Let me break the long story short-
I met this guy at a party, we exchanged numbers.
He invited me out once, we made out.
We've been talking for about 2 months afterwards but haven't met up because there's always been conflicts.
A week ago he asked me out but online, I said I'd love to but then I signed off right after because I had to leave.
I texted him saying sorry that I had to go but I'd like to see him.
I haven't heard from him since, he's probably given up and moved on, found someone else.
We get along really well and I think I like him........
I'm just wondering from an outside perspective if I should try talking to him or just leave it?What should I do about this guy? 10 points for best advice!?
Talk to him. I'm a guy and I do this kind of thing to get the girl thinking that I don't care and then when I do call her, she freaks out and falls in love with me. I'm kidding, but he is doing this to make you think he doesn't care about you. And it seems to be working.What should I do about this guy? 10 points for best advice!?
I think you answered your own question he probably is either mad or upset that you did sign out right away maybe he thinks you don't like him anymore. But he could have moved on and found someone else. My advice to you is to call or text him and ask him if he likes you like you like him and go from there. Good luck hun :)
He is not worth it,he sounds really loser-ish.Your right maybe he has meet someone else.Investigate and find out.Of course he may just be busy with other things and not girls.I say if he isn't that cute give him the boot.Tell him your concerns, and talk openly about it. He may understand and everything will work out.Think about it awile and you'll know what is right.Sorry I am not a very good advice giver.
It sounds like your either a busy person or just this relationship has bad timing. You have to ask yourself, do you have time for a relationship? And if you think you do and you want to give this guy a chance, give him a chance. Try to make dates on a day or time of day where you think will be less interrupted. Call him. It's better to talk on the phone than online, it's more personal and real. Let him know your interested. Some guys like a chase, but not for too long. If he's not worth giving up, call him, make a date and DONT cancel!
Good Luck!
Well he invited you out, but he doesn't seem as fussed as he should, if he really liked you he would try harder. Give it another try! If you like him, really do, and you get along, why not? But be careful in case he has moved on.. And maybe he didn't text back because he has no credit or something? :)
If you really like him, talk to him. Tell him about your situation and how you were busy, I'm sure if he really likes you he'll understand. Call him and meet him at a cafe to have some coffee or something. Try to spend some time even if it's doing something really simple like taking a walk. He might be busy too, which might be why he didn't call you ot text.
Hmm. sounds complicated. Sweety sometimes, it is better to leave it, Because then your liking for him could get even worst and at the end you might end up hurt. But i think you should confront him and ask him if he's already moved on. If not i bet you could give him a chance again and go on easy with him if the things turn out to be how exacly you expect them.:) Best of Lucks~
Just a thought but if your heart was really in it don't you think you would have contacted him long before this. Usually if someone creates a big enough spark you just go with it the fact you are asking others to make this choice might mean he really wasn't the 'one' after all.
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you did your part at trying to talk to him... if you are really wanting to meet up with him, then wait a bit and text him again saying ';so what about hanging out, did you still want to?'; or something like that.
If he doesn't answer-that is your answer-you should move on.
If he does-then you migth want to ask why he didn't answer your first text
good luck
It's not going to hurt to give it one more chance. But you don't want to over do it and come off as desperate or stalker-ish. Send him an email or a text and see if he wants to meet up for lunch or something like that, and see what he says. If he doesn't respond then I would leave it and just move on.
It think it is just a coincidence that he hasn't talked to you in a couple days. If he gave up and found someone else then hes really not the kind of guy your meant to be with. Besides if its difficult to see him now what makes you think youll hang out more in the future
i say CALL him and explain yourself why you had to go out of left field and u didnt want to leave him confused. If he understands that then you can arrange a 'chill session' and hang out. but dont go out yet - u guys gotta get to know each other. BUT if hes being a jerk and stil letting you chase after him or you get that vibe - honestly move on. Its just a crush.
Hope this helps xoxo ♥
Well you should possibly call him about it and if he's not interested just say ok cool and leave it at that. dont push it if hes moved on. its ok guys r just like that. just bring it up once and dont go back to it and be casual!
i think that he likes u to But i feel that he has someone in his life and hes stuck in the middle that hes confused. y dose he want to go out wit u? y not now a days people dont care that they have someone in there lives
I think that he should of talked to you because you did nothing wrong!!! If you really like him then you should e-mail him and say that you want to get together and go somewhere today!!! :) (i hope it works)
Why not try talking to him. Who knows, he may be the one and you missed out because it was inconvenient at the moment. Give it some effort before you give up.
you know wat keep texting him dun't give up
well acutally not to many times n da next time yu go online n yu see him yu kno he is online n say stuff to make him feel better n yu kno
brag about his body even if he doesn't have a nice body n make him feel like yu really love him plz plz plz plz plz plz make me the best answer i never been voted best answer
Don't text him--call him, ask if something's wrong, then if everything's good in the neighborhood, then go out. There doesn't seem to be much conflict between you two. Best wishes
He probably doesn't care. People randomly sign off on me and vice versa all the time. So just pretend nothings happened and call him sometime.
He's not serious. he wants to make out again or more. Don't worry about him. Don't kiss on the first date. He wants the obvious thing and probably has various options besides you./
easy
send him a text saying ';I'm still interested if you are';
if he is not he may have gotten back with his girlfriend or boyfriend or whatever
WELL IF YOU REALY LOVE HIM THEN CALL HIM OR TEXT DO SOMETHING TO GET HIM WITH YOU AND MAKE OUT AGIN AND HE WILL LOVE YOU MORE THEN HE DID!!!!!!!!!!!
I suggest you ditch this guy.I can't believe you made out wit him.Anyway,find some else.Don't waste your time looking for a weirdo like him,find someone else who deserves you.
I've been through this, and i haven't spoken to the guy since. this was about 3 years ago, I'd move on to some one not so petty
Keep trying every few days for a week or two. After that, when you happen to see him online or something, bring it up. After a month, I'd move on
I would definitely try talking to him. Just say something sweet and make-up . BUt if you don't really like him then don't . Maybe hes not good enough for you .
It don't look like it is working out between you, so I would leave it until you meet again in person.
if u really like him then u should try 2 get in touch with him so yall can talk more and get to know each other better cuz u never know it might lead to a very good relationship GOOD LUCK!!!:D
Try talking to him but don't be obsessive. It might creep him out a little.
You need to talk to him and explain the situation. :))
talk to him
if he's moved on, you'll figure it out at some point
don't worry about it
Wednesday, November 23, 2011
Please Edit! Easy 10 points to the person who gives best advice!!!!!!!?
Can a boy put up with his overprotective mother not letting him do anything fun due to minor cuts and bruises? Well in this gut-busting book he does, at least for a while.
Sam Harris, the story鈥檚 humorous eleven year old protagonist, can鈥檛 do anything fun like play football (soccer) or walk to school with his friends. Why can鈥檛 he? Your head is probably bubbling with curiosity. He can鈥檛 do anything fun because his Mother is afraid he鈥檒l get injured. Injuries over walking to school? Like that鈥檚 ever going to happen!
Since Sam can鈥檛 do anything fun he鈥檚 bored, but not for long. Soon the hysterical Griswalds move in next-door and Sam starts having some fun but his mother is still interfering with his play. Even though the Griswalds are fun to play with, they start causing trouble doing reckless things like burning down the bus shelter. While Sam and the Griswalds are busy becoming friends, there are problems around the city involving them. Will they be able to find solutions to all of them or will it be too late? Read this rib tickling book to find out!
Emma Barnes will absorb readers of all ages into this side splitting. The pictures by Tim Archbold are really something to look at. Readers who like humour and adventure will love this really funny book. Both the paperback and hardcover of Sam and the Griswalds which has 320 pages were published in 2004 by Bloomsbury Publishing Co.Please Edit! Easy 10 points to the person who gives best advice!!!!!!!?
Sam Harris, the story鈥檚 humorous eleven year old protagonist, is unable to participate in any fun activities such as play football, or walk to school with his friends. His overprotective mother is constantly afraid he will get injured.
When the Griswalds move in next-door however, Sam's boring existence comes to an end. The Griswalds, though funny people, weren't all they seemed. Reckless, they began doing crazy things like burning down the bus shelter. Problems evolve, and soon Sam and the Griswalds are desperately trying to find solutions.
Emma Barnes will absorb readers of all ages in this side-splitting book. The pictures by the illustrator, Tim Archbold, are also fantastic. Readers who like humour and adventure will love this really funny book. The 320 page paperback and hardcover versions of ';Sam and the Griswalds'; were published in 2004 by Bloomsbury Publishing Co.
This was very poorly written and a miserable read. It looks as though you were trying to combine a book description with an obnoxious television ad..Please Edit! Easy 10 points to the person who gives best advice!!!!!!!?
All looks good except there should be a comma after football soccer should not be in parenthesis and should have a comma after it as well.
There is nothing wrong except for the capital 'M' on 'mother' at ';He can鈥檛 do anything fun because his Mother is...';
This sounds good.
First off, Ashley's right - mother oughtn't be capitalized. You also seem to use the word 'fun' quite a bit. Try rewording sentences or using synonyms to avoid this.
Also, there's a part that should be changed slightly for the sake or sentence flow. I'll rewrite it with a few minor punctuation and word changes:
Since Sam can鈥檛 do anything interesting, he鈥檚 bored - but not for long. Soon the hysterical Griswalds move in next door and Sam starts having some real fun; However, his mother is still interfering with his play. And even though the Griswalds are amusing company, they start causing trouble by doing reckless things such as burning down the bus shelter.
See, I didn't even change much, but it kind of reads easier, don't you think? Well, maybe - it's just my opinion.
Last thing, you left a sentence unfinished, like maybe you were already thinking of the next sentence and forgot to complete the previous:
Emma Barnes will absorb readers of all ages into this side splitting...?
That's something I do all the time, actually. I'll be in the middle of one sentence, and then write the next without so much as a period. :)
Other than that, it's pretty good. Believe it or not, it's actually better than a lot of the writing people in my high school yearbook class do.
Sam Harris, the story鈥檚 humorous eleven year old protagonist, can鈥檛 do anything fun like play football (soccer) or walk to school with his friends. Why can鈥檛 he? Your head is probably bubbling with curiosity. He can鈥檛 do anything fun because his Mother is afraid he鈥檒l get injured. Injuries over walking to school? Like that鈥檚 ever going to happen!
Since Sam can鈥檛 do anything fun he鈥檚 bored, but not for long. Soon the hysterical Griswalds move in next-door and Sam starts having some fun but his mother is still interfering with his play. Even though the Griswalds are fun to play with, they start causing trouble doing reckless things like burning down the bus shelter. While Sam and the Griswalds are busy becoming friends, there are problems around the city involving them. Will they be able to find solutions to all of them or will it be too late? Read this rib tickling book to find out!
Emma Barnes will absorb readers of all ages into this side splitting. The pictures by Tim Archbold are really something to look at. Readers who like humour and adventure will love this really funny book. Both the paperback and hardcover of Sam and the Griswalds which has 320 pages were published in 2004 by Bloomsbury Publishing Co.Please Edit! Easy 10 points to the person who gives best advice!!!!!!!?
Sam Harris, the story鈥檚 humorous eleven year old protagonist, is unable to participate in any fun activities such as play football, or walk to school with his friends. His overprotective mother is constantly afraid he will get injured.
When the Griswalds move in next-door however, Sam's boring existence comes to an end. The Griswalds, though funny people, weren't all they seemed. Reckless, they began doing crazy things like burning down the bus shelter. Problems evolve, and soon Sam and the Griswalds are desperately trying to find solutions.
Emma Barnes will absorb readers of all ages in this side-splitting book. The pictures by the illustrator, Tim Archbold, are also fantastic. Readers who like humour and adventure will love this really funny book. The 320 page paperback and hardcover versions of ';Sam and the Griswalds'; were published in 2004 by Bloomsbury Publishing Co.
This was very poorly written and a miserable read. It looks as though you were trying to combine a book description with an obnoxious television ad..Please Edit! Easy 10 points to the person who gives best advice!!!!!!!?
All looks good except there should be a comma after football soccer should not be in parenthesis and should have a comma after it as well.
There is nothing wrong except for the capital 'M' on 'mother' at ';He can鈥檛 do anything fun because his Mother is...';
This sounds good.
First off, Ashley's right - mother oughtn't be capitalized. You also seem to use the word 'fun' quite a bit. Try rewording sentences or using synonyms to avoid this.
Also, there's a part that should be changed slightly for the sake or sentence flow. I'll rewrite it with a few minor punctuation and word changes:
Since Sam can鈥檛 do anything interesting, he鈥檚 bored - but not for long. Soon the hysterical Griswalds move in next door and Sam starts having some real fun; However, his mother is still interfering with his play. And even though the Griswalds are amusing company, they start causing trouble by doing reckless things such as burning down the bus shelter.
See, I didn't even change much, but it kind of reads easier, don't you think? Well, maybe - it's just my opinion.
Last thing, you left a sentence unfinished, like maybe you were already thinking of the next sentence and forgot to complete the previous:
Emma Barnes will absorb readers of all ages into this side splitting...?
That's something I do all the time, actually. I'll be in the middle of one sentence, and then write the next without so much as a period. :)
Other than that, it's pretty good. Believe it or not, it's actually better than a lot of the writing people in my high school yearbook class do.
Anyone got any advice on who the best for landline/broadband in rep of ireland these days?
currently im with eircom and have a package for broadband and landline. the thing that is costing me is ringing my mate who is with vodafone from the landline. my mobile is o2 prepay. anyone got any suggestions on the deals at the minute inc ';the fineprint? ';!!Anyone got any advice on who the best for landline/broadband in rep of ireland these days?
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PLEASE HELP ME WITH THIS DIRECTION. 10 points for the best advice.?
I am trying to go this address from Union Station. It is a right direction?!? Please help me. I have never been to the area before. Thank you
From Union Station, DC to Webster University
Barden Education Center
9625 Belvoir Rd., Rm. 143
Fort Belvoir VA 22060-1598
WMATA results:
http://www.wmata.com/tripplanner_d/tripp鈥?/a>
Can I walk pass the From the Tulley Gate without any documents? Thank youPLEASE HELP ME WITH THIS DIRECTION. 10 points for the best advice.?
I'd expect that the office you're meeting will need to put you on a list of approved visitors, allowing you entry to the post.
Getting down there from Union Station: I'd advise either a taxicab or renting a car. (This is the same advice offered when you asked this same question earlier today.)PLEASE HELP ME WITH THIS DIRECTION. 10 points for the best advice.?
You cannot just walk in Tulley Gate. If you are attending training, I suggest you contact them for gate access information. Last thing you want to do is be stuck at the gate with no access! Fair warning!!!
I put the link to gate access below for more information. Belvoir is huge and the gates are far removed from the schools. Just be certain you have all the papers you need. Good luck
You always need a military ID when entering a military base unless you are with someone who has a military ID then alll you would need is a government ID.
Try using Map Quest or Yahoo Maps to get dierctions.
you used to be able to get on base so easily it was ridiculous, now I have no clue....can you call the people you're interviewing with? or see if you can get an answer from the base directly www.belvoir.army.mil
The only thing I can add is go to the bases web site. If not go to a military site. If not there go to a recruiting office and they will know for sure. Don't sign up to go to Iraq.
From Union Station, DC to Webster University
Barden Education Center
9625 Belvoir Rd., Rm. 143
Fort Belvoir VA 22060-1598
WMATA results:
http://www.wmata.com/tripplanner_d/tripp鈥?/a>
Can I walk pass the From the Tulley Gate without any documents? Thank youPLEASE HELP ME WITH THIS DIRECTION. 10 points for the best advice.?
I'd expect that the office you're meeting will need to put you on a list of approved visitors, allowing you entry to the post.
Getting down there from Union Station: I'd advise either a taxicab or renting a car. (This is the same advice offered when you asked this same question earlier today.)PLEASE HELP ME WITH THIS DIRECTION. 10 points for the best advice.?
You cannot just walk in Tulley Gate. If you are attending training, I suggest you contact them for gate access information. Last thing you want to do is be stuck at the gate with no access! Fair warning!!!
I put the link to gate access below for more information. Belvoir is huge and the gates are far removed from the schools. Just be certain you have all the papers you need. Good luck
You always need a military ID when entering a military base unless you are with someone who has a military ID then alll you would need is a government ID.
Try using Map Quest or Yahoo Maps to get dierctions.
you used to be able to get on base so easily it was ridiculous, now I have no clue....can you call the people you're interviewing with? or see if you can get an answer from the base directly www.belvoir.army.mil
The only thing I can add is go to the bases web site. If not go to a military site. If not there go to a recruiting office and they will know for sure. Don't sign up to go to Iraq.
Advice the best diet for getting pregnant,and tips for getting pregnant?
To get pregnant you must have sex on a day that your eggs are being released.
After the 3rd day from the day that menses started put a thermometer into your mouth and check your body temperature every morning before you start turning in bed. The best time is at about 4 a.m. Maintain a chart. You will find that on one day the body temperature drops from 1/2 degree to one degree. This is the day that your eggs are being released. If you want to get pregnant this is the day that you must have sex.
After having sex you must stay in bed for about 30 mins with your knees bent up so that the sperms will not pour out - to enable them to travel up.
Get your husband to save his sperms in the testacles for at least 5 days before sex to enable them to mature well to do their job.Advice the best diet for getting pregnant,and tips for getting pregnant?
You want to be sure to be eating a well balanced diet. It's not a bad idea to take prenatal vitamins, which you can get over the counter at a drug store. It is also a good idea to make sure that you're getting folic acid in your diet as this helps to prevent birth defects.
The easiest way to get pregnant is to use an over the counter ovulation tester (which can also be found at your local drug store) to help you determine when you are ovulating. This way you'll know which days of the month are you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.
After the 3rd day from the day that menses started put a thermometer into your mouth and check your body temperature every morning before you start turning in bed. The best time is at about 4 a.m. Maintain a chart. You will find that on one day the body temperature drops from 1/2 degree to one degree. This is the day that your eggs are being released. If you want to get pregnant this is the day that you must have sex.
After having sex you must stay in bed for about 30 mins with your knees bent up so that the sperms will not pour out - to enable them to travel up.
Get your husband to save his sperms in the testacles for at least 5 days before sex to enable them to mature well to do their job.Advice the best diet for getting pregnant,and tips for getting pregnant?
You want to be sure to be eating a well balanced diet. It's not a bad idea to take prenatal vitamins, which you can get over the counter at a drug store. It is also a good idea to make sure that you're getting folic acid in your diet as this helps to prevent birth defects.
The easiest way to get pregnant is to use an over the counter ovulation tester (which can also be found at your local drug store) to help you determine when you are ovulating. This way you'll know which days of the month are you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.
Girlfriend acting different around me, weird? (free five star to best advice...?
recently she hasn't wanted to really hang out like last week and today at school i heard she was trying to avoid hanging out with me this weekend, but she still talks to me on the phone every night and talks to me at school and still even kisses me and says she still likes me, shes says shes confused about us, and recently she doesn't really wanna talk about the confusion so i thought i should give her space mentally like stop asking so many questions and just talk and be happy with her, but IDK this is really bothering me that i hear she didn't twanna n hang out this weekend i dont wanna approach her if its not true, maybe i should wait a couple weeks and see if it goes away , at the begging of our relationship it was all ok and she even told me she could see us being together for a long time but recently she has acted really weird, she has her guard up and is being uncomfortable around me, yet she still gives me a hug and a kiss... does anyone have any idea whats going on, with Christmas soon i just want this all to be over with so she can fully appreciate what i got her fro Christmas i pout alot of thought into it and i truly do love this person i just want to help, but she says its osmething she has tohandle herselfGirlfriend acting different around me, weird? (free five star to best advice...?
This might not be the case for her, but I am speaking generally... but generally, when girls have their ';gaurd up'; as you said, it's because they're afraid of getting hurt. Maybe (and this is just an example) she heard that you like someone else or that you cheated on her, or something ridiculous like that, and that's why she is trying to distance herself from you, because she's afraid that if she keeps acting ';normal'; with you that she will get hurt. Like I said, it's just an example, but there is usually a good reason (whether it's truw or not) why a girl would try to distance herself. Maybe her parents don't want her dating, or mayber her friends don't like you for some reason? Maybe she was ';avoiding'; hanging out with you this weekend because she has other plans with like her family or something.
It's a good possibility that this is all in your head, too! If she still kisses and hugs you, then obviously nothing can be THAT wrong. Maybe the whole thing about her not wanting to hang out with you is just a stupid rumor that someone started for no reason, and now you feel like things are different, even though they really aren't.
I know you wanna give her space, but if its bothering you, you should talk to her about it. Just say ';is anything bothering you?'; make it out to be all about HER and her feelings so she won't feel like you just care about you or something. hopefully things work out, good luck!Girlfriend acting different around me, weird? (free five star to best advice...?
every girl goes through a phase with her current boyfriend. We tend to question whether or not our life is what we want it to be. it is most likely that for her. best advice is to show her you are worth spending a life with. don't suffocate her either. you have to be ready to let her go if that's what she wants. do not confront her about the whole weekend thing because it could be untrue and will cause an un-needed argument that may result badly.
This might not be the case for her, but I am speaking generally... but generally, when girls have their ';gaurd up'; as you said, it's because they're afraid of getting hurt. Maybe (and this is just an example) she heard that you like someone else or that you cheated on her, or something ridiculous like that, and that's why she is trying to distance herself from you, because she's afraid that if she keeps acting ';normal'; with you that she will get hurt. Like I said, it's just an example, but there is usually a good reason (whether it's truw or not) why a girl would try to distance herself. Maybe her parents don't want her dating, or mayber her friends don't like you for some reason? Maybe she was ';avoiding'; hanging out with you this weekend because she has other plans with like her family or something.
It's a good possibility that this is all in your head, too! If she still kisses and hugs you, then obviously nothing can be THAT wrong. Maybe the whole thing about her not wanting to hang out with you is just a stupid rumor that someone started for no reason, and now you feel like things are different, even though they really aren't.
I know you wanna give her space, but if its bothering you, you should talk to her about it. Just say ';is anything bothering you?'; make it out to be all about HER and her feelings so she won't feel like you just care about you or something. hopefully things work out, good luck!Girlfriend acting different around me, weird? (free five star to best advice...?
every girl goes through a phase with her current boyfriend. We tend to question whether or not our life is what we want it to be. it is most likely that for her. best advice is to show her you are worth spending a life with. don't suffocate her either. you have to be ready to let her go if that's what she wants. do not confront her about the whole weekend thing because it could be untrue and will cause an un-needed argument that may result badly.
Is love the most crazy feeling? 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
I just cannot explain why I am in and out of love..
When I was a teenager. I had a crush on this guy for 3 years. We never had a relationship. I still think he is a great person. Recently, my friends still talk about him. I smiled and said, ';you know I don't like/love him anymore';
Today, my girlfriend talked about my ex. My ex and I loved each other for 4 years. I moved on. She asked me..how? I said, ';I don't know. I just don't love him anymore';
What do you think? Please advice.Is love the most crazy feeling? 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
i don't think you have ever been in love. the kind of love that you couldn't live without...not many people have. people throw around the ';love'; word way too often in my opinion.Is love the most crazy feeling? 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
For one... why is your soo called friend still egging on about your ex??? (what a friend) I dont know how old you are and what happened between the 2 lost loves.. but move on!! if you are young or old than take a moment and jot down all the bad things that were wrong in those 2 ex relationships.. you maybe in a transition period and thats normal to feel lonely but dont look back if those 2 relationships were unhealthy... look towards the future and feel good about yourself!! your alive !! hopefully in good health!!! have a job!!! and things going for you !!! when u least expect it you will find the love of your life it may not be tomorrow but focus on you right now .!! thats all that matters.. lol. t
love can come and go, it just depends on the other person.some times you just love one specific thing about some one and they end up changing that thing, opening your eyes to who they really are. this is why people get divorced. my ex husband used to bring me flowers and hold me when i was sick, but for some reason he stopped doing that and i just lost interest. don't over think your situation and have fun with life.
I think that if you don't love a past love its because the bad outweighed the good.
it's not uncommon to fall in and out of love...You may feel a concern about the person and not want them to be in harms way, but you don't feel romantic towards them.
It's natural.
When I think about my ex's, I only want good things for them.
It's a nice feeling when you get to that point,plus it shows maturity and you're able to move on.
All relationships teach us things and helps us evolve into the person we become....until you meet a special love that stays in your life for a long time, where you never stop loving them.
Hopefully, when that person shows up in your life, you both are ready for a healthy, mature relationship that allows both of you to grow together and independently at the same time striving for the same life goals.
It's perfect timing when each person has learned from previous relationships and are able to treat each other with mutual respect, honesty, communication and genuine care.
Now combine that with '; butterflies that never cease';, regardless of how many years you have known the person, then I'd say that's a magnificent moment to capture....
Don't be hard on yourself.
Your moment hasn't arrived yet....
I think that love is more then just a feeling, it is a commitment, you have to work at it and build it, everyone has difficulties in relationships, it's the ones that want the love to last with that one person you choose that really work for it, some people just like the feeling they get when you first get into a relationship, they think when the butterflies go away that they don't love that person any more, those people have not come to the understanding what true love is. You have to work at it to keep it.
Sounds like your girlfriend just wants to make sure you don't still love anyone else. Deal with that instead of wondering why you are good at moving on. :D
im not sure what you need advice on...
lol oh ya. Love is definently a crazy thing that needs to be treasured and desired. Im in love with this guy and we've been dating for only a year. All I can say is love is a VERY UNPREDICTABLE feeling. I personally think love is just undefined. Anyways, I agree with love being the craziest feeling.
When you fall in love with someone it is all new, exciting and you can think of nothing else. Then time passes and that person does something you don't like or treats you in a way that you don't like and it begins to feel like a dull penny you leave on a table.
True love is accepting the faults in the one you love and not leaving them to the way side. Making a commitment to that person and being loyal to them.
However, we mess up when we loose ourselves in that one person. They don't make us do things like change the type of music we listen to, or watch movies we don't like. This is of our own doing.
We can love being around someone and truly love them without loosing ourselves.
It's good that you can move on and just want someone and don't need them to survive. Be glad for your strength and have fun.
Stay out of love. settle for lust.
Because youre more in love with the idea of being in love than actually being in love.Hope that makes sense. Youve dreamed of the pefect love and are trying to make every guy you meet fit into that mold and when he doesnt,you turn off the switch and move on.Until you actually find this Mr Perfect,you wont be truly happy and wont be able to settle down. So until then or if you lower your standards,nothing will ever change and unfortunately, you will never find the perfect male so the bet you can hope to do is come close and deal with the rest and realize the grass is never greener on the other side. Also trust your gut instinct more than your heart as your heart will lie to you but your gut wont. Good luck
It is weird. I was determined that i loved my ex...and i tolled myself that i would never look back like everyone else does after a relationship and say ';well i never really loved him anyway';.....then we split and i got with my recent bf. Ofcourse i cryed and cryed over my ex when we first split (which is what i always forget) but know i wonder if i was actually ever really in love with him.
I know i love my now boyfriend though....and i would never say i didn't!!!! I hope lol.
when love does come to you , you will know it and beleive me you WILL then know that crazy crazy great feeling and will never want it to stop. good luck when it does come i hope it will last for ever. some people do spend the rest of their life loving each other.
You out grew the young feelings and stepped into a new phase of growth. This will develop too. Love makes you do crazy things. Some days you act like a lunatic and others a doe eyed school boy.
When I was a teenager. I had a crush on this guy for 3 years. We never had a relationship. I still think he is a great person. Recently, my friends still talk about him. I smiled and said, ';you know I don't like/love him anymore';
Today, my girlfriend talked about my ex. My ex and I loved each other for 4 years. I moved on. She asked me..how? I said, ';I don't know. I just don't love him anymore';
What do you think? Please advice.Is love the most crazy feeling? 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
i don't think you have ever been in love. the kind of love that you couldn't live without...not many people have. people throw around the ';love'; word way too often in my opinion.Is love the most crazy feeling? 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
For one... why is your soo called friend still egging on about your ex??? (what a friend) I dont know how old you are and what happened between the 2 lost loves.. but move on!! if you are young or old than take a moment and jot down all the bad things that were wrong in those 2 ex relationships.. you maybe in a transition period and thats normal to feel lonely but dont look back if those 2 relationships were unhealthy... look towards the future and feel good about yourself!! your alive !! hopefully in good health!!! have a job!!! and things going for you !!! when u least expect it you will find the love of your life it may not be tomorrow but focus on you right now .!! thats all that matters.. lol. t
love can come and go, it just depends on the other person.some times you just love one specific thing about some one and they end up changing that thing, opening your eyes to who they really are. this is why people get divorced. my ex husband used to bring me flowers and hold me when i was sick, but for some reason he stopped doing that and i just lost interest. don't over think your situation and have fun with life.
I think that if you don't love a past love its because the bad outweighed the good.
it's not uncommon to fall in and out of love...You may feel a concern about the person and not want them to be in harms way, but you don't feel romantic towards them.
It's natural.
When I think about my ex's, I only want good things for them.
It's a nice feeling when you get to that point,plus it shows maturity and you're able to move on.
All relationships teach us things and helps us evolve into the person we become....until you meet a special love that stays in your life for a long time, where you never stop loving them.
Hopefully, when that person shows up in your life, you both are ready for a healthy, mature relationship that allows both of you to grow together and independently at the same time striving for the same life goals.
It's perfect timing when each person has learned from previous relationships and are able to treat each other with mutual respect, honesty, communication and genuine care.
Now combine that with '; butterflies that never cease';, regardless of how many years you have known the person, then I'd say that's a magnificent moment to capture....
Don't be hard on yourself.
Your moment hasn't arrived yet....
I think that love is more then just a feeling, it is a commitment, you have to work at it and build it, everyone has difficulties in relationships, it's the ones that want the love to last with that one person you choose that really work for it, some people just like the feeling they get when you first get into a relationship, they think when the butterflies go away that they don't love that person any more, those people have not come to the understanding what true love is. You have to work at it to keep it.
Sounds like your girlfriend just wants to make sure you don't still love anyone else. Deal with that instead of wondering why you are good at moving on. :D
im not sure what you need advice on...
lol oh ya. Love is definently a crazy thing that needs to be treasured and desired. Im in love with this guy and we've been dating for only a year. All I can say is love is a VERY UNPREDICTABLE feeling. I personally think love is just undefined. Anyways, I agree with love being the craziest feeling.
When you fall in love with someone it is all new, exciting and you can think of nothing else. Then time passes and that person does something you don't like or treats you in a way that you don't like and it begins to feel like a dull penny you leave on a table.
True love is accepting the faults in the one you love and not leaving them to the way side. Making a commitment to that person and being loyal to them.
However, we mess up when we loose ourselves in that one person. They don't make us do things like change the type of music we listen to, or watch movies we don't like. This is of our own doing.
We can love being around someone and truly love them without loosing ourselves.
It's good that you can move on and just want someone and don't need them to survive. Be glad for your strength and have fun.
Stay out of love. settle for lust.
Because youre more in love with the idea of being in love than actually being in love.Hope that makes sense. Youve dreamed of the pefect love and are trying to make every guy you meet fit into that mold and when he doesnt,you turn off the switch and move on.Until you actually find this Mr Perfect,you wont be truly happy and wont be able to settle down. So until then or if you lower your standards,nothing will ever change and unfortunately, you will never find the perfect male so the bet you can hope to do is come close and deal with the rest and realize the grass is never greener on the other side. Also trust your gut instinct more than your heart as your heart will lie to you but your gut wont. Good luck
It is weird. I was determined that i loved my ex...and i tolled myself that i would never look back like everyone else does after a relationship and say ';well i never really loved him anyway';.....then we split and i got with my recent bf. Ofcourse i cryed and cryed over my ex when we first split (which is what i always forget) but know i wonder if i was actually ever really in love with him.
I know i love my now boyfriend though....and i would never say i didn't!!!! I hope lol.
when love does come to you , you will know it and beleive me you WILL then know that crazy crazy great feeling and will never want it to stop. good luck when it does come i hope it will last for ever. some people do spend the rest of their life loving each other.
You out grew the young feelings and stepped into a new phase of growth. This will develop too. Love makes you do crazy things. Some days you act like a lunatic and others a doe eyed school boy.
What should I do? I really like her, but... (10 points for best advice)?
Ok. Theres a girl I like, and she has showed many signs of liking me. The other day she was laughing alot with my friend, and finds him very funny, and this has really stopped me in my tracks because now I'm confused and don't know what to do... I was planning on trying to ask her out, or hanging with her more, but what if she says no or something, since she finds my friend funny? If a girl finds a guy funny, does it mean she likes him? Should I ignore that and just stop being a little coward and ask her out? I feel like a coward for worrying whether she likes me or not, but then when I look at it from a different point of view, me asking her out if she doesn't like me will be pointless and get me no where anyway. Please help.What should I do? I really like her, but... (10 points for best advice)?
Is your friend actually funny? Because in that place it would be quite normal.
I am a girl and if I like a guy I know that I should make friends with their friends (therefore getting closer to the person I like). Soo if you feel that she may like you just ask her out, the worst she can say is no which would suck for a week or so but youll get over it. But, on the other hand if she says yes that would be very awesome, yes?
So as I was saying, just go for it!What should I do? I really like her, but... (10 points for best advice)?
d00d I hang out with girls that I like and 9/10 times their friends are funnier haha but it doesnt mean I like her friends.
ask her out you don't have anything to lose. if she says no, that just means theres someone better out there
wtf stop asking the same questions day in day out u idiot
Is your friend actually funny? Because in that place it would be quite normal.
I am a girl and if I like a guy I know that I should make friends with their friends (therefore getting closer to the person I like). Soo if you feel that she may like you just ask her out, the worst she can say is no which would suck for a week or so but youll get over it. But, on the other hand if she says yes that would be very awesome, yes?
So as I was saying, just go for it!What should I do? I really like her, but... (10 points for best advice)?
d00d I hang out with girls that I like and 9/10 times their friends are funnier haha but it doesnt mean I like her friends.
ask her out you don't have anything to lose. if she says no, that just means theres someone better out there
wtf stop asking the same questions day in day out u idiot
How do I cope with this? 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
In the past 2 weeks:
I lost a man I love. He does not love me anymore.
I lost my apartment because my landlord wanted to charge me for extra fees. I do not want pay for it; therefore, I will move next month.
I lost my second job because I have been very busy with my first job. I have to work extra hours at my first jobs in the past three weeks.
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This is my last week of school. I have to focus on school. Otherwise, I will lose my scholarship. I am 22 years old. I am in the US for my Master. My parent and my best friends are home. I am very lonely. I am very tired.How do I cope with this? 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
Hi Cutie Pie: This is what your going to do. Prioritize everything. Split your problems up into sections. Financial, love, school and work load. Cut back on anything you don't need. Go to the admin. office and tell them whats going on. They will cut you slack. Take a deep breathe. Focus. Sleep. There is nothing here you can't handle. You are smart and you have a deep desire to survive. This is a good test of your skills. What have you learned and how do you apply it? This is where character of the human spirit shows in you. Let me know how it goes. BryanHow do I cope with this? 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
suck it up and focus like hell on school..boys come and go....stay at friends house if u can....
be strong.
im so sorry all of this has happened to you. Remember to pray, may sound pointless but it really does help, here are a few scriptures i use when I start feeling down or things end up going not the best way. If you've got a bible pull it out and read along.
hopefully you can keep in touch with your family and friends as much as possible. I truly hope all works out for you.
(Psalm 18:2) .聽.聽.Jehovah is my crag and my stronghold and the Provider of escape for me. My God is my rock. I shall take refuge in him,.聽.聽.
(Psalm 46:1) 46 God is for us a refuge and strength, A help that is readily to be found during distresses.
(Proverbs 3:5-6) .聽.聽.Trust in Jehovah with all your heart and do not lean upon your own understanding. 6聽In all your ways take notice of him, and he himself will make your paths straight.
(Psalm 121:1-8) .聽.聽.I shall raise my eyes to the mountains. From where will my help come? 聽2聽My help is from Jehovah, The Maker of heaven and earth. 聽3聽He cannot possibly allow your foot to totter. The One guarding you cannot possibly be drowsy. 聽4聽Look! He will not be drowsy nor go to sleep, He that is guarding Israel. 聽5聽Jehovah is guarding you. Jehovah is your shade on your right hand. 聽6聽By day the sun itself will not strike you, Nor the moon by night. 聽7聽Jehovah himself will guard you against all calamity. He will guard your soul. 聽8聽Jehovah himself will guard your going out and your coming in From now on and to time indefinite.
What a run of bad luck!
Concentrate on school, because that's what you're here for. You have one shot at that and a lifetime to get everything else straight. You're going to feel so great when you're finished with that huge accomplishment! Make some friends at school or at least some study partners so you're not so lonely. It is hard to be away from your family and friends, but this can make it easier.
As for work and a place to live, just take it one day at a time. there are plenty of jobs for students, and plenty of other places to live. As for the guy, there will be others who love you that you will love too.
Best wishes.
My uncle just died unexpectedly, my neice had a miscarriage, my brother is facing a murder charge, my father has OCD and diabetes, my mother suffers from anxiety, my back is broken in two places and I have urticaria. Life sucks, but remember it changes. You simply have to deal with unpleasant things and enjoy the good ones. If your physical health is affected seek professional help, but above all try to remain positive and focus on happy outcomes.
your landlord (i am a landlord) shouldn't be able to change the terms of your lease, unless it has expired and have to sign a new one.
your b/f is a chump and you will find someone better (cliche, but youre only 22 and are a few years from finding 'the one') better to not be with someone who doesn't love you, then with someone who is lying about it.
see if you can get a grant, scholarship, or student loan to replace your lost income. there are tons of financial aid opportunities, go to your school's aid office and they will help you. they can find you a work study, or temp work too. or go to a temp agency off campus and they can get you flexible hours.
Wow, seems very over loading hun, [don't worry, you dont need to make mine best answer if someone else has a better one, I just wanna help], I would try to see a doctor to talk to about all this, maybe find a roommate to get a different appt with.
I hope I helped.
Good luck!
Forget the man, don't dwell on someone who does not want you. Find another apartment you can afford. Work less hours during the last week of school and try to block out problems you are facing so you can focus on school and avoid losing your scholarship since this is priority right now. Everyone get lonely and tired at some point but find a way to deal with it. After you get your Masters degree you can be with your parents and best friends. Look at all the problems you stated and prioritize what is most in important in your life right now.
one day at a time...most ppl have been trough a break up of a relationship and yep its hard but slowy and surley you will get over it.
As for loosing your appartment well you have kind of done that by your own choice by refusing to pay extra fees...however perhaps a new place would be good for you some where bright and happy and different.
As for loosing your second job be thankful that you still have a job.
As for your studies well its only another week and you dont need to be thinking about moving just yet...just got to get that man out of you head!!!
You are heading in the right direction in life i understand that you are tired but keep up the good work..
MY thought are with you, also after school is out take some time to chill and do things that you enjoy doing.
But for know focuse completely on your studies and reward you self for each day that you get through good luck..
I lost someone I loved very much almost 3 years ago and I still have my bad days and miss him very much. I also understand your feeling lonely but you sound like a very strong person. You lost your apt. so you got another one, you lost your second job but your working more hours at your first job, and your striving to finish your schooling. dont give up! Just give your friends and family a call and continue on. I've been in your shoes and I know its hard but you've got it in you. Otherwise you would've given up already. Just hang in there and continue to be strong!!!!!!!
I just went to visit a relative of mine.
He lives in a group home and requires assistance to eat, dress himself, walk across the floor and go to the bathroom.
If he does not have constant supervision he will chew his fingers off.
His wealthy mother stuck him in an institution after he was born because nobody wanted a ';retard'; in the family.
That was 44 years ago and she has never visited him, not even once.
If you ever feel lonely, tired and down, send me an e-mail and we can go and visit him together.covergirl eye makeup styles
I lost a man I love. He does not love me anymore.
I lost my apartment because my landlord wanted to charge me for extra fees. I do not want pay for it; therefore, I will move next month.
I lost my second job because I have been very busy with my first job. I have to work extra hours at my first jobs in the past three weeks.
***
This is my last week of school. I have to focus on school. Otherwise, I will lose my scholarship. I am 22 years old. I am in the US for my Master. My parent and my best friends are home. I am very lonely. I am very tired.How do I cope with this? 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
Hi Cutie Pie: This is what your going to do. Prioritize everything. Split your problems up into sections. Financial, love, school and work load. Cut back on anything you don't need. Go to the admin. office and tell them whats going on. They will cut you slack. Take a deep breathe. Focus. Sleep. There is nothing here you can't handle. You are smart and you have a deep desire to survive. This is a good test of your skills. What have you learned and how do you apply it? This is where character of the human spirit shows in you. Let me know how it goes. BryanHow do I cope with this? 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
suck it up and focus like hell on school..boys come and go....stay at friends house if u can....
be strong.
im so sorry all of this has happened to you. Remember to pray, may sound pointless but it really does help, here are a few scriptures i use when I start feeling down or things end up going not the best way. If you've got a bible pull it out and read along.
hopefully you can keep in touch with your family and friends as much as possible. I truly hope all works out for you.
(Psalm 18:2) .聽.聽.Jehovah is my crag and my stronghold and the Provider of escape for me. My God is my rock. I shall take refuge in him,.聽.聽.
(Psalm 46:1) 46 God is for us a refuge and strength, A help that is readily to be found during distresses.
(Proverbs 3:5-6) .聽.聽.Trust in Jehovah with all your heart and do not lean upon your own understanding. 6聽In all your ways take notice of him, and he himself will make your paths straight.
(Psalm 121:1-8) .聽.聽.I shall raise my eyes to the mountains. From where will my help come? 聽2聽My help is from Jehovah, The Maker of heaven and earth. 聽3聽He cannot possibly allow your foot to totter. The One guarding you cannot possibly be drowsy. 聽4聽Look! He will not be drowsy nor go to sleep, He that is guarding Israel. 聽5聽Jehovah is guarding you. Jehovah is your shade on your right hand. 聽6聽By day the sun itself will not strike you, Nor the moon by night. 聽7聽Jehovah himself will guard you against all calamity. He will guard your soul. 聽8聽Jehovah himself will guard your going out and your coming in From now on and to time indefinite.
What a run of bad luck!
Concentrate on school, because that's what you're here for. You have one shot at that and a lifetime to get everything else straight. You're going to feel so great when you're finished with that huge accomplishment! Make some friends at school or at least some study partners so you're not so lonely. It is hard to be away from your family and friends, but this can make it easier.
As for work and a place to live, just take it one day at a time. there are plenty of jobs for students, and plenty of other places to live. As for the guy, there will be others who love you that you will love too.
Best wishes.
My uncle just died unexpectedly, my neice had a miscarriage, my brother is facing a murder charge, my father has OCD and diabetes, my mother suffers from anxiety, my back is broken in two places and I have urticaria. Life sucks, but remember it changes. You simply have to deal with unpleasant things and enjoy the good ones. If your physical health is affected seek professional help, but above all try to remain positive and focus on happy outcomes.
your landlord (i am a landlord) shouldn't be able to change the terms of your lease, unless it has expired and have to sign a new one.
your b/f is a chump and you will find someone better (cliche, but youre only 22 and are a few years from finding 'the one') better to not be with someone who doesn't love you, then with someone who is lying about it.
see if you can get a grant, scholarship, or student loan to replace your lost income. there are tons of financial aid opportunities, go to your school's aid office and they will help you. they can find you a work study, or temp work too. or go to a temp agency off campus and they can get you flexible hours.
Wow, seems very over loading hun, [don't worry, you dont need to make mine best answer if someone else has a better one, I just wanna help], I would try to see a doctor to talk to about all this, maybe find a roommate to get a different appt with.
I hope I helped.
Good luck!
Forget the man, don't dwell on someone who does not want you. Find another apartment you can afford. Work less hours during the last week of school and try to block out problems you are facing so you can focus on school and avoid losing your scholarship since this is priority right now. Everyone get lonely and tired at some point but find a way to deal with it. After you get your Masters degree you can be with your parents and best friends. Look at all the problems you stated and prioritize what is most in important in your life right now.
one day at a time...most ppl have been trough a break up of a relationship and yep its hard but slowy and surley you will get over it.
As for loosing your appartment well you have kind of done that by your own choice by refusing to pay extra fees...however perhaps a new place would be good for you some where bright and happy and different.
As for loosing your second job be thankful that you still have a job.
As for your studies well its only another week and you dont need to be thinking about moving just yet...just got to get that man out of you head!!!
You are heading in the right direction in life i understand that you are tired but keep up the good work..
MY thought are with you, also after school is out take some time to chill and do things that you enjoy doing.
But for know focuse completely on your studies and reward you self for each day that you get through good luck..
I lost someone I loved very much almost 3 years ago and I still have my bad days and miss him very much. I also understand your feeling lonely but you sound like a very strong person. You lost your apt. so you got another one, you lost your second job but your working more hours at your first job, and your striving to finish your schooling. dont give up! Just give your friends and family a call and continue on. I've been in your shoes and I know its hard but you've got it in you. Otherwise you would've given up already. Just hang in there and continue to be strong!!!!!!!
I just went to visit a relative of mine.
He lives in a group home and requires assistance to eat, dress himself, walk across the floor and go to the bathroom.
If he does not have constant supervision he will chew his fingers off.
His wealthy mother stuck him in an institution after he was born because nobody wanted a ';retard'; in the family.
That was 44 years ago and she has never visited him, not even once.
If you ever feel lonely, tired and down, send me an e-mail and we can go and visit him together.
Looking for new look> hair cut? make up? 10 stars best advice?
my hair is about to the smull of my back. im going to cut it after prom at least 10'; for locks of love but i was looking for advice on what kinda cut i should get. i wear it curly about 55% of the time, straight 40%, and just up and boring 5%. idk what to do with it. as far as make up goes, i dont usually wear make up, if i do its not alot at all, maybe some mascara and lipgloss (unless im bored and playing dress up lol) i do wear glasses sometimes, but dont have to i have contacts idk. best advice ill give u 10 points =)
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heyy erm well because of th way your face is ad say you should get a side fringe(short)from your forehead, and get layers.This will suit you well and you will look good that you wont even need the make up,so no more dressing up lol because your hair will look too good for make up.Looking for new look%26gt; hair cut? make up? 10 stars best advice?
Makeup Hint*** The less make up.. the natural you look the best !
I think you are really pretty... Dont cut your hair to short because is curly ... look this web site..
http://www.latest-hairstyles.com
hope it can help you...
Good Luck.
I think your hair is fabulous the way it is but this might make it look a bit lighter and easier to manage
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I think your style is already gr8 though
BTW you are rlly pretty x
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heyy erm well because of th way your face is ad say you should get a side fringe(short)from your forehead, and get layers.This will suit you well and you will look good that you wont even need the make up,so no more dressing up lol because your hair will look too good for make up.Looking for new look%26gt; hair cut? make up? 10 stars best advice?
Makeup Hint*** The less make up.. the natural you look the best !
I think you are really pretty... Dont cut your hair to short because is curly ... look this web site..
http://www.latest-hairstyles.com
hope it can help you...
Good Luck.
I think your hair is fabulous the way it is but this might make it look a bit lighter and easier to manage
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I think your style is already gr8 though
BTW you are rlly pretty x
Should I eat whatever I want? 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
I love to eat. Recently, I have consume more food than ever. I usually don't eat junk food. I am now starting to eat it. I eat ice cream, milkshake, cookies, cakes, and pies everyday.
I gain 5 pounds recently. I normally freak out when I gain weight, but I feel like whatever. I just want to eat...
Please help!Should I eat whatever I want? 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
I've struggled with weight all of my life, and after my 3rd (and last) baby was born in 1995, I decided I was going to do just that, eat whatever I wanted. After 11 years of abusing my body, eating unhealthy foods, I was wearing a size 20, finding it hard to get down stairs because my knees hurt so bad. My sister and 2 close friends were diagnosed with diabetes. I decided I didn't want to go down that road, so I signed up for a program called ';Be Lean'; at my health club. It was helpful to me, but others in the class didn't lose; the difference between myself and other class members was motivation. I was tired of being fat!
I ate healthy, and changed my eating habits for good! I rarely eat red meat or refined white flours. My diet consists or lean protein, skim milk (or fat free yogurt), fruit, whole grain carbs, lots and lots of veggies and lots of water. I never gave up coffee. Some fitness programs ask you to, but this was something I didn't want to give up, and couldn't live without for the rest of my life, so I didn't. I still lost weight. After 2 weeks of this diet, I no longer had any heartburn! That alone was worth it. I feel SO good!
You are completely free to eat whatever you want. However, you will feel so much better if you eat healthy foods. You can have an occasional treat, but the majority of the food you eat should be healthy in order for you to feel your best. Good luck!
Edit: I completely disagree with those who say to stay away from dairy! Recent studies have shown it actually HELPS you to lose weight.Should I eat whatever I want? 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
eat more fruit
drink fresh juice
get detoxification
no junk food
no milk
no yogurt
no soda
drink natural water
sport (like exercise, running, walking, aerobic, swimming)
eat more salad
good sleep
the example eat menu :
Breakfast
Always same: juice presses fresh, as much as desirable, up to 14 ounce; fresh succulence as much as desirable, or salad fruit; when do you very hungry. When not make difficult, sometimes fun replaced fruit every day that eaten at morning
Lunch
Fresh fruit juice, or carrot juice, 4 - 8 ounce, when does desirable. Salad with fresh vegetable addition desirable and combination sandwich with cucumber or celery.
Dinner
Fresh vegetable cocktail juice, soup cream cauliflower. Potato boat or simple grilled chicken. Garlic flavor string bean. Salad green French.
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I eat what I want when I want. I walk when I can. What I eat, though, comes in the form of whole real foods. No corn syrup, high fructose corn syrup, partially hydrogenated oils, hydrogenated oils, enriched flours, etc. I stay away from junk simply because I don't like it and it has no positive effects on my body.
When my daughter started to nurse less, I thought I would gain some weight, but not yet. Maybe when she is fully weaned.
If you wanna eat, you eat! Just exercise that little vit extra to get rid of the growing bulge!
Just make sure you're active enough to burn it off. I wouldn't recommend junk and fast food though.
just take carbs %26amp; fat in tiny portions a day or two per week...no choice..thats the root of all overweight issues and terminal diseases...
Stick with the healthy stuff. You will pay for it when you get older if you don't.
I gain 5 pounds recently. I normally freak out when I gain weight, but I feel like whatever. I just want to eat...
Please help!Should I eat whatever I want? 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
I've struggled with weight all of my life, and after my 3rd (and last) baby was born in 1995, I decided I was going to do just that, eat whatever I wanted. After 11 years of abusing my body, eating unhealthy foods, I was wearing a size 20, finding it hard to get down stairs because my knees hurt so bad. My sister and 2 close friends were diagnosed with diabetes. I decided I didn't want to go down that road, so I signed up for a program called ';Be Lean'; at my health club. It was helpful to me, but others in the class didn't lose; the difference between myself and other class members was motivation. I was tired of being fat!
I ate healthy, and changed my eating habits for good! I rarely eat red meat or refined white flours. My diet consists or lean protein, skim milk (or fat free yogurt), fruit, whole grain carbs, lots and lots of veggies and lots of water. I never gave up coffee. Some fitness programs ask you to, but this was something I didn't want to give up, and couldn't live without for the rest of my life, so I didn't. I still lost weight. After 2 weeks of this diet, I no longer had any heartburn! That alone was worth it. I feel SO good!
You are completely free to eat whatever you want. However, you will feel so much better if you eat healthy foods. You can have an occasional treat, but the majority of the food you eat should be healthy in order for you to feel your best. Good luck!
Edit: I completely disagree with those who say to stay away from dairy! Recent studies have shown it actually HELPS you to lose weight.Should I eat whatever I want? 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
eat more fruit
drink fresh juice
get detoxification
no junk food
no milk
no yogurt
no soda
drink natural water
sport (like exercise, running, walking, aerobic, swimming)
eat more salad
good sleep
the example eat menu :
Breakfast
Always same: juice presses fresh, as much as desirable, up to 14 ounce; fresh succulence as much as desirable, or salad fruit; when do you very hungry. When not make difficult, sometimes fun replaced fruit every day that eaten at morning
Lunch
Fresh fruit juice, or carrot juice, 4 - 8 ounce, when does desirable. Salad with fresh vegetable addition desirable and combination sandwich with cucumber or celery.
Dinner
Fresh vegetable cocktail juice, soup cream cauliflower. Potato boat or simple grilled chicken. Garlic flavor string bean. Salad green French.
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I eat what I want when I want. I walk when I can. What I eat, though, comes in the form of whole real foods. No corn syrup, high fructose corn syrup, partially hydrogenated oils, hydrogenated oils, enriched flours, etc. I stay away from junk simply because I don't like it and it has no positive effects on my body.
When my daughter started to nurse less, I thought I would gain some weight, but not yet. Maybe when she is fully weaned.
If you wanna eat, you eat! Just exercise that little vit extra to get rid of the growing bulge!
Just make sure you're active enough to burn it off. I wouldn't recommend junk and fast food though.
just take carbs %26amp; fat in tiny portions a day or two per week...no choice..thats the root of all overweight issues and terminal diseases...
Stick with the healthy stuff. You will pay for it when you get older if you don't.
Should I dump him for emotionally cheating? Please help me; best advice gets automatic 10 points!?
The other day, my sister called me from home and told me that a girl from her school was telling people that she had dated my boyfriend in secret while he and I were together. She said that the event had taken place a year ago. I asked my boyfriend about it immediately, since the girl used to be a good friend of his in the past and they did spend a lot of time together, which I was fully aware of and okay with because I trusted him. He denied that they ever dated and, just to be sure that nothing else happened, I asked if he had anything else to tell me concerning the girl, and that I wouldn't be mad if he told me. He still denied anything had happened.
So then, I spoke with the girl and she was very emotional about the whole thing and said that she had told him that she liked him, and he said it back. After this occasion, she said that they continued to hang out and ';flirt'; for a while, until she finally asked him to choose between her and me. He chose me and told her that he couldn't ';do this anymore.'; She was extremely detailed in her accounts of what happened; I had a strong gut feeling she was telling the truth.
So, I decided to ask my boyfriend once more if he was lying and told him that we needed to take a break. He got so upset that he was hysterical and crying and telling me that he needed me and loved me so much and to please not leave him. He denied and denied, then finally, hours later, confessed to the whole thing, saying that he and I were in a fight when he said that to her and was afraid of losing me, so he just said it and didn't mean it.
The next day, I wrote him a letter saying that I need some space and time from him because he really hurt me and, worst of all, lied to me for a year about another girl. He called me, first saying that he would respect my space and give me as much time as I needed. Then, he apologized profusely, through tears, for overreacting the night before, for not listening to me, for lying to me, and for almost cheating. He swore that he would man up, take full responsibility for his actions, and do everything in his power to win my trust and me back, including waiting for me, staying faithful to me while we're not speaking, and even trying to ask my parents for forgiveness for what he's done. He kept breaking down and telling me that he loves me so much and wants to marry me and have a family with me someday and that he never wants to lose me.
I told him that I still need time and that we are on a break until I feel ready to talk to him again. I am very hurt, but I still love him; we have been together for 2 years now and have been through so much. I can see me spending the rest of my life with him. If he does everything he says he will to win me back and more, do you think I should give it another shot? I will award 10 points automatically to the best advice on what to do. Please help me!!Should I dump him for emotionally cheating? Please help me; best advice gets automatic 10 points!?
I think you should dump him. He didn't emotionally cheat, he CHEATED! He even admitted it, but only felt bad after he was busted. I would just let it go and move on. He wont change...he just feels bad right now that he got caught.Should I dump him for emotionally cheating? Please help me; best advice gets automatic 10 points!?
Let him go once a cheater always a cheater and you will feel so much better
P.S. Please answer mines http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?鈥?/a>
let him go. he doesn't deserve you. i understand that you like/ love him but he isnt worth your time.
So then, I spoke with the girl and she was very emotional about the whole thing and said that she had told him that she liked him, and he said it back. After this occasion, she said that they continued to hang out and ';flirt'; for a while, until she finally asked him to choose between her and me. He chose me and told her that he couldn't ';do this anymore.'; She was extremely detailed in her accounts of what happened; I had a strong gut feeling she was telling the truth.
So, I decided to ask my boyfriend once more if he was lying and told him that we needed to take a break. He got so upset that he was hysterical and crying and telling me that he needed me and loved me so much and to please not leave him. He denied and denied, then finally, hours later, confessed to the whole thing, saying that he and I were in a fight when he said that to her and was afraid of losing me, so he just said it and didn't mean it.
The next day, I wrote him a letter saying that I need some space and time from him because he really hurt me and, worst of all, lied to me for a year about another girl. He called me, first saying that he would respect my space and give me as much time as I needed. Then, he apologized profusely, through tears, for overreacting the night before, for not listening to me, for lying to me, and for almost cheating. He swore that he would man up, take full responsibility for his actions, and do everything in his power to win my trust and me back, including waiting for me, staying faithful to me while we're not speaking, and even trying to ask my parents for forgiveness for what he's done. He kept breaking down and telling me that he loves me so much and wants to marry me and have a family with me someday and that he never wants to lose me.
I told him that I still need time and that we are on a break until I feel ready to talk to him again. I am very hurt, but I still love him; we have been together for 2 years now and have been through so much. I can see me spending the rest of my life with him. If he does everything he says he will to win me back and more, do you think I should give it another shot? I will award 10 points automatically to the best advice on what to do. Please help me!!Should I dump him for emotionally cheating? Please help me; best advice gets automatic 10 points!?
I think you should dump him. He didn't emotionally cheat, he CHEATED! He even admitted it, but only felt bad after he was busted. I would just let it go and move on. He wont change...he just feels bad right now that he got caught.Should I dump him for emotionally cheating? Please help me; best advice gets automatic 10 points!?
Let him go once a cheater always a cheater and you will feel so much better
P.S. Please answer mines http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?鈥?/a>
let him go. he doesn't deserve you. i understand that you like/ love him but he isnt worth your time.
Guys: DO U THINK THIS IS NORMAL?10 POINTS FOR BEST ADVICE!THANKS!!!?
I went out with this guy for our first date on Tuesday. he hasn't called until now. do u guys prefer to wait a few days like 3 days before u call the girl?
I need your honest opinions. Thanks.
I think the date went pretty well.He asked me out 3 days after he got my number. Does he probably follow the 3 days rule?
I know I posted this before but I need more answers. Thank uGuys: DO U THINK THIS IS NORMAL?10 POINTS FOR BEST ADVICE!THANKS!!!?
I'm a girl so I can't tell you from a guys perspective but most of the time it just depends. Probably not what you want to hear but it honestly just depends on the guy and how close, or how much he likes you. Sometimes its the same night, sometimes guys follow the three day rule. If you are comfortable enough why don't you just ask him. Honestly I think the three day rule isn't the big of a deal. It gives time for things to sink in and be thought out. Plans can be made, or not made.
So to thoroughly answer your question it's pretty normal but it depends on the guy. Good luck.Guys: DO U THINK THIS IS NORMAL?10 POINTS FOR BEST ADVICE!THANKS!!!?
totally thats ok if he called l8r than expected
dont worry it is totally normal :)
It's the 3 day rule. But then again there is a song, '; Yes'; a country n western, Fantastic listen to it, you will enjoy it.
He probably doesn't want to screw it up by sounding desperate. I prefer to wait a little bit.
I am a girl but have dated enough. Flat answer... if a man wants you or is interested, he will call the next day. There is no 3-day thingy... My honest answer... if he wants to see you again, schedule it 5 days out and see if by then, he is still interested. If the date doesnt happen for whatever reason then he isnt that into you. If he digs you; he wont go without calling you.
I need your honest opinions. Thanks.
I think the date went pretty well.He asked me out 3 days after he got my number. Does he probably follow the 3 days rule?
I know I posted this before but I need more answers. Thank uGuys: DO U THINK THIS IS NORMAL?10 POINTS FOR BEST ADVICE!THANKS!!!?
I'm a girl so I can't tell you from a guys perspective but most of the time it just depends. Probably not what you want to hear but it honestly just depends on the guy and how close, or how much he likes you. Sometimes its the same night, sometimes guys follow the three day rule. If you are comfortable enough why don't you just ask him. Honestly I think the three day rule isn't the big of a deal. It gives time for things to sink in and be thought out. Plans can be made, or not made.
So to thoroughly answer your question it's pretty normal but it depends on the guy. Good luck.Guys: DO U THINK THIS IS NORMAL?10 POINTS FOR BEST ADVICE!THANKS!!!?
totally thats ok if he called l8r than expected
dont worry it is totally normal :)
It's the 3 day rule. But then again there is a song, '; Yes'; a country n western, Fantastic listen to it, you will enjoy it.
He probably doesn't want to screw it up by sounding desperate. I prefer to wait a little bit.
I am a girl but have dated enough. Flat answer... if a man wants you or is interested, he will call the next day. There is no 3-day thingy... My honest answer... if he wants to see you again, schedule it 5 days out and see if by then, he is still interested. If the date doesnt happen for whatever reason then he isnt that into you. If he digs you; he wont go without calling you.
What should I tell my boss? 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
Our organization went through some changes last year. My boss ended someone contract and promote me to do her job. One of a finance officer who much older than me does not like me so she always insulting me by asking questions:
1.) Do you think you can do the job?
2.) While the person was still there--she said, when you are gone--Maybe I will go too. She asked her what will you do now since you will be jobless. (She just said that to annoy me and starting a flight b/w me and former co-workers who was terminated).
Etc..
I decided to avoid her since she is not helpful and always insulting me. Moreover. she caught finance miss transfer my salary about 300 USD. I told the finance and she said, she will give the money (the rest of my salary) to me next month.
Well, people noticed the finance officer and I are not talking (not get along very well) so they told my boss who always in foreign country about the tension.
Yesterday, the finance officer and her assistant come to work late which they always do so I told them--they should let supervisor know if they will come to work late not just like coming late. We argued so one of employee reported to my boss about our argument.
Today my boss asked me and finance officers to have lunch with him to talk about situation. What should I do?What should I tell my boss? 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
You should go.
You need to be upfront and honest about your feelings. Clearly, this woman is giving you problems for some underlying reason. It might be beneficial to figure out what is really bothering her, and then putting yourself in her shoes. After this, you may get a better understanding of why she's doing the things she's doing.
If I were you, I would do your job the way it's supposed to be done. If she comes in late - don't bother confronting her, unless it's your job. You need to do what you're position entitles, regardless of frustrations with her.
The more you try to expose your qualifications and abilities, the more annoying it will be to others in the work environment. Actions speak louder than words, and if you're doing what you're supposed to, then that's all that matters.
At lunch, explain to your boss what is frustrating you, and that you would like to figure out what you can do to reduce tension in the work environment. Explain that you're willing to compromise with this woman; however, she must be willing to make some changes.
Be professional and not whiny.
Best of luck =)What should I tell my boss? 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
say yes, this isnt grade school where you get beat up by tattling it's the real world maybe she'll realize what she is doing and stop and but if she isnt mature and attacks u press charges.
She either might stop and realize
realize and continue
so then u ignore and then that'll piss her off
and occasionally just insult her back
Tell him the truth. Use facts, do not come off as trashing the other people involved. If you are not a trouble maker, do not act like one. Honesty is the key. He may not like what you are telling him, but if its the truth and you can prove it, he will have to respect you.
Do I detect that English is not your first language? I hope I can explain this in simple terms.
Describe your standards for your boss. Say ';this is the way that I feel my job must be done';, then give those details. Include your expectations that people should be polite and professional, should treat each other with respect. You expect people should arrive for work on time. If you feel that the finance officer does not do these things, then explain how the behavior (not the person) is causing tension in your office.
1.) Do you think you can do the job?
2.) While the person was still there--she said, when you are gone--Maybe I will go too. She asked her what will you do now since you will be jobless. (She just said that to annoy me and starting a flight b/w me and former co-workers who was terminated).
Etc..
I decided to avoid her since she is not helpful and always insulting me. Moreover. she caught finance miss transfer my salary about 300 USD. I told the finance and she said, she will give the money (the rest of my salary) to me next month.
Well, people noticed the finance officer and I are not talking (not get along very well) so they told my boss who always in foreign country about the tension.
Yesterday, the finance officer and her assistant come to work late which they always do so I told them--they should let supervisor know if they will come to work late not just like coming late. We argued so one of employee reported to my boss about our argument.
Today my boss asked me and finance officers to have lunch with him to talk about situation. What should I do?What should I tell my boss? 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
You should go.
You need to be upfront and honest about your feelings. Clearly, this woman is giving you problems for some underlying reason. It might be beneficial to figure out what is really bothering her, and then putting yourself in her shoes. After this, you may get a better understanding of why she's doing the things she's doing.
If I were you, I would do your job the way it's supposed to be done. If she comes in late - don't bother confronting her, unless it's your job. You need to do what you're position entitles, regardless of frustrations with her.
The more you try to expose your qualifications and abilities, the more annoying it will be to others in the work environment. Actions speak louder than words, and if you're doing what you're supposed to, then that's all that matters.
At lunch, explain to your boss what is frustrating you, and that you would like to figure out what you can do to reduce tension in the work environment. Explain that you're willing to compromise with this woman; however, she must be willing to make some changes.
Be professional and not whiny.
Best of luck =)What should I tell my boss? 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
say yes, this isnt grade school where you get beat up by tattling it's the real world maybe she'll realize what she is doing and stop and but if she isnt mature and attacks u press charges.
She either might stop and realize
realize and continue
so then u ignore and then that'll piss her off
and occasionally just insult her back
Tell him the truth. Use facts, do not come off as trashing the other people involved. If you are not a trouble maker, do not act like one. Honesty is the key. He may not like what you are telling him, but if its the truth and you can prove it, he will have to respect you.
Do I detect that English is not your first language? I hope I can explain this in simple terms.
Describe your standards for your boss. Say ';this is the way that I feel my job must be done';, then give those details. Include your expectations that people should be polite and professional, should treat each other with respect. You expect people should arrive for work on time. If you feel that the finance officer does not do these things, then explain how the behavior (not the person) is causing tension in your office.
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Is he going to ask me out? 10 points for best advice!?
Well I like this boy since August and he just broke up with his girl friend last Friday. And today I noticed that he was asking my friend questions.. then she would come over to me and say, '; Do you like ( his name )? Then I said, '; Yes. '; Then he pulled her back over and said something else then my friend came over and kept on asking questions about me liking him. Then he would walk over to me and get all nervous looking and walk away... this happened only today! I don't know if he is going to ask me out and I have no clue what to say because he is popular and I'm not! What should I do? Does it sound like he is going to ask me out?Is he going to ask me out? 10 points for best advice!?
HE IS GOING TO ASK YOU OUT!!!!!!!!!!!
LOL.
He will definitely ask you out, otherwise he wouldnt have acted like that!
be prepared!
~鈾モ櫏鈾
HE IS GOING TO ASK YOU OUT!!!!!!!!!!!
LOL.
He will definitely ask you out, otherwise he wouldnt have acted like that!
be prepared!
~鈾モ櫏鈾
Is love means forgive and forget? 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
We ';loved'; each other for 4 years. We had on and off long distance relationship for 2 years. I moved to different states.
I was so frustrated with the relationship. I forced him to make a decision--I kind of ask him to move to where I live. I am not sure whether I did hurt his big ego somehow.
But he responded me with..
He does not want to have a relationship with me. He wants me to leave him alone with no any types of contacts. He even said, he will get a law enforcement involved.
To be honest, it was the most hurtful things that someone (I love or know) say to me. I cried many times when think about it.
He is now regretting and asking for forgiveness.
Is love mean forgive and forget? Or Should I tell him to move on?
Thank you.Is love means forgive and forget? 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
sorry to hear that. why r u interested in knowing if he should move on?. what he does is not ur biz. take care of ur own life. 4 years n he doesnt make a comitment n when u ask him to do so, he badly hurts u? that is not love. there's why I tell u: YOU take care of ur own life YOU move on. forget about him. make a deep analisys of ur self to know what opportunity areas u can develop to become a better person, work on them n go out to the world to get a great man! loosing him hurts? ofcourse it does, u r human. give u a time to live the pain, resolve it n start being happy again.
oh, btw, if I am wrong (not too probably but just to cover all possiblities) n he is really sorry n a great man n ur real love: with more reason u should do what I am telling u to do. re invent ur self, get out, attract the attention of other men: u'll drive him crazy, u'll have him beggin u to come back with u. n u know what? he will have to make many many things to deserve u again. is not being mean. is being intelligent. it will even be good for him. resolving his own issues, fighting for ';his lady';, getting to really appreciate u (changing the way he perceives u) will make him a real man n prepare him for a really commited, respect based relationship. oh...n if he doesnt show up again? great! u'll know then with no doudt that he didnt deserve u. u'll find the ';right one'; and end of the story.
but start working on urself girl! u have many things to fix. dont waste any minute!Is love means forgive and forget? 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
Forgive him for your sake, you may even want to forget it. Do it if you can, but don't get back with him. Like the 1st respondent said ';Love does not hurt'; and its not suppose to be terribly complicated. So if your experience with this man has been both hurtful and complicated then his love for you isn't good enough. Move on and find someone who can love you for real.
Love my dear, should not hurt. Nor should it be difficult.
Forgive him, because carrying this baggage can hurt you. Forget him and find someone that supports you and care about your feelings. Forgive and Forget
I dont understand why he would get mad at you and say he would get the law involved. That is the part that bothers me the most about this. I would talk to him more about this, but aman should not hurt you that much if he loves you.
Tell him to move on and you need to forget that love.
No, dear, love means sharing, truthfulness, caring. He made you feel like a creep. Apparently, the person he dumped you for in the first place has now dumped him. Tell him to take a long walk off a very short pier.
it sounds like that maybe you have been just worrying about yourself and you should try to worry about what he is thinking.
I think the two of you are hurting from the distance and giving an ultimatum while the two of you are going through such a rough patch is something that hurts and hinders the progress of the relationship. Love is all about forgiving and compromising. What he did was out of response to you because he felt so hurt and betrayed that you are forcing his hand at the moment. If you two love each other, no matter how far you two are apart, you will find a way to make the love work. I believe you should do what is in your heart and whether or not you want the relationship continue. That is for you to decide and noone else.
You probibly hurt him when you forced him into a desision to move to where you live, or else. What he did was most likely in response to that.
Maybe you should both forgive each other leave off trying to force the other to do something their not sure they want to do and try and be friends again and see what happens
love is very complicated. There is always your goods and your bads. love hurts. you can forgive but you will never forget. You should give it another try. But dont put your hopes and efforts so high.
When you feel that strongly for someone it can make you do crazy things. I was so in love with someone once that i started hating them for it and treating them really badly cos id never felt like that and i didnt know what to do about it
i think youve just got to trust your insticts.
Id like to think if you still care about someone that much and they do to that should be enough. cos it doesnt happen too often.
work out whats best for you
would getting hurt again outway the great times you could have with him until that point came, (if it ever did)?
He said that to you out of anger. If you love him, want to be with him and he wants to move to be with you forgive and forget.
If he has proven to you that he knows he has something good with you, then by all means open your arm to him while still keeping your ground. If not, let him go. Love mean that you should have the ability to forgive, but dont be stupid now. Nothing is worth your happiness. Love hurts, and it is difficult. If anyone tells you other wise then they know only the fantasy of love, not the reality.
1 more chance wont hurt but dont get soo into the relationship so if he messes up again it would be easy to let him go.
Look I went through something similar to this. If she would just open up and say it was a mistake I would completely forget what happened.
That is the hardest part of a relationship. Learning to forgive and forget. If you can't then move on.
I was so frustrated with the relationship. I forced him to make a decision--I kind of ask him to move to where I live. I am not sure whether I did hurt his big ego somehow.
But he responded me with..
He does not want to have a relationship with me. He wants me to leave him alone with no any types of contacts. He even said, he will get a law enforcement involved.
To be honest, it was the most hurtful things that someone (I love or know) say to me. I cried many times when think about it.
He is now regretting and asking for forgiveness.
Is love mean forgive and forget? Or Should I tell him to move on?
Thank you.Is love means forgive and forget? 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
sorry to hear that. why r u interested in knowing if he should move on?. what he does is not ur biz. take care of ur own life. 4 years n he doesnt make a comitment n when u ask him to do so, he badly hurts u? that is not love. there's why I tell u: YOU take care of ur own life YOU move on. forget about him. make a deep analisys of ur self to know what opportunity areas u can develop to become a better person, work on them n go out to the world to get a great man! loosing him hurts? ofcourse it does, u r human. give u a time to live the pain, resolve it n start being happy again.
oh, btw, if I am wrong (not too probably but just to cover all possiblities) n he is really sorry n a great man n ur real love: with more reason u should do what I am telling u to do. re invent ur self, get out, attract the attention of other men: u'll drive him crazy, u'll have him beggin u to come back with u. n u know what? he will have to make many many things to deserve u again. is not being mean. is being intelligent. it will even be good for him. resolving his own issues, fighting for ';his lady';, getting to really appreciate u (changing the way he perceives u) will make him a real man n prepare him for a really commited, respect based relationship. oh...n if he doesnt show up again? great! u'll know then with no doudt that he didnt deserve u. u'll find the ';right one'; and end of the story.
but start working on urself girl! u have many things to fix. dont waste any minute!Is love means forgive and forget? 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
Forgive him for your sake, you may even want to forget it. Do it if you can, but don't get back with him. Like the 1st respondent said ';Love does not hurt'; and its not suppose to be terribly complicated. So if your experience with this man has been both hurtful and complicated then his love for you isn't good enough. Move on and find someone who can love you for real.
Love my dear, should not hurt. Nor should it be difficult.
Forgive him, because carrying this baggage can hurt you. Forget him and find someone that supports you and care about your feelings. Forgive and Forget
I dont understand why he would get mad at you and say he would get the law involved. That is the part that bothers me the most about this. I would talk to him more about this, but aman should not hurt you that much if he loves you.
Tell him to move on and you need to forget that love.
No, dear, love means sharing, truthfulness, caring. He made you feel like a creep. Apparently, the person he dumped you for in the first place has now dumped him. Tell him to take a long walk off a very short pier.
it sounds like that maybe you have been just worrying about yourself and you should try to worry about what he is thinking.
I think the two of you are hurting from the distance and giving an ultimatum while the two of you are going through such a rough patch is something that hurts and hinders the progress of the relationship. Love is all about forgiving and compromising. What he did was out of response to you because he felt so hurt and betrayed that you are forcing his hand at the moment. If you two love each other, no matter how far you two are apart, you will find a way to make the love work. I believe you should do what is in your heart and whether or not you want the relationship continue. That is for you to decide and noone else.
You probibly hurt him when you forced him into a desision to move to where you live, or else. What he did was most likely in response to that.
Maybe you should both forgive each other leave off trying to force the other to do something their not sure they want to do and try and be friends again and see what happens
love is very complicated. There is always your goods and your bads. love hurts. you can forgive but you will never forget. You should give it another try. But dont put your hopes and efforts so high.
When you feel that strongly for someone it can make you do crazy things. I was so in love with someone once that i started hating them for it and treating them really badly cos id never felt like that and i didnt know what to do about it
i think youve just got to trust your insticts.
Id like to think if you still care about someone that much and they do to that should be enough. cos it doesnt happen too often.
work out whats best for you
would getting hurt again outway the great times you could have with him until that point came, (if it ever did)?
He said that to you out of anger. If you love him, want to be with him and he wants to move to be with you forgive and forget.
If he has proven to you that he knows he has something good with you, then by all means open your arm to him while still keeping your ground. If not, let him go. Love mean that you should have the ability to forgive, but dont be stupid now. Nothing is worth your happiness. Love hurts, and it is difficult. If anyone tells you other wise then they know only the fantasy of love, not the reality.
1 more chance wont hurt but dont get soo into the relationship so if he messes up again it would be easy to let him go.
Look I went through something similar to this. If she would just open up and say it was a mistake I would completely forget what happened.
That is the hardest part of a relationship. Learning to forgive and forget. If you can't then move on.
Quick ten points for whoever can provide me with the best advice.....?
There's this boy well man. I have been having feelings for him since I was 15. I've been knowing him since I was six. Now im 19 we talk on the phone and hang out. He knows that I like him but he doesn't know how strong my feelings are towards him. He's mentioned that he likes me alot and left it at dat. We are both shy around each other when it comes to talking about feelings but we can talk about any and everything. So happens yesterday I was tipsy and I spilled everything telling him how I really about him, he said he feels the same way and left it at that. I feel like I'm wasting my time worrying about him. Should I just leave it be and go my way or what I'm so confused????Quick ten points for whoever can provide me with the best advice.....?
You both have feelings for each other, thats pretty obvious, so why would you let it stay at just that? Ask him out, make sure he knows its a date, maybe hes just to shy about the situation, but one of you is going to have to make the first move, but it sounds like you both just waiting for the other.
Make something happen if you want something to happen.
Good luckQuick ten points for whoever can provide me with the best advice.....?
I think you shouldn't try to pursue anything. Why would you want to be with a ';Man'; that doesn't know how to express how he feels and what he thinks? It's not like you just meet the man, you been knowing him since you were a girl.If he can't be straight with you when it comes to important stuff like that then you don't need him.
If you both know you like eachother, but are too shy to do anything about it, you can do 1 of 2 things,
a) YOU can go for it, mention it again and see what comes out of it. Still nothing? Who knows. But sometimes guys like you to make the first move.
b) DO NOTHING. Wait for him to bring it back up or mention it.
WHAT?? You both confessed you have strong feelings for each other and you want to give it all up?? You must be mad, next time you see him you have to ask him out, or when he's talking, kiss him. Good luck!!!
ask him if you can go farther with your relationship if you really like him
You both have feelings for each other, thats pretty obvious, so why would you let it stay at just that? Ask him out, make sure he knows its a date, maybe hes just to shy about the situation, but one of you is going to have to make the first move, but it sounds like you both just waiting for the other.
Make something happen if you want something to happen.
Good luckQuick ten points for whoever can provide me with the best advice.....?
I think you shouldn't try to pursue anything. Why would you want to be with a ';Man'; that doesn't know how to express how he feels and what he thinks? It's not like you just meet the man, you been knowing him since you were a girl.If he can't be straight with you when it comes to important stuff like that then you don't need him.
If you both know you like eachother, but are too shy to do anything about it, you can do 1 of 2 things,
a) YOU can go for it, mention it again and see what comes out of it. Still nothing? Who knows. But sometimes guys like you to make the first move.
b) DO NOTHING. Wait for him to bring it back up or mention it.
WHAT?? You both confessed you have strong feelings for each other and you want to give it all up?? You must be mad, next time you see him you have to ask him out, or when he's talking, kiss him. Good luck!!!
ask him if you can go farther with your relationship if you really like him
What do you think of this? 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
I discussed about love life with my host mom. She is 54 years old. She have had many relationships. She has more than 30 boyfriends. However, they relationships never last longer than 4 years. She love to read romance books---I knew deep down she is longing for the ';soulmate'; or '; true love';. Althought, she did not admit.
I told her --she jumps in and out off the relationship too quickly. She does not know how to really love, care, communicate, and compromine with her partners.
She did not respond me.
I am just wondering. From this information. Do you think I am right about this? Please advice. Thank you
I am 22 years old. Of course I want to learn from her mistake.What do you think of this? 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
I believe you are correct. I've been thought the same thing. Any relationship depend on communication and compromise to make it work. Once the relationship have a bad communication or someone in the relationship stop compromising then the relationship goes bad. It is hard to find someone your age this smart.What do you think of this? 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
It seems to me that you already have learned from her mistakes.
You are very wise for 22. Yes, I believe you are very right about all of it. Use that to learn from - yourself! You are right on with your thinking! Good girl!
yea you are right, that's why she didn't respond, the truth hurts sometimes. 30 boyfriends at age 54, geez that 2 a year every year.
I would say that the romance novels feed her imagination and libido. After someone has been together for a few years (sometimes quicker) the powerful lust and newness in the relationship wears off and familiarity steps in. This can be a turn-off. She likes the swooning of seduction but becomes bored when the sex becomes routine and the prince charming becomes a fat, farting, bore... this is her preference ostensibly to not settle for anything less than her fantasy ';Lover'; and it's tragic because he is a fantasy and she may live alone unless she learns how to love someone. This could be that she doesn't yet know what she needs in a man and that the bodis-ripper books have flooded her thoughts with inferences that are not hers at all. I think you are right most of all. The problem is fantasy interfering with reality kind if like a really fat guy believing that he will marry a supermodel... not very plausible. Now you on the other hand should be just fine. Wait before you chose, wait alone, untill you find the right one, don't just chase them because you're scared to be alone. I will end on this, she is probably scared to be alone, not patient enough to wait and ';settles'; for someone who promises a way out of loneliness. I hope this hits the spot. I agree with you but the truth hurts. Best wishes in your life!
What I have learned so far is that some people treat love like a noun instead of a verb.
People think of love as something that just sort of happens to them. A feeling they get. A wave of emotion that comes over them like some silly song. And they wait for their ';true love';, their ';soulmate';. That one person who was created just for them by some higher being in the universe. They are controlled by their emotions, and once that feeling is gone they assume ';Oh, he is not the one';.
I personally think there is something more to love than that. Loving someone is something you have to DO, not something that just happens. You choose to love someone. There are good days, and there are bad days, but every day you can wake up and you can make that choice. The choice to love your partner. One day maybe they leave the toilet seat up, or say something insensitive... and some days the choice to love them is harder than other days...
I personally think that the secret to making relationships work is making that choice, day in, day out, and realising that everything in life is choice... it might take some of the magic and romance out of the whole thing... but it has worked for me so far.
To start I would not get advice for a person like that. she is living in a fansaty world. she has ideas of what relationships should be, and it ends b/c it does not meet her needs.
So yes you are right. do not do what she does. but keep in mind, you have a lot of trial and error to learn yourself.
love needs to sucrvise,you should give without excpecting to take ,if each of us does that the life will be better
You know her better than we do, but even with 11 more years of life than you, I'm still figuring this thing out. She may very well be holding out for a man who does not exist, but she has to come to that on her own. Only she will know when she's ready to commit. There's not right or wrong here, but people have to come to honesty in their own hearts for themselves.
your right mostly of course she can be having those tat seem sincere at first then trouble wen they meet been there !!!
Potentially I think you are right, I also think that she may be idealizing those romance novels, not many of them will reflect the mistakes that guys will make, doesn't mean that they aren't your soul mate or true love. My Grandparents have been married for 56 years, and I know my grandpa makes tons of mistakes, after all he is a big kid!! The important thing to do you already know about, watch other relationships find out what works and what doesn't and form your own plan. As for your host mom there isn't much you can do people can only hope to change themselves not others.
I bet you envy your host mom. 30 lovers! wow i bet you sit and listen to her all night about all her lovers.
It appears to me that you know more about life then you host mother and well she was surprised and well knew you spoke the truth when you said what you said. Someone that runs around with so many different men doesn't allow herself to get attached to one person and to fall in love and find commitment, or tofind compromise and devotion from one person.
She wants to find this special person but she just has a phobia of commitment or the whole love tackle she has been hurt in her past and finds it hard to trust another man.
I think you need to tell her that you want her to happy and what she is doing right now is just filling a void in her life but isn't bringing her the happiness she desires.
Tell her she need to weed through the guys and find the guy that makes her the happiest and work on making something more of it. Until she does this her life will be empty and well lonely tell her it is time to trust again and find someone to love for the rest of her life.
You sound right on the mark. We can't just get into relationships with people because they are nice. I think the fact that she reads romance novels all the time is a huge indication that she is a romantic at heart. However they could be sabbatoging her way of viewing real life. The way they write those books are very captivating but often not realistic. Unfortunately, we don't live in a fairy tale world. I believe she is desperately looking for Mr. Right but instead she is selling herself short and settling for Mr. Right now. Learn from her mistakes. Don't let anyone tell you that you have to find out for yourself. Don't miss your prince while you are so busy kissing all of these temporary frogs.
As an older woman who has had a lot of relationships, what you say may be right, or she may just be choosing the wrong men! She reads Romance novels, but they don't offer a realistic view of men. Neither do any of the Hollywood movies. It takes some really honest soul searching to find out who you are. Then you have to decide what you will and will not compromise on. That is when you start to learn what you are really made of, and only then should you embark on a relationship quest.
It is wise also to test a man while dating, to see if he has the emotional mettle to work at a relationship or has personality quirks that aren't compatible. I can't stand jealousy, so I set up an innocent situation to see where he stands on that issue. It's a pass/fail test. No looking back. Think back to situations where you were forced to do things or accept things you did not ever feel good about. Those are the red flags I am talking about. You don't compromise on those issues. See if the future Mr. is able to avoid your red flags.
The best books I've ever read on the subject were ';Mars and Venus On A Date'; by John Gray. I reread it twice to make sure it sunk in. We women see the world entirely differently from men. They are much more pragmatic about life, and if she has been reading Romance novels, I can guarantee she is seeing the world through rose colored glasses. Dr. Phil has some great advice on relationships in his books, too.
Life was very different when she was growing up. Women did not have the opportunities they do now. A woman was supposed to live through her man and her family, not have a thought of her own. Any woman who did was considered a ball breaker, and completely un-feminine, and other women and men would shun her for it. It is still that way in many Eastern cultures. So don't be too hard on her.
each case is different. No one should tolerate abuse, that needs to be said 1st.
Generally, however, I think you're right. It takes a lot of hard work to make a relationship work. If one is not willing, it cannot work. I do wish more women thought like you do, instead of dmanding we guys be perfect (and psychic).
Nah she is just and old ho, she gets what she wants and gets on her way. dont run your life the way she does, find something you like about people before you date them.
You may or may not be right about your host mom. There are a lot of reasons why someone would have so many partners, and not all of them hinge on being unable to communicate and compromise with your partner. Many women simply have bad taste in men, or will attach themselves to any man for validation, which can lead to abuse.
My advice to you would be to do what you think is right in a relationship. If your instinct is to leave, for any reason, go with that. Do what is best for you, and remember that your personal well-being is more important than any relationship. If it is a truly healthy and positive relationship, you won't have conflicting feelings about it.
Hi Cutie Pie: I used to wonder why, eastern culture was so set on the value of the journey and not the destination. The thing I learned was, on the way is where the adventure happens. But in order to stay on track, you have to have a set of standards. These guidelines will keep the bad mistakes to a minimum. When you make a mistake, that could possibly be the changing point of your entire life. Eg.. Getting pregnant when your young. I think you are right. Too many, '; in and out,'; relationships, are not good for the soul. If you keep doing the same thing all the time and wonder why your life is in turmoil, you think it would be time to change your guidelines?
RIGHT OR WRONG! Your opinion of her love life is just that,
based on your values. Is it not presumptious to say that longevety does not necessarily garantee a love well done, does it? Nothing holy has ever been achieved through denial. Each to his own. You have nothing shameful, least of all your body. True your idea of love differs but what is wrong, a women who loves variety or is a martyr who stands is a 20year relationship of doing right. Or a priest who hides behind his robe, declaing his holiness, while wanting little boys. If your host mom declares her truth, let it be. RIGHT OR WRONG! You want to be wright!
you'll be the same.
genes never lie.
I told her --she jumps in and out off the relationship too quickly. She does not know how to really love, care, communicate, and compromine with her partners.
She did not respond me.
I am just wondering. From this information. Do you think I am right about this? Please advice. Thank you
I am 22 years old. Of course I want to learn from her mistake.What do you think of this? 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
I believe you are correct. I've been thought the same thing. Any relationship depend on communication and compromise to make it work. Once the relationship have a bad communication or someone in the relationship stop compromising then the relationship goes bad. It is hard to find someone your age this smart.What do you think of this? 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
It seems to me that you already have learned from her mistakes.
You are very wise for 22. Yes, I believe you are very right about all of it. Use that to learn from - yourself! You are right on with your thinking! Good girl!
yea you are right, that's why she didn't respond, the truth hurts sometimes. 30 boyfriends at age 54, geez that 2 a year every year.
I would say that the romance novels feed her imagination and libido. After someone has been together for a few years (sometimes quicker) the powerful lust and newness in the relationship wears off and familiarity steps in. This can be a turn-off. She likes the swooning of seduction but becomes bored when the sex becomes routine and the prince charming becomes a fat, farting, bore... this is her preference ostensibly to not settle for anything less than her fantasy ';Lover'; and it's tragic because he is a fantasy and she may live alone unless she learns how to love someone. This could be that she doesn't yet know what she needs in a man and that the bodis-ripper books have flooded her thoughts with inferences that are not hers at all. I think you are right most of all. The problem is fantasy interfering with reality kind if like a really fat guy believing that he will marry a supermodel... not very plausible. Now you on the other hand should be just fine. Wait before you chose, wait alone, untill you find the right one, don't just chase them because you're scared to be alone. I will end on this, she is probably scared to be alone, not patient enough to wait and ';settles'; for someone who promises a way out of loneliness. I hope this hits the spot. I agree with you but the truth hurts. Best wishes in your life!
What I have learned so far is that some people treat love like a noun instead of a verb.
People think of love as something that just sort of happens to them. A feeling they get. A wave of emotion that comes over them like some silly song. And they wait for their ';true love';, their ';soulmate';. That one person who was created just for them by some higher being in the universe. They are controlled by their emotions, and once that feeling is gone they assume ';Oh, he is not the one';.
I personally think there is something more to love than that. Loving someone is something you have to DO, not something that just happens. You choose to love someone. There are good days, and there are bad days, but every day you can wake up and you can make that choice. The choice to love your partner. One day maybe they leave the toilet seat up, or say something insensitive... and some days the choice to love them is harder than other days...
I personally think that the secret to making relationships work is making that choice, day in, day out, and realising that everything in life is choice... it might take some of the magic and romance out of the whole thing... but it has worked for me so far.
To start I would not get advice for a person like that. she is living in a fansaty world. she has ideas of what relationships should be, and it ends b/c it does not meet her needs.
So yes you are right. do not do what she does. but keep in mind, you have a lot of trial and error to learn yourself.
love needs to sucrvise,you should give without excpecting to take ,if each of us does that the life will be better
You know her better than we do, but even with 11 more years of life than you, I'm still figuring this thing out. She may very well be holding out for a man who does not exist, but she has to come to that on her own. Only she will know when she's ready to commit. There's not right or wrong here, but people have to come to honesty in their own hearts for themselves.
your right mostly of course she can be having those tat seem sincere at first then trouble wen they meet been there !!!
Potentially I think you are right, I also think that she may be idealizing those romance novels, not many of them will reflect the mistakes that guys will make, doesn't mean that they aren't your soul mate or true love. My Grandparents have been married for 56 years, and I know my grandpa makes tons of mistakes, after all he is a big kid!! The important thing to do you already know about, watch other relationships find out what works and what doesn't and form your own plan. As for your host mom there isn't much you can do people can only hope to change themselves not others.
I bet you envy your host mom. 30 lovers! wow i bet you sit and listen to her all night about all her lovers.
It appears to me that you know more about life then you host mother and well she was surprised and well knew you spoke the truth when you said what you said. Someone that runs around with so many different men doesn't allow herself to get attached to one person and to fall in love and find commitment, or tofind compromise and devotion from one person.
She wants to find this special person but she just has a phobia of commitment or the whole love tackle she has been hurt in her past and finds it hard to trust another man.
I think you need to tell her that you want her to happy and what she is doing right now is just filling a void in her life but isn't bringing her the happiness she desires.
Tell her she need to weed through the guys and find the guy that makes her the happiest and work on making something more of it. Until she does this her life will be empty and well lonely tell her it is time to trust again and find someone to love for the rest of her life.
You sound right on the mark. We can't just get into relationships with people because they are nice. I think the fact that she reads romance novels all the time is a huge indication that she is a romantic at heart. However they could be sabbatoging her way of viewing real life. The way they write those books are very captivating but often not realistic. Unfortunately, we don't live in a fairy tale world. I believe she is desperately looking for Mr. Right but instead she is selling herself short and settling for Mr. Right now. Learn from her mistakes. Don't let anyone tell you that you have to find out for yourself. Don't miss your prince while you are so busy kissing all of these temporary frogs.
As an older woman who has had a lot of relationships, what you say may be right, or she may just be choosing the wrong men! She reads Romance novels, but they don't offer a realistic view of men. Neither do any of the Hollywood movies. It takes some really honest soul searching to find out who you are. Then you have to decide what you will and will not compromise on. That is when you start to learn what you are really made of, and only then should you embark on a relationship quest.
It is wise also to test a man while dating, to see if he has the emotional mettle to work at a relationship or has personality quirks that aren't compatible. I can't stand jealousy, so I set up an innocent situation to see where he stands on that issue. It's a pass/fail test. No looking back. Think back to situations where you were forced to do things or accept things you did not ever feel good about. Those are the red flags I am talking about. You don't compromise on those issues. See if the future Mr. is able to avoid your red flags.
The best books I've ever read on the subject were ';Mars and Venus On A Date'; by John Gray. I reread it twice to make sure it sunk in. We women see the world entirely differently from men. They are much more pragmatic about life, and if she has been reading Romance novels, I can guarantee she is seeing the world through rose colored glasses. Dr. Phil has some great advice on relationships in his books, too.
Life was very different when she was growing up. Women did not have the opportunities they do now. A woman was supposed to live through her man and her family, not have a thought of her own. Any woman who did was considered a ball breaker, and completely un-feminine, and other women and men would shun her for it. It is still that way in many Eastern cultures. So don't be too hard on her.
each case is different. No one should tolerate abuse, that needs to be said 1st.
Generally, however, I think you're right. It takes a lot of hard work to make a relationship work. If one is not willing, it cannot work. I do wish more women thought like you do, instead of dmanding we guys be perfect (and psychic).
Nah she is just and old ho, she gets what she wants and gets on her way. dont run your life the way she does, find something you like about people before you date them.
You may or may not be right about your host mom. There are a lot of reasons why someone would have so many partners, and not all of them hinge on being unable to communicate and compromise with your partner. Many women simply have bad taste in men, or will attach themselves to any man for validation, which can lead to abuse.
My advice to you would be to do what you think is right in a relationship. If your instinct is to leave, for any reason, go with that. Do what is best for you, and remember that your personal well-being is more important than any relationship. If it is a truly healthy and positive relationship, you won't have conflicting feelings about it.
Hi Cutie Pie: I used to wonder why, eastern culture was so set on the value of the journey and not the destination. The thing I learned was, on the way is where the adventure happens. But in order to stay on track, you have to have a set of standards. These guidelines will keep the bad mistakes to a minimum. When you make a mistake, that could possibly be the changing point of your entire life. Eg.. Getting pregnant when your young. I think you are right. Too many, '; in and out,'; relationships, are not good for the soul. If you keep doing the same thing all the time and wonder why your life is in turmoil, you think it would be time to change your guidelines?
RIGHT OR WRONG! Your opinion of her love life is just that,
based on your values. Is it not presumptious to say that longevety does not necessarily garantee a love well done, does it? Nothing holy has ever been achieved through denial. Each to his own. You have nothing shameful, least of all your body. True your idea of love differs but what is wrong, a women who loves variety or is a martyr who stands is a 20year relationship of doing right. Or a priest who hides behind his robe, declaing his holiness, while wanting little boys. If your host mom declares her truth, let it be. RIGHT OR WRONG! You want to be wright!
you'll be the same.
genes never lie.
How to gain my confidence back? 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
This is based in the true story.
When I was in college 18-20 years old. There are so many college guys want to my boyfriend. At the time, I dressed up nice and cute. I looked fresh and put together.
I graduated from college at age 20. I got a full-time job 3 days after graduated. I go to grad school right after finish my undergraduate. Life have been very busy. I have less time to take care of myself. I don't wear make up. I have to dress up professionally and conservatively for my job.
I am only 22. Most of my peers ad co-workers are in their late 20and 30. I want to be youngful. I want some attention from the guys like I used to when I was in college.
Thank youHow to gain my confidence back? 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
Clothes and makeup only can take you so far. First you have to have be confidence in yourself. One can look attractive with little or no makeup. As far as clothing goes, you just have to pick a stye that goes with your personality. A confidence person will attract attention from everyone especially guy.How to gain my confidence back? 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
Pick out your clothes the night before work.
Go to bed an hour earlier.
Get up an hour earlier and immediately go to exercise! (aerobics, walk, jog..whatever)
Hop in the shower.
Give yourself enough time to put on some make-up, blow dry your hair, pluck the eyebrows..whatever your beauty routine is.
When you get paid..set aside some money to be used at a salon or to buy yourself a fabulous outfit.
Go get your hair done and your manicure/pedicure and make the appointment in 4-6 weeks for your follow up!
Do something you really enjoy doing...read, movies, volunteer, go out with friends....
In no time you will be you again!
ok get sexy and conservative watch what not to wear they got great tips and in cosmo they have five min makeup tips girl get it back and you can ok get it and always shoulders back and breast out ok get it gurl
Invest time in yourself. Manicure your nails, style your hair and put your make up on each day...find something cute to wear, even if it's casual stuff...what ever makes you feel cute. do it.
~Go to a fabulous salon and treat yourself to an all day makeover! When you leave go shopping and buy some of the products you need for your new look. When you leave the salon you will feel so beautiful that you will not want to let the look disappear again.
You need to schedule in some time for yourself. Even that will make you feel a bit better. But life does tend to get serious, and work is not a place to be attention seeking. So, grab some me time, and get involved wih your hobbies and have fun after work!
When I was in college 18-20 years old. There are so many college guys want to my boyfriend. At the time, I dressed up nice and cute. I looked fresh and put together.
I graduated from college at age 20. I got a full-time job 3 days after graduated. I go to grad school right after finish my undergraduate. Life have been very busy. I have less time to take care of myself. I don't wear make up. I have to dress up professionally and conservatively for my job.
I am only 22. Most of my peers ad co-workers are in their late 20and 30. I want to be youngful. I want some attention from the guys like I used to when I was in college.
Thank youHow to gain my confidence back? 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
Clothes and makeup only can take you so far. First you have to have be confidence in yourself. One can look attractive with little or no makeup. As far as clothing goes, you just have to pick a stye that goes with your personality. A confidence person will attract attention from everyone especially guy.How to gain my confidence back? 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
Pick out your clothes the night before work.
Go to bed an hour earlier.
Get up an hour earlier and immediately go to exercise! (aerobics, walk, jog..whatever)
Hop in the shower.
Give yourself enough time to put on some make-up, blow dry your hair, pluck the eyebrows..whatever your beauty routine is.
When you get paid..set aside some money to be used at a salon or to buy yourself a fabulous outfit.
Go get your hair done and your manicure/pedicure and make the appointment in 4-6 weeks for your follow up!
Do something you really enjoy doing...read, movies, volunteer, go out with friends....
In no time you will be you again!
ok get sexy and conservative watch what not to wear they got great tips and in cosmo they have five min makeup tips girl get it back and you can ok get it and always shoulders back and breast out ok get it gurl
Invest time in yourself. Manicure your nails, style your hair and put your make up on each day...find something cute to wear, even if it's casual stuff...what ever makes you feel cute. do it.
~Go to a fabulous salon and treat yourself to an all day makeover! When you leave go shopping and buy some of the products you need for your new look. When you leave the salon you will feel so beautiful that you will not want to let the look disappear again.
You need to schedule in some time for yourself. Even that will make you feel a bit better. But life does tend to get serious, and work is not a place to be attention seeking. So, grab some me time, and get involved wih your hobbies and have fun after work!
Guys: DO U THINK THIS IS NORMAL?10 POINTS FOR BEST ADVICE!THANKS!!!?
I went out with this guy for our first date on Tuesday. he hasn't called until now. do u guys prefer to wait a few days like 3 days before u call the girl?
I need your honest opinions. Thanks.
I think the date went pretty well.He asked me out 3 days after he got my number. Does he probably follow the 3 days rule?
I know I posted this before but I need more answers. Thank uGuys: DO U THINK THIS IS NORMAL?10 POINTS FOR BEST ADVICE!THANKS!!!?
the hell with the 3 day rule if u like someone do your best to let them knowGuys: DO U THINK THIS IS NORMAL?10 POINTS FOR BEST ADVICE!THANKS!!!?
yes fricking stupid ';rules'; --- i call as soon as possible then she knows i care and am interested --- all ';rules'; do is create confusion and uncertainty ---- best wishescovergirl eye makeup styles
I need your honest opinions. Thanks.
I think the date went pretty well.He asked me out 3 days after he got my number. Does he probably follow the 3 days rule?
I know I posted this before but I need more answers. Thank uGuys: DO U THINK THIS IS NORMAL?10 POINTS FOR BEST ADVICE!THANKS!!!?
the hell with the 3 day rule if u like someone do your best to let them knowGuys: DO U THINK THIS IS NORMAL?10 POINTS FOR BEST ADVICE!THANKS!!!?
yes fricking stupid ';rules'; --- i call as soon as possible then she knows i care and am interested --- all ';rules'; do is create confusion and uncertainty ---- best wishes
My bestfriend said she would never forgive me if 10points best advice?!?
i cheated on my bf once and told him (it was his best mate) so he went round there and smashed him up and his mate had to get 15 stitchs. my bf didnt blame a bit of it on me he said he knows what his friend is like and he knows i wouldn have done it on purpose! i told him we were both in on it i wasnt forced or anything like that but he wouldnt believe me! his best friend rang me on my phone and told me to leave my bf and go out with him. i really wanted to because i wasnt in love with my bf he use to be my best guy friend until we started going out and its felt like that has recked our friendship for many diffrent resons. and i really liked this guy his name is jake his sister is my best friend! so i told her that her brother asked me out and how i felt about him and that i wasnt happy with my atm bf. she basically said that if i dumped jaimee for jake then our friendship was over and she would never forgive me!
when i asked her why she was like this she said it was bad enough i had cheated on jaimee for jake but to dump him for jake they where best friends and you have wreacked that!!
when she put it like that i felt really bad but i really do like her brother and i tryed to tell er that and that i cant keep going out with someone hat im not happy with.
but she said that if i hurt jaimee any more than have and dstroy there friendship anymore she will never talk to me again
what should i do
please help
any advice i would be so grateful for!My bestfriend said she would never forgive me if 10points best advice?!?
your friend cant choose wat kind of relationship your in.. maybe break up with ur bf but dont go out with the other dude if your friendship is really inportant, otherwise i think thats pretty lame.My bestfriend said she would never forgive me if 10points best advice?!?
yea you do sound like a slut
you sound like a *****
uhhh i didnt even bother reading your whole question cause i got up to the part where you said that you cheated on your bf with his best friend...well, cant say much except your bf is really pissed off with you, and trust me...there is no trust left in your relationship to even try to mend, so just move on, at least you can move on...my brother is sleeping around with my ex...
when i asked her why she was like this she said it was bad enough i had cheated on jaimee for jake but to dump him for jake they where best friends and you have wreacked that!!
when she put it like that i felt really bad but i really do like her brother and i tryed to tell er that and that i cant keep going out with someone hat im not happy with.
but she said that if i hurt jaimee any more than have and dstroy there friendship anymore she will never talk to me again
what should i do
please help
any advice i would be so grateful for!My bestfriend said she would never forgive me if 10points best advice?!?
your friend cant choose wat kind of relationship your in.. maybe break up with ur bf but dont go out with the other dude if your friendship is really inportant, otherwise i think thats pretty lame.My bestfriend said she would never forgive me if 10points best advice?!?
yea you do sound like a slut
you sound like a *****
uhhh i didnt even bother reading your whole question cause i got up to the part where you said that you cheated on your bf with his best friend...well, cant say much except your bf is really pissed off with you, and trust me...there is no trust left in your relationship to even try to mend, so just move on, at least you can move on...my brother is sleeping around with my ex...
Would this be good to do? 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
I am 22 years old. I have been focusing on school and work. I think I am good with that because I have been a good employee and almost finish a Master Degree. On the other hand, I never have been in a relationship. I am still a virgin.
Well, I am okay with it and I actually don't want a relationship now. I want to wait for a couple of years. However, my host mom and my big sisters often told me that I will become too independence. It will be harder for me to find a boyfriend...
What do you think? Please advice. Thank you!Would this be good to do? 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
Right now in your life you have the opportunity to grab the world by the tail and run with it. This ambition will allow you to run in a better quality of life circles. You will have so many chances in the future but right now you are also frustrated. Take a cold shower. You do not need to be in a relationship to validate you as a female and a person. Listen to your heart.Would this be good to do? 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
That's fine if you don't want to be in a relationship right now, but you do need to make sure you are at least giving yourself some time for fun. Do you go out with friends? Do you take time out for things you enjoy? Or do you spend 24/7 focused on work and school? If you don't take time to have fun, two years down the road you will be socially inapt for a relationship. It will be a lot harder for you to find a boyfriend.
Who's life do you want to live? Theirs or yours?
Bottom line, your life, your choices and so long as you are HAPPY then let it be.
One day you may stumble into a relationship and by then you will know who you are and what you want and that is a GOOD thing in my opinion. When the RIGHT person comes along you wont need to agonize over thoughts like this. It will just FLOW along and be a wonderful adventure.
If you are content where you are then just ENJOY what you have and what you are doing. Don't FEAR that you are running out of time, life is to be lived THE WAY YOU CHOOSE IT. Not for other peoples expectations.
Good luck.
i think you are on the right path. you know yourself and that is the best way to do what you want in life. your host mom and big sisters mean well but they should keep their opinions to themselves... i believe you can define yourself and do not need a boyfriend to define yourself. when you are ready to become involved with a love interest, it will happen, it will feel right, and a good man respects a woman's independence....i never let a man define my life or sense of self. i waited until i got my education and career. keep going on your path and know that only you really knows what is right for you...
I don't need your 10 points, thank you very much. But, do what you want to do. Not what someone else wants you to do.
A good strong man wants a good strong independent woman.Use your strength and Independence to say ';I will continue on my path not yours but thanks for your interest.'; Being a virgin is a bit lonely (I was one until the age of 21)but sex confuses the mind and body.Complete your life ,become the woman you were meant to be.When the time is right the strong man that you are looking for will find you,and appreciate you for exactly who you are.Good luck! :)
You seem to be a bold girl. your boldness has made them say that u will become independent. Also u might have made a insecure feeling in your family. So u have to give ur family a secure feeling. That will do good.
It's actually a good thing that you don't want to be in a relationship right now. I say, you should finish school and get your Master Degree. Then you could start dating. But don't just go off and get in bed with someone, it's a very good thing that you're still a virgin. You should fall in love with someone you want to be with for the rest of your life before actually having a child.
I think being a 22 yr. old virgin is so cool. It shows alot of self controll and discipline. You'd be an asset to any company or any man looking for a good wife. Keep up the good work.
u are still young, maybe u are not ready yet that doesn't mean is hard to find a guy , because u seem to be successful , when the time is right than u will meet your guy, not right now, now just continue your goal, and it okey if u choose not to be with a guy, be patient and it will happen at the right time.
focus on becoming who you want to be rather than what other people think you should be and don't focus on sex it will happen when the time is right for you. There is nothing wrong with being a virgin it is not anyones business but yours and definitely not something you need to advertise or discuss unless it is your choice to do so.
If you don't want a boyfriend right now then don't have sex. Once you start having sex you are going to need it and it might become a priority in your life over work and school. You are so focused on your future and that is what it takes to get you ahead. When you get a job making the big bucks then get into a relationship.
Take your time, there is no rush, just let it come to you naturally, if it aint broke don't fix it. You sound like you are doin just fine and you wouldn't believe how hard it is to find a woman with such strong morals it is a refreshing change. Stay faithful to yourself and life has a strange way of panning out in its own little ways.
If you are not ready for a relationship, then don't be in one. Some people want to be in a relationship earlier than others. I was not in a ';real'; relationship until I was 18 and in college. But my first realationship to last was with my husband, we met when I was 20. And little did we know that 4 years later we would be married, 7 years later we would have our first set of twins and 10 years later we would have our second set of twins.
Well, I am okay with it and I actually don't want a relationship now. I want to wait for a couple of years. However, my host mom and my big sisters often told me that I will become too independence. It will be harder for me to find a boyfriend...
What do you think? Please advice. Thank you!Would this be good to do? 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
Right now in your life you have the opportunity to grab the world by the tail and run with it. This ambition will allow you to run in a better quality of life circles. You will have so many chances in the future but right now you are also frustrated. Take a cold shower. You do not need to be in a relationship to validate you as a female and a person. Listen to your heart.Would this be good to do? 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
That's fine if you don't want to be in a relationship right now, but you do need to make sure you are at least giving yourself some time for fun. Do you go out with friends? Do you take time out for things you enjoy? Or do you spend 24/7 focused on work and school? If you don't take time to have fun, two years down the road you will be socially inapt for a relationship. It will be a lot harder for you to find a boyfriend.
Who's life do you want to live? Theirs or yours?
Bottom line, your life, your choices and so long as you are HAPPY then let it be.
One day you may stumble into a relationship and by then you will know who you are and what you want and that is a GOOD thing in my opinion. When the RIGHT person comes along you wont need to agonize over thoughts like this. It will just FLOW along and be a wonderful adventure.
If you are content where you are then just ENJOY what you have and what you are doing. Don't FEAR that you are running out of time, life is to be lived THE WAY YOU CHOOSE IT. Not for other peoples expectations.
Good luck.
i think you are on the right path. you know yourself and that is the best way to do what you want in life. your host mom and big sisters mean well but they should keep their opinions to themselves... i believe you can define yourself and do not need a boyfriend to define yourself. when you are ready to become involved with a love interest, it will happen, it will feel right, and a good man respects a woman's independence....i never let a man define my life or sense of self. i waited until i got my education and career. keep going on your path and know that only you really knows what is right for you...
I don't need your 10 points, thank you very much. But, do what you want to do. Not what someone else wants you to do.
A good strong man wants a good strong independent woman.Use your strength and Independence to say ';I will continue on my path not yours but thanks for your interest.'; Being a virgin is a bit lonely (I was one until the age of 21)but sex confuses the mind and body.Complete your life ,become the woman you were meant to be.When the time is right the strong man that you are looking for will find you,and appreciate you for exactly who you are.Good luck! :)
You seem to be a bold girl. your boldness has made them say that u will become independent. Also u might have made a insecure feeling in your family. So u have to give ur family a secure feeling. That will do good.
It's actually a good thing that you don't want to be in a relationship right now. I say, you should finish school and get your Master Degree. Then you could start dating. But don't just go off and get in bed with someone, it's a very good thing that you're still a virgin. You should fall in love with someone you want to be with for the rest of your life before actually having a child.
I think being a 22 yr. old virgin is so cool. It shows alot of self controll and discipline. You'd be an asset to any company or any man looking for a good wife. Keep up the good work.
u are still young, maybe u are not ready yet that doesn't mean is hard to find a guy , because u seem to be successful , when the time is right than u will meet your guy, not right now, now just continue your goal, and it okey if u choose not to be with a guy, be patient and it will happen at the right time.
focus on becoming who you want to be rather than what other people think you should be and don't focus on sex it will happen when the time is right for you. There is nothing wrong with being a virgin it is not anyones business but yours and definitely not something you need to advertise or discuss unless it is your choice to do so.
If you don't want a boyfriend right now then don't have sex. Once you start having sex you are going to need it and it might become a priority in your life over work and school. You are so focused on your future and that is what it takes to get you ahead. When you get a job making the big bucks then get into a relationship.
Take your time, there is no rush, just let it come to you naturally, if it aint broke don't fix it. You sound like you are doin just fine and you wouldn't believe how hard it is to find a woman with such strong morals it is a refreshing change. Stay faithful to yourself and life has a strange way of panning out in its own little ways.
If you are not ready for a relationship, then don't be in one. Some people want to be in a relationship earlier than others. I was not in a ';real'; relationship until I was 18 and in college. But my first realationship to last was with my husband, we met when I was 20. And little did we know that 4 years later we would be married, 7 years later we would have our first set of twins and 10 years later we would have our second set of twins.
Don't understand my god mom. 10 points for the best advice.?
My mom and I have a conservation about love. She is a 55. She is a teacher who has dated over 30 guys. She claims the love of her life was a married man. She was the other women for 4 years. It was the longest relationship she's ever had. She claimed she always run into imature and irresponsible guys. The father of her only child gave her a fake marriage to her (Fake SSN) and left her and the child.
Regardless of all hardship, she still looks for romances. She loves to read romantic books and chat with men on dating websites. She has never dated a man for long because she will find something bad about them. Then, she is sad about NOT finding a good man or true love.
I do the opposite to her. I never seek for a relationship. I am happy being single. On ther other hand, she always want to have someone. She think I am weird to not wanting someone. I think she is too desperated to in a relationship.
She asks me do I have passion? I don't understand what passion she talks about?Don't understand my god mom. 10 points for the best advice.?
Some people don't really understand that a good relationship is the hardest job in the world. They spend all of their time looking for someone to love them and once they find them, chase them away with their preconcieved notion of what ';love'; is suppose to be. It is quite a shame.
When you get older, you do not want to be alone and I see a lot of people settle for bad relationships rather than being alone.
However, there is a wonderful book called ';Love and Respect'; and it tells what women do to ruin a relationship and what men also do. It also gives positive advise on what men need and are looking for and what women need out of a relationship and how we actually drive each other out of our lives by doing the exact opposite of what each sex craves and needs. It is very insightful, changed the way I think about men and relationships and actually may have saved my marriage.
I highly recommend it and I highly recommend that we do understand that men and women need and desire different things and by respecting each other a happy positive relationship can be formed. After all, we need to be loved and admired, we were not ment to be alone, I don't think and with the positive, rather than negative connotations we bring to a relationship from prior circumstances, we can actually be happy in any situation, yes for better or worse and in sickness and in health.
Good luck to you and if you can find the book you might get it for your God mom and maybe she can have a long lasting relationship based on mutual respect and trust.
If she is a codependent and seeks relationships with people who are abusive, users or addicts, there is also a book by Melody Beaty called Codepent no More. I have seen many a life changed by this book.
Good luck to you and your God mom and may true happieness fall upon you at ever juncture of your life.
Blessings to you my friend.
I also apologize if I have misspelled anything, my spell check is not working and it is late and I must get to bed, so I hope that the content of the answer over rides any misspellings.
Oh and by the way, passion is totally different than love. I have always looked at a person that I loved and thought, would I love them if something were to happen to them and they were not able to work, needed my help on a daily basis for basic needs and could not provide the ';physical'; type of relationship b/c of a medical condition. If the answer was yes, then I knew it was love, not infatuation or just a fling.Don't understand my god mom. 10 points for the best advice.?
Passion and love are to different feelings. Passion is what you feel at the beginning of every realtionship, while love is what you find after 20 years. She has a different way of dealing with love, she hopes to fill a void that was left by the father of the child as well as being only the mistress to her one true love.
You on the other hand are waiting for love to find you (it will), while she is out to find love.
Of course you have passion.
first of all i think your mum sounds great and its nice to hear of mother and daughter disscusing the issues of love!
I think when she talks of if you have passion in your life this is the amazing feeling she had once for that one special man that made her carry on with her search for that perfect relationship and that is why she doesnt settle for anything less! Good on her!
Every person is different. Thats what makes the world special.. There are those that strive feel the need to have a companion by there side. Others don't feel that need are more independent. There is nothing wrong with either. You and your mother are total opposites that is why it is so hard for either of you to understand the others view points. What your mother means by passion is that feeling of falling in love. The lust the attraction the good feeling it brings to her.
I feel the way she was raised %26amp; the events that occur in her life probably placed her in a position of needing a man to complete herself...There are many people that have similar needs %26amp; it's usually an insecurity about themselves...The reason she may always find something wrong with them,may be to protect her from being left by them...so,she drops them first.I hope this helps a bit.
Your mam sounds like my sister only my sister up to now as been married 4 times.Shes the same age has your mam.
When you meet the right man your passion will be aroused.
I am a single mom, raising a 10yr old son, %26amp; ever since I've had my son, I've given him 110% of me, my undivided attention %26amp; everything that I can possibly give....I've never thought about dating, I am a home body, which is fine. But my son will grow up %26amp; have his own life, and I would need to find a companion at that point, %26amp; I would be around your mom's age. My point is, you are still ok w/ the fact that you are single, because you have your whole life ahead of you.
You have to realize that your mom is at the point in her life, where she wants to find someone that will make things %26amp; life matter for her, someone to do things %26amp; grow old with. Seems like, she's never had any luck w/ guys in the past, and that's very unfortunate. But there is absolutely nothing wrong with her wanting to find someone, when your older %26amp; more mature maybe you will understand her better. Passion, is a very strong feeling of great love %26amp; enthusiasm.
It sounds very much like you are secure and happy with yourself, and your god mum needs a man to feel complete. In other words, you don't need anyone else around necessarily but your god mom does, and therein lies the problem.
I suspect she is attracting the wrong type of man too, it cannot be just accident that she has dated irresponsible men. She needs to correct this behaviour or else she will carry on making the same mistakes, time and time over.
She also sounds like she's idealising what a relationship is; of course there will always be something wrong with a partner- that's life!
But I think the best thing you can do for her is to help her be happy in herself; to help her take delight in things that don't involve having a man! Once she feels complete she will lose the desperation.
Sounds like she likes the romance and the passion and uncertainty and drama of the chase, and finds guys that can't measure up to her standards so she can always find a new one, seeking the charming prince.
I'd say you are fine as you are. Her behavior is not 100% normal. Not thirty guys. Most women might know or date a lot of men.
The big clue is when she dated the married guy, it was her longest one. This shows she can't stand to be on a relationship with someone that requires commitment.
Dating someone married, it keeps him tied to his wife, while she is free to come and go as she pleases, and doesn't have to commit, or do anything except sex.
I'd google commitment fear and learn more about her personality type, as it sounds like that's what her personality is.
You sound okay. Good luck.
I have nothing to say about her personal life; thats all on her.
She does seem a bit desperate though, but who can blame her?
I would be heartbroken if that happend to me.
%26amp; she said it was the love of her life.
Maybe when she visits those webcites she feels attractive %26amp; loved. She misses all that.
%26amp; i think the ';passion'; she means is the PASSION for love %26amp; care and someone to be there for you. To hug and to love.
you know?
Everyone loves to be loved. and maybe she worries you don't believe in that kind of stuff.
But who knows, i think you should ask her yourself.
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Good luck!
She sounds like my mom. Dates someone and then there is something that goes wrong and shes hurt again. She was supposed to get married here soon, but nope guess what hes not right. I don't get it. I'm happily married and I know I found the right guy and she trys to make it out like hes bad. Not sure if shes scared of commiment or she likes being unhappy. Really don't understand it.
I don't think you are weird not wanting a relationship. After seeing what your mother has gone through I don't blame ya. I was scared to turn out like my mom but I made damn sure I didn't. I don't know about the passion thing. Passion to never give up maybe, or just the romance at the time that you have it. Thats the only things I can think of. Good luck
Sometimes when we are hurt in life it seems like the ones we trusted and loved the most are the ones who let us down. It is not always easy getting right back up and your mom probably does not want a commitment in life. If we expect not much then we are not so easily disappointed. We have a choice to repeat the cycle or break the chain. When your mom asked you if you had a passion she was referring to goal...a love...a direction in life. Something you are reaching towards. What it is that you love.
first of all i think your god mom is afraid of getting hurt but loves the feeling of being in love as long as she doesn't get too close and she is looking for mr. perfect and he does not exsist.
Second...passion can mean several diffrent things to several people...the act of loving or being sexual....the hearts desire to find prince charming...the other half of your soul you are searching for you soul mate...the one that god has made for you....I think she is living in a fantasy world and it's driven by emotions, but real love is more than just passion, it's friendship, attraction, devotion and unconditional.
It seems to me that your god-mom doesn't have a very healthy relationship patterns. It's very sad that her only true love was a married man. If she respected herself a little more she would see that being in a relationship with a married man is very demeaning and should not be tolerated. It seems that she created an ideal man that she wants to find, but she attracts men that use her and leave her, or that she doesn't want. Having a good relationship is a very hard work. A good relationship is not equivalent to a relationship without any arguments or to a relationship with constant happiness. It's not wrong to be single, it's not wrong to want to find true love. It becomes a problem when a desire for a relationship or to stay single becomes an obsession. If you want to be alone be alone, but don't close yourself to an idea of love. If you meet someone be with that person, don't run away because you don't want to be like your god-mother. You will find what passion is when you will fall in love, I promise you. But having a passion also doesn't mean being with 30 or 40 guys. Good luck.
Regardless of all hardship, she still looks for romances. She loves to read romantic books and chat with men on dating websites. She has never dated a man for long because she will find something bad about them. Then, she is sad about NOT finding a good man or true love.
I do the opposite to her. I never seek for a relationship. I am happy being single. On ther other hand, she always want to have someone. She think I am weird to not wanting someone. I think she is too desperated to in a relationship.
She asks me do I have passion? I don't understand what passion she talks about?Don't understand my god mom. 10 points for the best advice.?
Some people don't really understand that a good relationship is the hardest job in the world. They spend all of their time looking for someone to love them and once they find them, chase them away with their preconcieved notion of what ';love'; is suppose to be. It is quite a shame.
When you get older, you do not want to be alone and I see a lot of people settle for bad relationships rather than being alone.
However, there is a wonderful book called ';Love and Respect'; and it tells what women do to ruin a relationship and what men also do. It also gives positive advise on what men need and are looking for and what women need out of a relationship and how we actually drive each other out of our lives by doing the exact opposite of what each sex craves and needs. It is very insightful, changed the way I think about men and relationships and actually may have saved my marriage.
I highly recommend it and I highly recommend that we do understand that men and women need and desire different things and by respecting each other a happy positive relationship can be formed. After all, we need to be loved and admired, we were not ment to be alone, I don't think and with the positive, rather than negative connotations we bring to a relationship from prior circumstances, we can actually be happy in any situation, yes for better or worse and in sickness and in health.
Good luck to you and if you can find the book you might get it for your God mom and maybe she can have a long lasting relationship based on mutual respect and trust.
If she is a codependent and seeks relationships with people who are abusive, users or addicts, there is also a book by Melody Beaty called Codepent no More. I have seen many a life changed by this book.
Good luck to you and your God mom and may true happieness fall upon you at ever juncture of your life.
Blessings to you my friend.
I also apologize if I have misspelled anything, my spell check is not working and it is late and I must get to bed, so I hope that the content of the answer over rides any misspellings.
Oh and by the way, passion is totally different than love. I have always looked at a person that I loved and thought, would I love them if something were to happen to them and they were not able to work, needed my help on a daily basis for basic needs and could not provide the ';physical'; type of relationship b/c of a medical condition. If the answer was yes, then I knew it was love, not infatuation or just a fling.Don't understand my god mom. 10 points for the best advice.?
Passion and love are to different feelings. Passion is what you feel at the beginning of every realtionship, while love is what you find after 20 years. She has a different way of dealing with love, she hopes to fill a void that was left by the father of the child as well as being only the mistress to her one true love.
You on the other hand are waiting for love to find you (it will), while she is out to find love.
Of course you have passion.
first of all i think your mum sounds great and its nice to hear of mother and daughter disscusing the issues of love!
I think when she talks of if you have passion in your life this is the amazing feeling she had once for that one special man that made her carry on with her search for that perfect relationship and that is why she doesnt settle for anything less! Good on her!
Every person is different. Thats what makes the world special.. There are those that strive feel the need to have a companion by there side. Others don't feel that need are more independent. There is nothing wrong with either. You and your mother are total opposites that is why it is so hard for either of you to understand the others view points. What your mother means by passion is that feeling of falling in love. The lust the attraction the good feeling it brings to her.
I feel the way she was raised %26amp; the events that occur in her life probably placed her in a position of needing a man to complete herself...There are many people that have similar needs %26amp; it's usually an insecurity about themselves...The reason she may always find something wrong with them,may be to protect her from being left by them...so,she drops them first.I hope this helps a bit.
Your mam sounds like my sister only my sister up to now as been married 4 times.Shes the same age has your mam.
When you meet the right man your passion will be aroused.
I am a single mom, raising a 10yr old son, %26amp; ever since I've had my son, I've given him 110% of me, my undivided attention %26amp; everything that I can possibly give....I've never thought about dating, I am a home body, which is fine. But my son will grow up %26amp; have his own life, and I would need to find a companion at that point, %26amp; I would be around your mom's age. My point is, you are still ok w/ the fact that you are single, because you have your whole life ahead of you.
You have to realize that your mom is at the point in her life, where she wants to find someone that will make things %26amp; life matter for her, someone to do things %26amp; grow old with. Seems like, she's never had any luck w/ guys in the past, and that's very unfortunate. But there is absolutely nothing wrong with her wanting to find someone, when your older %26amp; more mature maybe you will understand her better. Passion, is a very strong feeling of great love %26amp; enthusiasm.
It sounds very much like you are secure and happy with yourself, and your god mum needs a man to feel complete. In other words, you don't need anyone else around necessarily but your god mom does, and therein lies the problem.
I suspect she is attracting the wrong type of man too, it cannot be just accident that she has dated irresponsible men. She needs to correct this behaviour or else she will carry on making the same mistakes, time and time over.
She also sounds like she's idealising what a relationship is; of course there will always be something wrong with a partner- that's life!
But I think the best thing you can do for her is to help her be happy in herself; to help her take delight in things that don't involve having a man! Once she feels complete she will lose the desperation.
Sounds like she likes the romance and the passion and uncertainty and drama of the chase, and finds guys that can't measure up to her standards so she can always find a new one, seeking the charming prince.
I'd say you are fine as you are. Her behavior is not 100% normal. Not thirty guys. Most women might know or date a lot of men.
The big clue is when she dated the married guy, it was her longest one. This shows she can't stand to be on a relationship with someone that requires commitment.
Dating someone married, it keeps him tied to his wife, while she is free to come and go as she pleases, and doesn't have to commit, or do anything except sex.
I'd google commitment fear and learn more about her personality type, as it sounds like that's what her personality is.
You sound okay. Good luck.
I have nothing to say about her personal life; thats all on her.
She does seem a bit desperate though, but who can blame her?
I would be heartbroken if that happend to me.
%26amp; she said it was the love of her life.
Maybe when she visits those webcites she feels attractive %26amp; loved. She misses all that.
%26amp; i think the ';passion'; she means is the PASSION for love %26amp; care and someone to be there for you. To hug and to love.
you know?
Everyone loves to be loved. and maybe she worries you don't believe in that kind of stuff.
But who knows, i think you should ask her yourself.
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Good luck!
She sounds like my mom. Dates someone and then there is something that goes wrong and shes hurt again. She was supposed to get married here soon, but nope guess what hes not right. I don't get it. I'm happily married and I know I found the right guy and she trys to make it out like hes bad. Not sure if shes scared of commiment or she likes being unhappy. Really don't understand it.
I don't think you are weird not wanting a relationship. After seeing what your mother has gone through I don't blame ya. I was scared to turn out like my mom but I made damn sure I didn't. I don't know about the passion thing. Passion to never give up maybe, or just the romance at the time that you have it. Thats the only things I can think of. Good luck
Sometimes when we are hurt in life it seems like the ones we trusted and loved the most are the ones who let us down. It is not always easy getting right back up and your mom probably does not want a commitment in life. If we expect not much then we are not so easily disappointed. We have a choice to repeat the cycle or break the chain. When your mom asked you if you had a passion she was referring to goal...a love...a direction in life. Something you are reaching towards. What it is that you love.
first of all i think your god mom is afraid of getting hurt but loves the feeling of being in love as long as she doesn't get too close and she is looking for mr. perfect and he does not exsist.
Second...passion can mean several diffrent things to several people...the act of loving or being sexual....the hearts desire to find prince charming...the other half of your soul you are searching for you soul mate...the one that god has made for you....I think she is living in a fantasy world and it's driven by emotions, but real love is more than just passion, it's friendship, attraction, devotion and unconditional.
It seems to me that your god-mom doesn't have a very healthy relationship patterns. It's very sad that her only true love was a married man. If she respected herself a little more she would see that being in a relationship with a married man is very demeaning and should not be tolerated. It seems that she created an ideal man that she wants to find, but she attracts men that use her and leave her, or that she doesn't want. Having a good relationship is a very hard work. A good relationship is not equivalent to a relationship without any arguments or to a relationship with constant happiness. It's not wrong to be single, it's not wrong to want to find true love. It becomes a problem when a desire for a relationship or to stay single becomes an obsession. If you want to be alone be alone, but don't close yourself to an idea of love. If you meet someone be with that person, don't run away because you don't want to be like your god-mother. You will find what passion is when you will fall in love, I promise you. But having a passion also doesn't mean being with 30 or 40 guys. Good luck.
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