Smith
Project 3
MBA Program Admission Records - Presented by Hope Smith
Project 4
Class Schedule of Fall 2006 - Presented by Hope Smith
Hope this helps!Basic Grammar help. 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
You understand and write English language. The only change I would make is to use a different form of the word present. I would use presented instead of present.
Good luck and God bless you!
WE'VE BEEN THROUGH THIS ALREADY,DO IT THE BEST TO YOUR ABILITY THATS ALL YOU CAN DO ,NOBODY IS PERFECT
I think this present by is wrong, it should be
presented by: Hope Smith
There's nothing to be corrected, they are all fine.
Looks good Hope. Your getting better.
its perfect
Project 1
UNDERGRADUATE BUSINESS PROGRAMS COMPARISON PRESENT BY HOPE SMITH
Project 2
Review and Performance Analysis of the Housing Opportunities for Persons with AIDS (HOPWA) Program as
Administered through the U.S. Department of Housing and Urban Development Present By Hope Smith
Project 3
MBA Program Admission Record Present By Hope Amith
Project 4
Fall 2006 Schedule of Class Present By Hope SmithBasic Grammar help. 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
Project 1
A Comparison of Undergraduate Business Programs - Presented by Hope Smith
Project 2
Review and Performance Analysis of Housing Opportunities for Persons with AIDS (HOPWA) Program; as administered through the U.S. Department of Housing and Urban Development - Presented by Hope Smith
Project 3
MBA Program Admission Records - Presented by Hope Smith
Project 4
Class Schedule of Fall 2006 - Presented by Hope Smith
Hope this helps!Basic Grammar help. 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
You understand and write English language. The only change I would make is to use a different form of the word present. I would use presented instead of present.
Good luck and God bless you!
WE'VE BEEN THROUGH THIS ALREADY,DO IT THE BEST TO YOUR ABILITY THATS ALL YOU CAN DO ,NOBODY IS PERFECT
I think this present by is wrong, it should be
presented by: Hope Smith
There's nothing to be corrected, they are all fine.
Looks good Hope. Your getting better.
its perfect
Grammar help please. 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
Please find enclosed a research paper submitted as a Public Budgeting semester project to the faculty of Bowie State University in 2007 entitled ';Review and Performance Analysis of the HOPWA (Housing Opportunities for Persons with Aids) Program as Administered through HUD (U.S. Department of Housing and Urban Development)';. The enclosed version is an abridged version, condensed and summarized for this important application.
I would also like to express my deepest gratitude for taking time from your busy schedules to review my application. I am very interested in meeting with you for an interview to express in person my sincere interest. If you have any questions, please feel free to contact me by phone ..or by e-mail...
Thank you very much again for your time and consideration.
Respectfully yours,
HopeGrammar help please. 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
Here's your letter rewritten with grammar corrections...
Please find enclosed a research paper submitted as a Public Budgeting semester project to the faculty of Bowie State University in 2007. The paper is found entitled ';Review and Performance Analysis of the HOPWA (Housing Opportunities for Persons with Aids) Program as Administered through HUD (U.S. Department of Housing and Urban Development)';. The enclosed version is an abridged interpretation, which has been condensed and summarized for this important application.
I would also like to express my deepest gratitude to you, for taking the time from your busy schedules to review my application. I am very interested in meeting with you for an interview to express, in person, my sincere interest. If you have any questions, or require any further information, please do not hesitate to contact me, either by telephone or email.
Thank you once again for your time and consideration.
Yours sincerely,
Hope
I hope that helps!!
Eva xGrammar help please. 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
General points:
1) How does the research paper relate to this application? Might want to explain it's relevance? Such as ';This paper reflects similar work to that done at your company, and I feel it is an accurate representation of the quality I can provide.';
2) A formal greeting may be nice. Sometimes ';To whom it may concern'; seems impersonal. If it's a specific person it would work to say ';Dear Mr. XXXX.';
3) The ';...'; towards the end seems to informal
4) The new wording below reflects my assumptions: that this is an application for a first job right out of college. I removed some items that seemed redundant or distracting from the intent of your letter. First paragraph is ';business only'; then the second paragraph expresses the gratitude.
~~~~
Mr. XYZ,
Please find enclosed a research paper entitled ';Review and Performance Analysis of the HOPWA (Housing Opportunities for Persons with AIDS) Program as Administered through HUD (U.S. Department of Housing and Urban Development)';. This paper was submitted to the faculty of Bowie State University in 2007 as a Public Budgeting semester project. The enclosed version is an abridged version, condensed and summarized for this application.
I would like to express my gratitude for the time from your busy schedules to review my application. I am very interested in meeting with you for an interview to learn more from you and to discuss my qualifications in person. If you have any questions, please feel free to contact me at any time.
Thank you again for your time and consideration.
Respectfully yours,
Hope
222-555-1234
hope@mail.com
Functional grammar issue: ... you for an interview to express in ... Missing a link of some kind.
Better:
... interview, so that I may [have an opportunity to] convey to you my sincere interest [in this position], in person.
(Formal English can be wordy sometimes, can't it?)
Paragraph break before ';If you have any questions.';
Punctuation, and slightly awkward:
- Thank you very much again for your time and consideration.
Better:
- Thank you, again, for your time and consideration.
just a few suggestions, your title should have the long name then the abbreviations in (). so ';Review and Performance Analysis of the Housing Opportunities for Persons with Aids (HOPWA) Program as Administered through U.S. Department of Housing and Urban Development.
I would take out the next line ';the enclosed version..'; and just have ';abridged'; included in the first sentence.'
there's a lot of 'sucking up' in this, so i'd cut down on that a little.
sounds good, good luck!
I would also like to express my deepest gratitude for taking time from your busy schedules to review my application. I am very interested in meeting with you for an interview to express in person my sincere interest. If you have any questions, please feel free to contact me by phone ..or by e-mail...
Thank you very much again for your time and consideration.
Respectfully yours,
HopeGrammar help please. 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
Here's your letter rewritten with grammar corrections...
Please find enclosed a research paper submitted as a Public Budgeting semester project to the faculty of Bowie State University in 2007. The paper is found entitled ';Review and Performance Analysis of the HOPWA (Housing Opportunities for Persons with Aids) Program as Administered through HUD (U.S. Department of Housing and Urban Development)';. The enclosed version is an abridged interpretation, which has been condensed and summarized for this important application.
I would also like to express my deepest gratitude to you, for taking the time from your busy schedules to review my application. I am very interested in meeting with you for an interview to express, in person, my sincere interest. If you have any questions, or require any further information, please do not hesitate to contact me, either by telephone or email.
Thank you once again for your time and consideration.
Yours sincerely,
Hope
I hope that helps!!
Eva xGrammar help please. 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
General points:
1) How does the research paper relate to this application? Might want to explain it's relevance? Such as ';This paper reflects similar work to that done at your company, and I feel it is an accurate representation of the quality I can provide.';
2) A formal greeting may be nice. Sometimes ';To whom it may concern'; seems impersonal. If it's a specific person it would work to say ';Dear Mr. XXXX.';
3) The ';...'; towards the end seems to informal
4) The new wording below reflects my assumptions: that this is an application for a first job right out of college. I removed some items that seemed redundant or distracting from the intent of your letter. First paragraph is ';business only'; then the second paragraph expresses the gratitude.
~~~~
Mr. XYZ,
Please find enclosed a research paper entitled ';Review and Performance Analysis of the HOPWA (Housing Opportunities for Persons with AIDS) Program as Administered through HUD (U.S. Department of Housing and Urban Development)';. This paper was submitted to the faculty of Bowie State University in 2007 as a Public Budgeting semester project. The enclosed version is an abridged version, condensed and summarized for this application.
I would like to express my gratitude for the time from your busy schedules to review my application. I am very interested in meeting with you for an interview to learn more from you and to discuss my qualifications in person. If you have any questions, please feel free to contact me at any time.
Thank you again for your time and consideration.
Respectfully yours,
Hope
222-555-1234
hope@mail.com
Functional grammar issue: ... you for an interview to express in ... Missing a link of some kind.
Better:
... interview, so that I may [have an opportunity to] convey to you my sincere interest [in this position], in person.
(Formal English can be wordy sometimes, can't it?)
Paragraph break before ';If you have any questions.';
Punctuation, and slightly awkward:
- Thank you very much again for your time and consideration.
Better:
- Thank you, again, for your time and consideration.
just a few suggestions, your title should have the long name then the abbreviations in (). so ';Review and Performance Analysis of the Housing Opportunities for Persons with Aids (HOPWA) Program as Administered through U.S. Department of Housing and Urban Development.
I would take out the next line ';the enclosed version..'; and just have ';abridged'; included in the first sentence.'
there's a lot of 'sucking up' in this, so i'd cut down on that a little.
sounds good, good luck!
C++ HELP! NEED HELP. 10 points for best advice?
#include%26lt;iostream%26gt;
#include%26lt;fstream%26gt;
#include%26lt;string%26gt;
using namespace std;
int main ()
{
string movieName;
int number_of_seniors_tix_sold;
int number_of_adults_tix_sold;
int number_of_children_tix_sold;
double gross_profit;
double net_profit;
double amount_paid_to_distributor;
double everything_total;
double total_tickets_sold;
ofstream moviefile;
moviefile.open (';movie.txt';);
double senior_tickets_profit;
double children_tickets_profit;
double adult_tickets_profit;
cout%26lt;%26lt; ';Please enter movie name';%26lt;%26lt;endl;
getline(cin, movieName);
cout%26lt;%26lt; ';Please enter the number of senior tickets sold'; %26lt;%26lt;endl;
cin%26gt;%26gt; number_of_seniors_tix_sold;
cout%26lt;%26lt; ';Please enter the number of adult tickets sold'; %26lt;%26lt;endl;
cin%26gt;%26gt; number_of_adults_tix_sold;
cout%26lt;%26lt; '; Please enter the number of children tickets sold';%26lt;%26lt;endl;
cin%26gt;%26gt; number_of_children_tix_sold;
senior_tickets_profit = number_of_seniors_tix_sold * 8.50;
adult_tickets_profit = number_of_adults_tix_sold * 13.00;
children_tickets_profit = number_of_children_tix_sold * 4.75;
total_tickets_sold = number_of_children_tix_sold + number_of_adults_tix_sold + number_of_seniors_tix_sold;
gross_profit = senior_tickets_profit + children_tickets_profit + adult_tickets_profit;
amount_paid_to_distributor = .55* gross_profit;
net_profit = gross_profit-amount_paid_to_distributor;
moviefile %26lt;%26lt; total_tickets_sold %26lt;%26lt;endl;
moviefile %26lt;%26lt; gross_profit %26lt;%26lt;endl;
moviefile %26lt;%26lt; net_profit%26lt;%26lt; endl;
moviefile %26lt;%26lt; amount_paid_to_distributor%26lt;%26lt; endl;
return 0;C++ HELP! NEED HELP. 10 points for best advice?
WHAT THE HELL?
THIS IS OFF TOPIC BUT OH WELL
90% of锘?teens would breakdown if Miley Cyrus was standing on the edge of a 6 story building... repost this if you would be the 10% sayin JUMP *****!!C++ HELP! NEED HELP. 10 points for best advice?
what the ????
????? WHAT R U TALKING ABOUT!!!!!!
#include%26lt;fstream%26gt;
#include%26lt;string%26gt;
using namespace std;
int main ()
{
string movieName;
int number_of_seniors_tix_sold;
int number_of_adults_tix_sold;
int number_of_children_tix_sold;
double gross_profit;
double net_profit;
double amount_paid_to_distributor;
double everything_total;
double total_tickets_sold;
ofstream moviefile;
moviefile.open (';movie.txt';);
double senior_tickets_profit;
double children_tickets_profit;
double adult_tickets_profit;
cout%26lt;%26lt; ';Please enter movie name';%26lt;%26lt;endl;
getline(cin, movieName);
cout%26lt;%26lt; ';Please enter the number of senior tickets sold'; %26lt;%26lt;endl;
cin%26gt;%26gt; number_of_seniors_tix_sold;
cout%26lt;%26lt; ';Please enter the number of adult tickets sold'; %26lt;%26lt;endl;
cin%26gt;%26gt; number_of_adults_tix_sold;
cout%26lt;%26lt; '; Please enter the number of children tickets sold';%26lt;%26lt;endl;
cin%26gt;%26gt; number_of_children_tix_sold;
senior_tickets_profit = number_of_seniors_tix_sold * 8.50;
adult_tickets_profit = number_of_adults_tix_sold * 13.00;
children_tickets_profit = number_of_children_tix_sold * 4.75;
total_tickets_sold = number_of_children_tix_sold + number_of_adults_tix_sold + number_of_seniors_tix_sold;
gross_profit = senior_tickets_profit + children_tickets_profit + adult_tickets_profit;
amount_paid_to_distributor = .55* gross_profit;
net_profit = gross_profit-amount_paid_to_distributor;
moviefile %26lt;%26lt; total_tickets_sold %26lt;%26lt;endl;
moviefile %26lt;%26lt; gross_profit %26lt;%26lt;endl;
moviefile %26lt;%26lt; net_profit%26lt;%26lt; endl;
moviefile %26lt;%26lt; amount_paid_to_distributor%26lt;%26lt; endl;
return 0;C++ HELP! NEED HELP. 10 points for best advice?
WHAT THE HELL?
THIS IS OFF TOPIC BUT OH WELL
90% of锘?teens would breakdown if Miley Cyrus was standing on the edge of a 6 story building... repost this if you would be the 10% sayin JUMP *****!!C++ HELP! NEED HELP. 10 points for best advice?
what the ????
????? WHAT R U TALKING ABOUT!!!!!!
Marketing/Sales companies? 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
I just posted my resume on career builder yesterday. I applied for many positions by using quick apply methods. Today, I got 6 interview phone calls for from different sale/marketing companies. They all said, the same thing, ';we have received yor resume and would like to set up face-to-face interview with you. Please bring your copy of resume and three references and dress professionally.';
I did not recall sumbit my resume with them. However, they claimed I did. Why is that? Please advice. Thank you.
I am going to the interviews anyway. My goal is to work for aNon-profit organization, but they hardly call me for interview. When I go to interview--they don't hire me. I am very stress and worried.
Thank youMarketing/Sales companies? 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
by posting your resume, it is accessible by employers looking for people.
getting six interviews the first day is phenomenal success! obviously you have a nice resume and marketable skills. Maybe you need to polish your interview skills. Get interviewing tips from the job sites-careerbuiler, monster, yahoo jobs, etc. they all have articles on it. Here are a few tips (I interview lots of people)
1. it's ok to be nervous-it's expected, but keep your composure
2. act professionally, but not too ';stiff';-smile alot and try to let your personality show through. they are hiring people, not robots.
3. ask about the job, but not salary, benefits, etc. if they don't go over that at the interview, or if it's not clear, don't worry-you can get it cleared up when they make an offer, before you accept-people who seem too interested in what's in it for them are a turn-off.
4. if you want the job, say so-before you leave, say, something like I'm really interested in woking here. When do you think you'll be making a decision?
5. as far as non-profit work, get some more experience-it is the best way to get closer to where you want to be.
Best of luck!Marketing/Sales companies? 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
It's most likely sales floors looking for more sales associates. I would probably expect to be told all about the company and how great it is, and how you can easily make six figures a year just like everyone else that works there. While some people do make that much money on tele-sales floors, most do not. Like me. Just my 2 cents
You may have to dance with the devil for a while. Get some money put away then start the job search over. Be careful not to go on commission. Thats how they get you to work for free.
Good luck.
by posting your resume on career builder it was sent to companies that have signed up w/career builder....
Hi, By the post you have sent, I say, be VERY careful %26amp; vigilant, (there's to many scams out there) because they might ask you to lay down money for there biz opportunity, if it does'nt cost you anything then you got nothing to lose it just time and effort, hold back trust your insincts, the saying is, (if it sounds to good to be true it propably is'nt) curiosity always kills the cat in my expeiriance. I would go to the meeting and see what they have to offer, i would also do a lot of research and be careful of there kindness and proffesional aproach, thats there way of tempting you, even though you probably don't want to hear it get advice from friends and family, read between the lines then make your own choice.
wish you the best in your decision
Kind Regards
Michael Papacharalambous.
I did not recall sumbit my resume with them. However, they claimed I did. Why is that? Please advice. Thank you.
I am going to the interviews anyway. My goal is to work for aNon-profit organization, but they hardly call me for interview. When I go to interview--they don't hire me. I am very stress and worried.
Thank youMarketing/Sales companies? 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
by posting your resume, it is accessible by employers looking for people.
getting six interviews the first day is phenomenal success! obviously you have a nice resume and marketable skills. Maybe you need to polish your interview skills. Get interviewing tips from the job sites-careerbuiler, monster, yahoo jobs, etc. they all have articles on it. Here are a few tips (I interview lots of people)
1. it's ok to be nervous-it's expected, but keep your composure
2. act professionally, but not too ';stiff';-smile alot and try to let your personality show through. they are hiring people, not robots.
3. ask about the job, but not salary, benefits, etc. if they don't go over that at the interview, or if it's not clear, don't worry-you can get it cleared up when they make an offer, before you accept-people who seem too interested in what's in it for them are a turn-off.
4. if you want the job, say so-before you leave, say, something like I'm really interested in woking here. When do you think you'll be making a decision?
5. as far as non-profit work, get some more experience-it is the best way to get closer to where you want to be.
Best of luck!Marketing/Sales companies? 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
It's most likely sales floors looking for more sales associates. I would probably expect to be told all about the company and how great it is, and how you can easily make six figures a year just like everyone else that works there. While some people do make that much money on tele-sales floors, most do not. Like me. Just my 2 cents
You may have to dance with the devil for a while. Get some money put away then start the job search over. Be careful not to go on commission. Thats how they get you to work for free.
Good luck.
by posting your resume on career builder it was sent to companies that have signed up w/career builder....
Hi, By the post you have sent, I say, be VERY careful %26amp; vigilant, (there's to many scams out there) because they might ask you to lay down money for there biz opportunity, if it does'nt cost you anything then you got nothing to lose it just time and effort, hold back trust your insincts, the saying is, (if it sounds to good to be true it propably is'nt) curiosity always kills the cat in my expeiriance. I would go to the meeting and see what they have to offer, i would also do a lot of research and be careful of there kindness and proffesional aproach, thats there way of tempting you, even though you probably don't want to hear it get advice from friends and family, read between the lines then make your own choice.
wish you the best in your decision
Kind Regards
Michael Papacharalambous.
Relationship and personality. 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
I met this guy four years ago. We have a very strong physical connection and amazing chemistry. Even though we separate. We still see each other present and long for each other everyday.
On the other hand, we have nothing in common. We both an egocentric person. It is hard for us to show the true feelings toward each other because of our pride. We have done poorly in the communicate areas.
Honestly, I am setting a very high standard for my mate. I want a very ambition, smart, mature, hard working, and conscientious, honest, and faithful man. (My father have proved such man does exist!)
I am 22. I work two jobs. I will finish my master in May. I have no debts. He is 24. He is still doing his undergrad. He is a college football player and got 3.9 GPA. However, I just don't think he is a man of my dream. He doesn't have as much as drive as I have.
Will this work? What do you think? Please advice. Thank you very much
Sorry English is my second language.Relationship and personality. 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
You're so young to be thinking 'long-term' already. It's great to have someone in your life, but why use up that time on someone you're questioning? You've given us your list as to why it won't work, you've answered your own question. You're young, have fun, work hard and you'll be fine w/o him.Relationship and personality. 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
The bottom line is are you happy with this person?
Look more for happiness then drive/GPA and education.
If you were stuck on an isolated island would you want to
be with this person?
he will change overtime.
Nobody is ';Perfect';
Sounds to me as if you have already made a decision.....he's not what you are looking for in a life time partnership. The perfect guy for you may be someone else's nightmare. We all have different standards as to what is important in a partner.
Your dad may be all those things you mentioned.....as a DAD. You aren't marrying a dad, you are marrying an equal to share your life. My dad was all those things too and my husband is nothing like my dad. That said, I have been married 31 years and we get along great.
Don't look for a life partner until you master your communication skills. Above all else that will get you through the rough spots in life. You may have goals but it's social skills that define a relationship.
I've been in a similar position and trust me, the relationship will just get harder if you have nothing in common.
i dont think it would work. it will bring up issues later n then ud b together so long ull be that couple that u hate
Comminication is very important but remember there is no perfect man and your dad is your dad ..noone can compare to him but if you dont get rid of your pride you may never find happiness. Does he make you happy? Learn to compromise!
You are both still very young, there's no need to get into a 'oh he's the one'.
You are both very different, not much in common except your enjoyment of sex.....If you stay with him you BOTH will have to learn to communicate effectively. Learn how to argue productively...
As women, we instinctively look for a man like our father---assuming that he was a good man. I don't know how many times I told my mama 'I'm gonna marry a man just like Daddy'.......took me awhile, but I did! He's honest, loving, trustworthy, fun, handyman, a beautiful soul, works hard.....And he's in the military, just like my daddy.
';Just don't buy into the fantasy of a ';dream'; guy because he doesn't exist. There is no such thing as a perfect person or perfect mate. We are all flawed in some way.';
I agree with the part of there's no perfect person, and we ALL are flawed in some way. I agree with that. What I don't agree with is that there isn't a perfect guy----of course there's a perfect guy for you OP. He just has to be perfect for YOU.
So it begs to ask: can you live with his faults? Cute or irritating faults? Can he live with yours?? Can you live and ACCEPT that he's not as driven as you are?
If he standards aren't the same as yours.....he may not be the guy for you. If not---turn him loose and don't invest any more time in this relationship.
Good luck hon.
It sounds like you two are great people. Why would it not work? There is nothing wrong with having standards either.
Just don't buy into the fantasy of a ';dream'; guy because he doesn't exist. There is no such thing as a perfect person or perfect mate. We are all flawed in some way.
But what I gather is that you don't want to be with this guy, otherwise you would not be questioning your relationship.
My advice would be to cool off the relationship for a while and date other people. You are very young to be thinking about settling down, and have alot of life ahead of you. If the two of you are meant to be, then it will happen. Why not take the risk and see what the world has in store for you? I get the feeling you appreciate him, but feel there could be someone else more compatible out there for you. Good luck!
This will only work if you both want and allow it to and are willing to work together to build a stronge foundation. Seek out the advise from marriage counselors to find out the best way, follow their advise and make it work.
First of all if your expectation is set so high that he cannot reach it you have set him up for failure through no fault of his own. If we turn it around and his expectation of you is one that you cannot reach how would you feel about that decision on his part because you weren't what he thought you could be.
When you put the shoes on the other pair of feet and walk awhile you might just find your answer that will work for you.
I've been in a relationship like this too. Opposites attract but it takes alot of commonality to stick together. You're too young to be worrying about this stuff anyway. Continue with your Masters and follow your dream. Not a dream guy.
You have described the beginning of a relationship. With the info given the only problem is social status. You feel that you might not be able to walk in the same circles. With a little grooming I bet this guy would make an excellent mate. Communication can be improved but you have to be willing to come down to his level. You may be surprised at how much you do have in common.
Give it a shot. You have a good start. You know all his faults.
On the other hand, we have nothing in common. We both an egocentric person. It is hard for us to show the true feelings toward each other because of our pride. We have done poorly in the communicate areas.
Honestly, I am setting a very high standard for my mate. I want a very ambition, smart, mature, hard working, and conscientious, honest, and faithful man. (My father have proved such man does exist!)
I am 22. I work two jobs. I will finish my master in May. I have no debts. He is 24. He is still doing his undergrad. He is a college football player and got 3.9 GPA. However, I just don't think he is a man of my dream. He doesn't have as much as drive as I have.
Will this work? What do you think? Please advice. Thank you very much
Sorry English is my second language.Relationship and personality. 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
You're so young to be thinking 'long-term' already. It's great to have someone in your life, but why use up that time on someone you're questioning? You've given us your list as to why it won't work, you've answered your own question. You're young, have fun, work hard and you'll be fine w/o him.Relationship and personality. 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
The bottom line is are you happy with this person?
Look more for happiness then drive/GPA and education.
If you were stuck on an isolated island would you want to
be with this person?
he will change overtime.
Nobody is ';Perfect';
Sounds to me as if you have already made a decision.....he's not what you are looking for in a life time partnership. The perfect guy for you may be someone else's nightmare. We all have different standards as to what is important in a partner.
Your dad may be all those things you mentioned.....as a DAD. You aren't marrying a dad, you are marrying an equal to share your life. My dad was all those things too and my husband is nothing like my dad. That said, I have been married 31 years and we get along great.
Don't look for a life partner until you master your communication skills. Above all else that will get you through the rough spots in life. You may have goals but it's social skills that define a relationship.
I've been in a similar position and trust me, the relationship will just get harder if you have nothing in common.
i dont think it would work. it will bring up issues later n then ud b together so long ull be that couple that u hate
Comminication is very important but remember there is no perfect man and your dad is your dad ..noone can compare to him but if you dont get rid of your pride you may never find happiness. Does he make you happy? Learn to compromise!
You are both still very young, there's no need to get into a 'oh he's the one'.
You are both very different, not much in common except your enjoyment of sex.....If you stay with him you BOTH will have to learn to communicate effectively. Learn how to argue productively...
As women, we instinctively look for a man like our father---assuming that he was a good man. I don't know how many times I told my mama 'I'm gonna marry a man just like Daddy'.......took me awhile, but I did! He's honest, loving, trustworthy, fun, handyman, a beautiful soul, works hard.....And he's in the military, just like my daddy.
';Just don't buy into the fantasy of a ';dream'; guy because he doesn't exist. There is no such thing as a perfect person or perfect mate. We are all flawed in some way.';
I agree with the part of there's no perfect person, and we ALL are flawed in some way. I agree with that. What I don't agree with is that there isn't a perfect guy----of course there's a perfect guy for you OP. He just has to be perfect for YOU.
So it begs to ask: can you live with his faults? Cute or irritating faults? Can he live with yours?? Can you live and ACCEPT that he's not as driven as you are?
If he standards aren't the same as yours.....he may not be the guy for you. If not---turn him loose and don't invest any more time in this relationship.
Good luck hon.
It sounds like you two are great people. Why would it not work? There is nothing wrong with having standards either.
Just don't buy into the fantasy of a ';dream'; guy because he doesn't exist. There is no such thing as a perfect person or perfect mate. We are all flawed in some way.
But what I gather is that you don't want to be with this guy, otherwise you would not be questioning your relationship.
My advice would be to cool off the relationship for a while and date other people. You are very young to be thinking about settling down, and have alot of life ahead of you. If the two of you are meant to be, then it will happen. Why not take the risk and see what the world has in store for you? I get the feeling you appreciate him, but feel there could be someone else more compatible out there for you. Good luck!
This will only work if you both want and allow it to and are willing to work together to build a stronge foundation. Seek out the advise from marriage counselors to find out the best way, follow their advise and make it work.
First of all if your expectation is set so high that he cannot reach it you have set him up for failure through no fault of his own. If we turn it around and his expectation of you is one that you cannot reach how would you feel about that decision on his part because you weren't what he thought you could be.
When you put the shoes on the other pair of feet and walk awhile you might just find your answer that will work for you.
I've been in a relationship like this too. Opposites attract but it takes alot of commonality to stick together. You're too young to be worrying about this stuff anyway. Continue with your Masters and follow your dream. Not a dream guy.
You have described the beginning of a relationship. With the info given the only problem is social status. You feel that you might not be able to walk in the same circles. With a little grooming I bet this guy would make an excellent mate. Communication can be improved but you have to be willing to come down to his level. You may be surprised at how much you do have in common.
Give it a shot. You have a good start. You know all his faults.
Daughter to mother problem? ten points for best advice?
Sorry im reposting this! pls answer xx
okay. so first..
I auditioned for a Pantomine. And I got it (: so that takes up:
Thursday(afterschool) and Saturday + Tuesday (once near performance)
and its only the chorus, since 18+ are allowed for principle roles :'(
I auditioned for another play, Sweeny todd. i know i wont get in cuz 800 auditioned for 50 spots. but my mum go so PISSED off with me!! She said that if i got in, it would take up wednesday and then i couldnt concentrate on my studies!.. since I already have piano and hockey after schools on tuesdays, football on wednesdays .
I know i wont get in. so yeah.
Theres another audition coming up!! I really want to try it out!
But i dont know if i should, after my mum gave me a huge lecture on sunday, and i ended up crying etc etc etc!
SO WHAT SHOULD I DO??
she said i wont be able to concentrate on my academics. but i told her i can!! She said my dad and her will be wasting LOADS of money! =.=
HAI.
help!
xxDaughter to mother problem? ten points for best advice?
Why cant you be happy with what you already have ? To do what you have described properly you need to be dedicated . If you take on too much you are going to burn out and something is going to suffer. most probably your school work . The other things a great and sound like a lot of fun but you have to know your limits . You are only thirteen so i assume your mum has to do a lot of driving around getting you to and from all these activities so have you taken into account how much extra work it will be for her . another thing to consider is how much money all these activities cost . If you have other siblings take into account their intrests add to that food bills , elec and gas fuel. mortgage,basic family needs and such.so ask yourself honestly am i being selfish ?
young people can tend to forget about the costs of day to day livingDaughter to mother problem? ten points for best advice?
Your mother doesn't want you to overcommit yourself, and she's right. You have to learn to budget your time. Your first priority should be your studies.
the right thing to do is to always respect your parents.
So hard! I know as a teenager I would be auditioning all the time as I loved singing and dancing etc. But now I look back, I really let my studies slip and didn't get the grades I wanted. You only get one chance to be in school. You have the rest of your life to be on stage. I know it's not what you want to hear so, sorry about that. Also, if your parents have fleetingly mentioned money, it may mean that they are struggling financially but don't want to put too much strain on you so are using studies as a cover up for their embarrassment. I know you would rather have people say, put theatre first but in my opinion, you can study theatre whenever you want. What if you get bad grades? That then leads to a poor college education (or none at all) and then a bad job which you hate. Think about things in the long run rather than what you want now. Sorry.
I鈥檝e been in this situation so.... many times... it's really annoying+ CONFUSING! parents huh...well see if your a brilliant or just above avg. student then no problems... you wont be able to stand the embarrassment of slipping a grade.... (totally!) but if you not(like me...) you learn to compromise... will you please take it from me putting too much on that plate of yours is not going to help anyone... especially not you don鈥檛 you think you should wait a bit more before actually taking serious roles on.... because by then you would be able to concentrate on a part better than right now. I feel the same guilt when my parents tell me the same and the fact of the matter is it鈥檚 true, specially if they are eternally in a financial crisis.
*besides don鈥檛 act to fast 鈥?what happens if you get the 鈥損art then you audition and get the other part鈥? Don鈥檛 ! stop think ahead don鈥檛 let it pile up on you later.
Concentrate on and pass your exams for the moment,then you may become a wonderful performer,they just want you to keep your options open,my mother doesnt let me do anything because of school-I am with no clubs or i do no sport,i am with no theatre group and i would LOVE to act i can also sing very well,the point im making is that you are very lucky-your mother does consider your recreational needs,but now she just wants you to tone it down a little,once you get a job from your degrees or whatever you will have money to spend on such things
I've been in this situation, too. I was auditioning for plays, but I was in the orchestra pit of touring musicals. I had one that I was to play for but mom said no way because of school. I did it anyway, and she yelled at me badly. I proved her wrong by doing well in school and still did the play. Mom never let me live that down for a long time. But I did well enough in school that she really couldn't say anything.
Do what you love to do but still respect your parents. Try to get them to understand how important this is to you. That's the biggest hurdle.makeup hair cheap make up
okay. so first..
I auditioned for a Pantomine. And I got it (: so that takes up:
Thursday(afterschool) and Saturday + Tuesday (once near performance)
and its only the chorus, since 18+ are allowed for principle roles :'(
I auditioned for another play, Sweeny todd. i know i wont get in cuz 800 auditioned for 50 spots. but my mum go so PISSED off with me!! She said that if i got in, it would take up wednesday and then i couldnt concentrate on my studies!.. since I already have piano and hockey after schools on tuesdays, football on wednesdays .
I know i wont get in. so yeah.
Theres another audition coming up!! I really want to try it out!
But i dont know if i should, after my mum gave me a huge lecture on sunday, and i ended up crying etc etc etc!
SO WHAT SHOULD I DO??
she said i wont be able to concentrate on my academics. but i told her i can!! She said my dad and her will be wasting LOADS of money! =.=
HAI.
help!
xxDaughter to mother problem? ten points for best advice?
Why cant you be happy with what you already have ? To do what you have described properly you need to be dedicated . If you take on too much you are going to burn out and something is going to suffer. most probably your school work . The other things a great and sound like a lot of fun but you have to know your limits . You are only thirteen so i assume your mum has to do a lot of driving around getting you to and from all these activities so have you taken into account how much extra work it will be for her . another thing to consider is how much money all these activities cost . If you have other siblings take into account their intrests add to that food bills , elec and gas fuel. mortgage,basic family needs and such.so ask yourself honestly am i being selfish ?
young people can tend to forget about the costs of day to day livingDaughter to mother problem? ten points for best advice?
Your mother doesn't want you to overcommit yourself, and she's right. You have to learn to budget your time. Your first priority should be your studies.
the right thing to do is to always respect your parents.
So hard! I know as a teenager I would be auditioning all the time as I loved singing and dancing etc. But now I look back, I really let my studies slip and didn't get the grades I wanted. You only get one chance to be in school. You have the rest of your life to be on stage. I know it's not what you want to hear so, sorry about that. Also, if your parents have fleetingly mentioned money, it may mean that they are struggling financially but don't want to put too much strain on you so are using studies as a cover up for their embarrassment. I know you would rather have people say, put theatre first but in my opinion, you can study theatre whenever you want. What if you get bad grades? That then leads to a poor college education (or none at all) and then a bad job which you hate. Think about things in the long run rather than what you want now. Sorry.
I鈥檝e been in this situation so.... many times... it's really annoying+ CONFUSING! parents huh...well see if your a brilliant or just above avg. student then no problems... you wont be able to stand the embarrassment of slipping a grade.... (totally!) but if you not(like me...) you learn to compromise... will you please take it from me putting too much on that plate of yours is not going to help anyone... especially not you don鈥檛 you think you should wait a bit more before actually taking serious roles on.... because by then you would be able to concentrate on a part better than right now. I feel the same guilt when my parents tell me the same and the fact of the matter is it鈥檚 true, specially if they are eternally in a financial crisis.
*besides don鈥檛 act to fast 鈥?what happens if you get the 鈥損art then you audition and get the other part鈥? Don鈥檛 ! stop think ahead don鈥檛 let it pile up on you later.
Concentrate on and pass your exams for the moment,then you may become a wonderful performer,they just want you to keep your options open,my mother doesnt let me do anything because of school-I am with no clubs or i do no sport,i am with no theatre group and i would LOVE to act i can also sing very well,the point im making is that you are very lucky-your mother does consider your recreational needs,but now she just wants you to tone it down a little,once you get a job from your degrees or whatever you will have money to spend on such things
I've been in this situation, too. I was auditioning for plays, but I was in the orchestra pit of touring musicals. I had one that I was to play for but mom said no way because of school. I did it anyway, and she yelled at me badly. I proved her wrong by doing well in school and still did the play. Mom never let me live that down for a long time. But I did well enough in school that she really couldn't say anything.
Do what you love to do but still respect your parents. Try to get them to understand how important this is to you. That's the biggest hurdle.
Ten points to anyone who gives the best advice?
I'm Bisexual....but I was raised in a very strict christian home, and also I live in such a close minded community. Everyone is like ewe she's gay she kisses girls and they're always pretty rude. But besides that which doesn't bother much, I just have conflict with myself, I keep thinking God hates you, you're going to hell, I even have nightmares about it. But I have such strong feelings for my girlfriend I love her with all my heart that I won't stop myself. I'm so committed to her, and she's the world to me. I just can't stop feeling guilty every time I say I love you or when I'm doing things with her. I keep imagining my family knowing or finding out somehow and it makes it worse. I'm always nervous too. I don't know what to do. How to stop feeling guilty with myself? Sorry to those who answered before, but I really need more detail...But thanks anyways :)Ten points to anyone who gives the best advice?
I am assuming that you are a young person
Millions of young people get answers to their Questions and some much needed practical advice here
http://watchtower.org/e/archives/index.h…
I hope you find peace of mindTen points to anyone who gives the best advice?
I don't believe in God, let's make that clear. And I won't use this opportunity to ';preach'; atheism. So, if you do believe in God and you believe He is infinitely wise, than he made you the way you are. There is nothing wrong with you and you are perfect in His eyes. He loves you just the way you are. So stop feeling guilty about being in love and enjoy it.
Unless God shows up in person and tells you that he hates you I wouldn't give it another thought. You know your girlfriend is real and that your love for her is real but the god thing is just something you have been taught by an organization that uses guilt as a tool to keep you in line with their beliefs.
God Does Not hate you! He hates the sin and is saddened by it when you know better but do it anyway. I do not know what else to say to you because you clearly know it is wrong as evidenced by your feelings of guilt and remorse. But be glad you are able to feel that way, perhaps it is the Holy Spirit of God trying to get your attention, the Bible says He chastises those whom He loves!
kinda blunt here but you cant expect people that are close minded to even think outside of thier own zone of beliefs,because of the area your in being close minded but im pretty sure your family would understand and besides it not wrong or immoral, thats all you need to know regardless of the spam of answer of thats wrong and evil you will porably get
To stop guilty, read a couple of books about what religion is and how it works, understand it controls you through guilt, and it will disappear.
May I recommend ';god is not great'; and/or ';the god delusion';?
Hell was made up JUST TO SCARE YOU. Look how well it works!
If Christianity isn't doing much for you, then try to find a more accepting religion. If you're dead-set on being Christian, find a Christian church that is okay with Bisexuality.
It's God trying to pull you closer. Listen to your consciense so it does not dull, and you will land in follies at every turn.
God made man and set him with a woman.
God didn't make man and make another man and a woman and say, go crazy and choose for yourself.
The fact that you feel something at all is good. You have not totally rejected the love that God has for you. But God is just and cannot ignore the wrong you are doing. Don't wait too long to really examine what is right and wrong.
Are you sure you want advise,or reassurance ?If your lifestyle is not making you happy,whats that say?You don't need advise you have already decided what your going to do,its just a matter of when.God bless
t
Always be true to yourself.
U are in a loving relationship. Why is that a sin?
Lighten up, dear. Life doesn't have to be that guilt-provoking.
Your just going to accept the harshness that you god hates you for being you
Do YOU believe in God? Why do you think you feel guilty?
Romans 1 26-27..it is a sin...about homosexuality..
saying that homosexuality is wrong is not a popular thing to do in our culture today.Yet GOD is not concerned with what is and what is not popular.He is concerned with peoples salvation and their obedience to his word.Just because homosexuality is viewed as an acceptable life style does not mean that it is not a sin.GOD declared it to be just that when he gave his law to the Israelites (Leviticus 18:22).Paul reiterated God's command on abstaining from homosexual sex in his letter to the Romans (1:26-27 as well as in some of his letters to the early church.
Move to a bigger city.
I think we both see the problem. And you just can't quite bring yourself to admit what it is, can you?
Note: I'm an Atheist, so you might get a hint from that.
Here is an article i found hope it helps --------------------------------------
As a young person, you may be experiencing a variety of emotions. What if you feel attracted to a member of the same sex? Does this automatically mean that you are a homosexual? No. Remember, you are in “the bloom of youth,” a period in which you are subject to involuntary sexual arousal. (1 Corinthians 7:36) For a time, your attention may focus on a member of the same sex. But having such an attraction does not mean that you are gay. In fact, statistics indicate that such inclinations usually fade in time. Still, you might wonder, ‘How do these desires start in the first place?’
Some say that homosexuality is rooted in the genes. Others say it is a learned behavior. It is not the purpose of this article to delve into the “nature-versus-nurture” debate. Indeed, it seems that it would be a gross oversimplification to attribute homosexuality to a single cause. Homosexuality—much like other forms of behavior—appears to be far more complex than that.
Regardless of the cause, the important thing to realize is that the Bible condemns homosexual acts. Thus, the person who is struggling with same-sex desires is presented with a reachable goal—he or she can choose not to act on those desires. To illustrate: A person might be “disposed to rage.” (Proverbs 29:22) In the past he may have freely given in to fits of anger. After studying the Bible, though, he becomes aware of the need to develop self-control. Does this mean that he will never again feel anger welling up inside him? No. However, because he knows what the Bible says about uncontrolled anger, he refuses to succumb to his feelings. It is similar with a person who has felt attracted to others of the same sex but who has now come to learn what the Bible says about homosexual practices. On occasion, an improper desire may still present itself. Nevertheless, by heeding the counsel of the Bible, the person can refrain from acting on that desire.
Granted, same-sex desires may be strongly entrenched. Be assured, though, that even deeply rooted wrong desires are not insurmountable. (1 Corinthians 9:27; Ephesians 4:22-24) Ultimately, you are in control of how you will live. (Matthew 7:13, 14; Romans 12:1, 2) And despite claims to the contrary, you can learn to control your impulses—or at least refrain from acting on them.
Reject Wrong Practices
How can you keep from getting involved in homosexual practices?
▪ First Throw all your anxieties upon Jehovah in prayer, confident that “he cares for you.” (1 Peter 5:7; Psalm 55:22) Jehovah can fortify you with a peace that “excels all thought.” This can ‘guard your heart and your mental powers’ and give you “power beyond what is normal” to keep from acting on wrong desires. (Philippians 4:7; 2 Corinthians 4:7) Sarah, who struggled with the fear that she might be bisexual, says: “Whenever my thoughts disturb me, I pray; and Jehovah sustains me. Without his help I couldn’t have dealt with this problem. Prayer is my lifeline!”—Psalm 94:18, 19; Ephesians 3:20.
▪ Second Fill your mind with upbuilding spiritual thoughts. (Philippians 4:8) Read the Bible daily. Never underestimate its power to shape your mind and heart for good. (Hebrews 4:12) A young man named Jason says: “The Bible—including scriptures such as 1 Corinthians 6:9, 10 and Ephesians 5:3—has had a powerful effect on me. I read these scriptures whenever wrong desires occur.”
▪ Third Shun pornography and gay propaganda, which will only fuel wrong thoughts. (Psalm 119:37; Colossians 3:5, 6) Some motion pictures and television programs also foster the belief that homosexuality is nothing more than a so-called alternative lifestyle. “The world’s warped thinking affected my mind and added to my sexual confusion,” says Anna. “Now I steer clear of anything or anyone that promotes homosexuality.”—Proverbs 13:20.
▪ Fourth Seek out a confidant, and talk to him or her about your thoughts. (Proverbs 23:26; 31:26; 2 Timothy 1:1, 2; 3:10) Olef, who sought the help of a Christian elder, recalls: “His counsel was very effective. I wished I had spoken to him a lot earlier.”
Do Not Give Up!
Of course, some would say that there’s no point in doing all this, that you should simply embrace your sexuality and accept what you are. But the Bible says that you can do better than that! It tells us, for example, that some early Christians who had formerly practiced homosexuality changed. (1 Corinthians 6:9-11) You too can win the battle—even if at this point it is only being waged in your heart.
If your desires persist, do not give up or conclude that you are a lost cause. (Hebrews 12:12, 13) All of us battle wrong inclinations at times. (Romans 3:23; 7:21-23) If you refuse to act on wrong desires, in time they may subside. (Colossians 3:5-8) Above all, lean on Jehovah for help. He loves you and knows what will make you happy. (Isaiah 41:10) Yes, “trust in Jehovah and do good
That is something you might have to figure out for yourself, for one can not really say what they would do cause they are not in your shoes or have to listen to your parents or the neighbors remarks.
YOU have to FOLLOW YOUR HEART, AND NOT THE ADVICE OF OTHERS, and it is sure to be hard. But if you know it is wrong then that will make the decision harder for you have LOVE for both GOD and your GIRLFRIEND.
I will not say yes or no, for that is something YOU will have to SEARCH YOUR OWN HEART and your BELIEF and FAITH to find the answers.
GOOD LUCK ON WHAT EVER PATH YOU CHOOSE TO TAKE.
Right and wrong is written on your heart, it is right to love your friend but it is wrong in the way you are expressing that love. Be kind, generous, intimate, trusting and all things righteous but to have a sexual relationship is inappropriate.
It is your conscience that is troubling you because you already know this and the hate you feel God has for you are your own feelings, not His.
Consider this, if you truly love your friend, then put your own desires aside and consider their eternal future. Should your wants help jeopardize their salvation and if they love you should they help jeopardize yours?
Put the other's future first and follow God and your conflict will be gone, it may hurt at first but the pain will heal.
I am assuming that you are a young person
Millions of young people get answers to their Questions and some much needed practical advice here
http://watchtower.org/e/archives/index.h…
I hope you find peace of mindTen points to anyone who gives the best advice?
I don't believe in God, let's make that clear. And I won't use this opportunity to ';preach'; atheism. So, if you do believe in God and you believe He is infinitely wise, than he made you the way you are. There is nothing wrong with you and you are perfect in His eyes. He loves you just the way you are. So stop feeling guilty about being in love and enjoy it.
Unless God shows up in person and tells you that he hates you I wouldn't give it another thought. You know your girlfriend is real and that your love for her is real but the god thing is just something you have been taught by an organization that uses guilt as a tool to keep you in line with their beliefs.
God Does Not hate you! He hates the sin and is saddened by it when you know better but do it anyway. I do not know what else to say to you because you clearly know it is wrong as evidenced by your feelings of guilt and remorse. But be glad you are able to feel that way, perhaps it is the Holy Spirit of God trying to get your attention, the Bible says He chastises those whom He loves!
kinda blunt here but you cant expect people that are close minded to even think outside of thier own zone of beliefs,because of the area your in being close minded but im pretty sure your family would understand and besides it not wrong or immoral, thats all you need to know regardless of the spam of answer of thats wrong and evil you will porably get
To stop guilty, read a couple of books about what religion is and how it works, understand it controls you through guilt, and it will disappear.
May I recommend ';god is not great'; and/or ';the god delusion';?
Hell was made up JUST TO SCARE YOU. Look how well it works!
If Christianity isn't doing much for you, then try to find a more accepting religion. If you're dead-set on being Christian, find a Christian church that is okay with Bisexuality.
It's God trying to pull you closer. Listen to your consciense so it does not dull, and you will land in follies at every turn.
God made man and set him with a woman.
God didn't make man and make another man and a woman and say, go crazy and choose for yourself.
The fact that you feel something at all is good. You have not totally rejected the love that God has for you. But God is just and cannot ignore the wrong you are doing. Don't wait too long to really examine what is right and wrong.
Are you sure you want advise,or reassurance ?If your lifestyle is not making you happy,whats that say?You don't need advise you have already decided what your going to do,its just a matter of when.God bless
t
Always be true to yourself.
U are in a loving relationship. Why is that a sin?
Lighten up, dear. Life doesn't have to be that guilt-provoking.
Your just going to accept the harshness that you god hates you for being you
Do YOU believe in God? Why do you think you feel guilty?
Romans 1 26-27..it is a sin...about homosexuality..
saying that homosexuality is wrong is not a popular thing to do in our culture today.Yet GOD is not concerned with what is and what is not popular.He is concerned with peoples salvation and their obedience to his word.Just because homosexuality is viewed as an acceptable life style does not mean that it is not a sin.GOD declared it to be just that when he gave his law to the Israelites (Leviticus 18:22).Paul reiterated God's command on abstaining from homosexual sex in his letter to the Romans (1:26-27 as well as in some of his letters to the early church.
Move to a bigger city.
I think we both see the problem. And you just can't quite bring yourself to admit what it is, can you?
Note: I'm an Atheist, so you might get a hint from that.
Here is an article i found hope it helps --------------------------------------
As a young person, you may be experiencing a variety of emotions. What if you feel attracted to a member of the same sex? Does this automatically mean that you are a homosexual? No. Remember, you are in “the bloom of youth,” a period in which you are subject to involuntary sexual arousal. (1 Corinthians 7:36) For a time, your attention may focus on a member of the same sex. But having such an attraction does not mean that you are gay. In fact, statistics indicate that such inclinations usually fade in time. Still, you might wonder, ‘How do these desires start in the first place?’
Some say that homosexuality is rooted in the genes. Others say it is a learned behavior. It is not the purpose of this article to delve into the “nature-versus-nurture” debate. Indeed, it seems that it would be a gross oversimplification to attribute homosexuality to a single cause. Homosexuality—much like other forms of behavior—appears to be far more complex than that.
Regardless of the cause, the important thing to realize is that the Bible condemns homosexual acts. Thus, the person who is struggling with same-sex desires is presented with a reachable goal—he or she can choose not to act on those desires. To illustrate: A person might be “disposed to rage.” (Proverbs 29:22) In the past he may have freely given in to fits of anger. After studying the Bible, though, he becomes aware of the need to develop self-control. Does this mean that he will never again feel anger welling up inside him? No. However, because he knows what the Bible says about uncontrolled anger, he refuses to succumb to his feelings. It is similar with a person who has felt attracted to others of the same sex but who has now come to learn what the Bible says about homosexual practices. On occasion, an improper desire may still present itself. Nevertheless, by heeding the counsel of the Bible, the person can refrain from acting on that desire.
Granted, same-sex desires may be strongly entrenched. Be assured, though, that even deeply rooted wrong desires are not insurmountable. (1 Corinthians 9:27; Ephesians 4:22-24) Ultimately, you are in control of how you will live. (Matthew 7:13, 14; Romans 12:1, 2) And despite claims to the contrary, you can learn to control your impulses—or at least refrain from acting on them.
Reject Wrong Practices
How can you keep from getting involved in homosexual practices?
▪ First Throw all your anxieties upon Jehovah in prayer, confident that “he cares for you.” (1 Peter 5:7; Psalm 55:22) Jehovah can fortify you with a peace that “excels all thought.” This can ‘guard your heart and your mental powers’ and give you “power beyond what is normal” to keep from acting on wrong desires. (Philippians 4:7; 2 Corinthians 4:7) Sarah, who struggled with the fear that she might be bisexual, says: “Whenever my thoughts disturb me, I pray; and Jehovah sustains me. Without his help I couldn’t have dealt with this problem. Prayer is my lifeline!”—Psalm 94:18, 19; Ephesians 3:20.
▪ Second Fill your mind with upbuilding spiritual thoughts. (Philippians 4:8) Read the Bible daily. Never underestimate its power to shape your mind and heart for good. (Hebrews 4:12) A young man named Jason says: “The Bible—including scriptures such as 1 Corinthians 6:9, 10 and Ephesians 5:3—has had a powerful effect on me. I read these scriptures whenever wrong desires occur.”
▪ Third Shun pornography and gay propaganda, which will only fuel wrong thoughts. (Psalm 119:37; Colossians 3:5, 6) Some motion pictures and television programs also foster the belief that homosexuality is nothing more than a so-called alternative lifestyle. “The world’s warped thinking affected my mind and added to my sexual confusion,” says Anna. “Now I steer clear of anything or anyone that promotes homosexuality.”—Proverbs 13:20.
▪ Fourth Seek out a confidant, and talk to him or her about your thoughts. (Proverbs 23:26; 31:26; 2 Timothy 1:1, 2; 3:10) Olef, who sought the help of a Christian elder, recalls: “His counsel was very effective. I wished I had spoken to him a lot earlier.”
Do Not Give Up!
Of course, some would say that there’s no point in doing all this, that you should simply embrace your sexuality and accept what you are. But the Bible says that you can do better than that! It tells us, for example, that some early Christians who had formerly practiced homosexuality changed. (1 Corinthians 6:9-11) You too can win the battle—even if at this point it is only being waged in your heart.
If your desires persist, do not give up or conclude that you are a lost cause. (Hebrews 12:12, 13) All of us battle wrong inclinations at times. (Romans 3:23; 7:21-23) If you refuse to act on wrong desires, in time they may subside. (Colossians 3:5-8) Above all, lean on Jehovah for help. He loves you and knows what will make you happy. (Isaiah 41:10) Yes, “trust in Jehovah and do good
That is something you might have to figure out for yourself, for one can not really say what they would do cause they are not in your shoes or have to listen to your parents or the neighbors remarks.
YOU have to FOLLOW YOUR HEART, AND NOT THE ADVICE OF OTHERS, and it is sure to be hard. But if you know it is wrong then that will make the decision harder for you have LOVE for both GOD and your GIRLFRIEND.
I will not say yes or no, for that is something YOU will have to SEARCH YOUR OWN HEART and your BELIEF and FAITH to find the answers.
GOOD LUCK ON WHAT EVER PATH YOU CHOOSE TO TAKE.
Right and wrong is written on your heart, it is right to love your friend but it is wrong in the way you are expressing that love. Be kind, generous, intimate, trusting and all things righteous but to have a sexual relationship is inappropriate.
It is your conscience that is troubling you because you already know this and the hate you feel God has for you are your own feelings, not His.
Consider this, if you truly love your friend, then put your own desires aside and consider their eternal future. Should your wants help jeopardize their salvation and if they love you should they help jeopardize yours?
Put the other's future first and follow God and your conflict will be gone, it may hurt at first but the pain will heal.
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