Should I apologize? 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?

This guy adores me for three years. (two years in college and 1 year long distance) I was not ready for a relationship because I want to focus on school and work. However, he still wants to wait for me. After I moved to different states, he has been written over 20 poems about how much he loves, misses, and wants to be with me.





Two months ago he wrote two sad poems. I asked him what he tries to tell me, but he did not reply. I thought he wants to move on; therefore, I removed him from my friendlist. He was upset and blocked me from his website.





Was I wrong? Should I apologize? How can I explain to him?





P.S. I love and care about him a lot. I think he is my true love. I want him to be happy. However, I still not ready for a relationship at this moment. (I want to focus on school, work, and be a virgin bride :)





Thank you very much.Should I apologize? 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
First - I don't think it's right to encourage a person to wait for you, if you did. Through the time of the wait both you and he will change, and that may affect your attitude to each other. Commiting to each other (I assume that if he waited you out you agreed to date him?) to an undeveloped relationship when you're not ready to be in the relationship is irrational. You should have encouraged him to seek others, while you're doing your thing. If at one point in the future you both find each other interesting and available then you can just begin seeing each other.





He seems like a very sensitive guy who's been holding on to you, or a superwoman version of you, for all this time. You might have liked the fuss and attention, which may be the reason for his waiting. At the same time he's been manipulating your feelings into guilt, when he was the one that offered to wait for you. You might have done smarter by not taking him off your friend's list (why did you?). But you did, and that's that. No need to aggrivate the situation with an apology. He might take advantage of your vulnerability and further press you for a commitment. Do you want to put yourself through the whole I'm-not-available-yet situation again? It's taken an unfortunate turn but leave it in the past.Should I apologize? 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
You should ask again what is wrong, and explain that you removed him because he did not reply to you - just what you said here, you took it as a sign he wanted to move on.





I don't see that an apology is required - but they never hurt, even if they aren't (required or owed).
This is the answer!!!!


P.S. I love and care about him a lot. I think he is my true love. I want him to be happy. However, I still not ready for a relationship at this moment. (I want to focus on school, work, and be a virgin bride
I don't think that you did anything wrong really, but apologizing for inadvertently hurting his feelings couldn't hurt. Have you explained to him why you feel the way you do? You could try to do that again even if you have. If he really loves you then he'll understand. If waiting is too much for him, then that's something you'll have to understand too.


Good luck!!
I think communication is the biggest issue here. Communicate to him how you really feel, let him know, and see where it goes from there. You both deserve to be happy, and if you really love him and he loves you, ultimately it will work out in the end!





Good luck!!!
Shouldn't the key word be ';thought'; in ';I though he wanted to move on...';?





You should have asked him again before you assumed and acted on assumption. Slashing and burning because of guilt is not the way to deal with this.





I do think:


You are rigorously testing him.


You are scared that he might give up because of your rigorous test.


You are ready but you don't want anything to change.


You should apologize.
Yes, you were wrong. He was sending a message that he was not ready to talk about yet, much like you are not ready for a relationship. Something changed and he was taking time to deal with it, and did not feel comfortable telling you about it yet. Removing him from your friends list after only asking him once what was meant was premature and sending the signals that you don't care. To him, that likely means that you don't care about him, not a far cry in his mind from the fact that you have been denying him a relationship. If you really wanted him in your life, you would have told him that when he was ready to talk about it you would be there for him. That you are unsure what is happening but that you really care about him and want him to be able to tell you what is bothering him. That is what people who want to be together do. You need to tell him how you feel about him and explain that just right now, you need to be friends. And that you see how that might change in the future. It is up to him to chose if he wants to wait that out.
Why did you remove him from your friendlist if you care about him? That would have hurt my feelings if I'd been him. You should apologize, but don't feel guilty about it forever.
yeah i think you should. i mean a guy adores you and u break his heart. But if he really loves you then he will wait patiently until your ready. If youre not ready than youre not ready. but you need to think about this he already waited 3 years. How else long is he going to hold out before he finds someone else that special to him too.
date hom and see if you really like him and you no if it doesnt work tell him that you really like him but you would much rather him just kind of 4-get about his love 4 you and tall him you would love to still be his friends....you sound like a nice lady give him a try..he may not be who you think he is you guys sound liek you're ment 4 eachother and stay a virgin bride*** you go girl*!!!!!tell him you are waiting until marriage and if he gets upset thats just not right!*