Fellas!(and ladies) help me out!! whats the best way to do it??? POINTS for best advice!?

There's this guy at school that i've been talking to for about two weeks. Now i feel like i shouldn't be talking to him because there's another guy that i like and i also don't like some of his habits. he's really cute and he's constantly being sweet to me ( holding hands, hugging/picking me up, kissing my hand/ forehead/cheek (even tho we haven't kissed), and just saying sweet/doing sweet things)... however, he's really hood, got out of juvie in march, smokes(everything), drinks, cusses, i don't like his ';crew';, he's poor(really) and that sort of thing... plus im starting to like this other guy.... so what do i say to him to end it?? i still really don't want to hurt him =(Fellas!(and ladies) help me out!! whats the best way to do it??? POINTS for best advice!?
Just tell him straight outFellas!(and ladies) help me out!! whats the best way to do it??? POINTS for best advice!?
tell him this: if he wants to stay with you he has to clean up his act and sober up. you won't be with a dead-beat. and if he was in juvie then you can't really control his poorness because he's not making his own money and you just have to get the f*** over it. his wealth shouldn't be an issue at all.
well i think the way that you commented on him being poor you are probally an over weight white girl trying to date a black guy and just another hoodrat be yourself and dont let what amount of money his parents make be the decision on who you date if you dont like how he is dont try to be with him
ummm maybe you can say '; your a really sweet guy buti think that we make a good connection ,but your not really my type and i really adore you ,but the things you do i really disagree with and i don't wanna change what you do so its best for me to just let you go and enjoy your life we can still be friends'; and then i guess that will help i with out hurting him....
okay he is just out of jail, he has bad friends, he is disrespectful, his habits are terrible,,are you afraid of this guy, look sweetie just smile as you walk by and stay as far away from this loser as possible,,please for your own safety,,,theres a world of wonderful people out there just waiting to meet you
I would start to act bitchy in a flirty/cutesie way. ';Oh your breath smells of cigarettes, yuck.....'; Ask why he was in juvie and comment on that. Be real annoying. He'll start to lose interest in you so it will be easier. I'm assuming you're in highschool? Of course I would recommend a different approach if you were older.





By the way, Mathew B is really hot.
be honest with him. tell him you like him but you dont like a lot of the things he does. tell him you think hes a great guy but a lot of his bad habbits take away from his good trates.
You could tell him that he's really sweet and kind, and that you do like him, but you'd just like to be friends.
tell him everything in your post except for the other guy part.
Give him the signal to want to be freinds....
tell him you really care about him but you just don't want to be with him right now..
What is wrong with you people. Just effing be true! Not only to that dude but yourself. Stop trying to make everyone happy. effing A cotton!
nicely,tell him to stop doing that kind of stuff.


he'll probably get the hint.
just ask him if you can be just friends
He sounds like a nice guy... why would you leave him for that other guy?
honestly the best thing would be to tell the truth
Go with the good guy
I think you need to be honest with him and I really agree with what sexychocolate is saying. You need to tell him that you really like him, BUT you don't agree with some of the things he does. Tell him you don't want to hurt him but it's not fair for you to ask him to change. You should love a person for them and that includes all their flaws as well. Not to mention that, only he can make that decision for himself. You see, a person will only change voluntarily when the fear of remaining the same outweighs the fear of the change itself. He needs to realize it for himself and maybe losing you will help him out in that.
he may be really hot and (currently acting) really sweet, but don't let those things make you overlook the other parts about him that you don't like...that stuff sounds like bad news...





just tell him that you don't think he's the right one for you, but you wish him the best and can still be friends with him. you might also say something about not feeling right about him doing stuff like holding your hand/picking you up/kissing you...i try to go with treating all my friends the same...i don't hold hands or kiss my guy friends lol, so if i tried that with the female friends, there'd be something else going on there...
Okay... Let's see how this shakes out... You got a guy that likes you, but has a record and a ';crew'; you don't like. He smokes, drinks and cusses. Plus he's poor. (eeewwww!)





You don't like the guy for who he is, you like what he does. for you. Now you found another guy (hopefully richer) and want to break it off with the sandwich.





Easy... The next time the sandwich comes up to you and tries to be ';friendly';, tell him you have another guy in your life and that he's got to quit with the holding hands, hugging, kissing stuff. Tell him that while a poor boy might be a good sandwich, it doesn't make a good prospect as a bf.
Don't be fooled by his romantic gestures - he is who his actions say he is. If he just got out of jail and you don't like his crew, there is trouble down the road, GUARANTEED. Just tell him straight up that you can't ever see being more than friends with him - you don't feel comfortable with it. You can tell him you want to just be friends but chances are he won't spend much time with you anymore, which can be hard but if the other guy treats you well and doesn't have the bad habits and friends you speak of, I guarantee you'll be better off with him.
Don't ask just to be friends thats usually how they get more mad and pissed and start stalking you.............................





And eventually RAPE%26gt;...... sorry i had to say it...............





the best advice is to go onto Dr. Phil (if you can) but don't be serious with that one,,,





If your into the homemade solutions just move away as far as possible from the boy friend. He also seems to be a gangster............. NOT TRYING TO BE FUNNY I have too many at my school.


and they don't make good boyfriends usually just want to be nice with you and then have sex....... and eventually its not good in the long run......................








So I would try to move to another school because if you stay at that one and get another boyfriend your boyfriend right now will kill the other guy you like so your only option is to stay single and your school





now exactly breaking up.............





this is gonna be a bit hard.....





I would say try to be nice with him.. or act like a straight up G to him and say I'm done with you..... and act all hard and see if he wants to act like a scaredy cat.and really want you....


Or you can have a deep conversation with him and ask him why he likes you and when do you think we will have kids and and ask him about marriage and try to get detailed with him about the long run and ask him career questions...





This is just some suggestions you don't have to take this advice but if you do, do everything I told you in caution.