Talking to an ex? 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?

My ex is depressed about the relationship. We known each other for 4 years. I moved to different states 2 years ago. We kept in touch as friends and hoped to be together oneday. Last year, we were in a big argument. He asked me to leave him alone.





We have not talked for 6 months. He is now depressed. He writes poems and draw pictures about us. I want to make sure he is okay, but I don't want him to think that I am stalking him.





I do care about him and want to make sure he is okay. I also want to end this relationship in a good term.Talking to an ex? 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
You should e-mail him or call him, but I think a letter would be of most significance since you would write it. Let him know that you care about him as friends and that you value is friendship too much to lose it.Talking to an ex? 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
The best thing to do is phone him and explain your feelings, tell him you want to be friends and see him sometime to have a friendly get together, no strings. At least you are trying to make ammends
Think very hard about what it is that you want him to understand/appreciate about you and your relationship and then think about the best way to communicate this to him. And please, don't say anything silly like ';I care about you and hate seeing you like this';. Anything that makes him feel like a charity is going to cause more problems.
tricky one ... I firmly believe an ex is an ex is an EX therefore no feelings and no unnecesary contact. Couples split because there is nothing strong enough to keep them together (this over-rides ANY other so called reason), otherwise they would not be Ex's!





';Depressed'; is an often misused word - do you mean he's mentally/physically depressed or he is ';down in the dumps'; / ';feeling blue'; ? I suspect the latter and that he is feeling sorry for himself.





Would I ';personally'; contact an ex in that scenario? Certainly not. You immediately give the impression that you ';care'; and the person is going to get their hopes up re rekindling the relationship.





Give this a wide berth.





IF you ';must'; contact him do it through a third party with a message like ';Just thought I'd let you know life is going well - hope you're doing ok and getting along good too';





Harsh? no .... realistic and fair to all concerned. It shows you care enough to want him to be doing ok, but makes it plain you are getting on with life and there is no going back





good luck
the relationship ended two years ago when you moved. for two years you kept in touch, and hoped to be together again. why? why did it end to begin with. if you haven't talked in 6 months how do you know what he is depressed about. did he get involved in another relationship that's going bad. once you leave someone and lable them as an ';ex'; you need to keep a distance and let them go on with their life. If things weren't good enough then to keep you together, what would you two have to talk about. Don't keep reminding someone of the good times you used to have, that keeps them clinging to the past and that's not a productive life. unfair to keep someone hanging on to something that won't happen again. ask him, if you need to know, why he's depressed, keeping in mind what are you going to do about it when he lives in another state. you should have let go completely.
you need to get intouch with him and ask him if he is oki coz you dont want him to be depressed. th worst he is hoing to do is tell you to f off and is he does that then dont get back in contact with him. he wont think you are stalking him. he will just think that you still care for him. the best thing to do id ring him or write a letter or text him and just say ';hiyaa i no i havent spoke to you in a long time just wanted to no if you are ok and can we still be firends';? and see what he says. goood look!!!!!!!
Depression is a serious mental health problem. If you contact him by phone to talk. Thats okay. Email him thats okay. Just talk very caring and soft. If he gets upset, say, please call you and let you know if you can help with anything.


This would not be considered annoying.
It seems to me like his move isn't going very well and so he is obsessing about the good times he had with you.





I think you need to to write him a letter that he can read over again and again that explains that you had some good times but it is now over. Then throw in something about you both still being friends.





It has to be a nice letter, but very clear on what your feelings are to the point of not leading him on in any way as if there is any confusion - he will just obsess more.