Can't stop thinking of my best friend after the kiss? 10 points for best advice.?

hey guys. i'm 17. up until pretty recently i had a girlfriend, of over 2 years. my 18 year old bro (who me and my ex were best friends with) forced himself on my ex girl. i don't talk to him anymore.. she was so hurt and scared. since then things went downhill real fast. she ruled out sex, wouldn't hold my hand even, and cried alot. i understood she was traumatized but still, she wouldn't even talk. i loved her so much but apparently thats never enough, i was hangin wit my best girl friend (she was always like one of the guys) and she started kissin me.. and i never really stopped it i was pretty shocked. after awhile with all the tension and hard times me and my girlfriend broke up. it was weird to kiss my best friend like that but since it happened i can't stop thinking about it. should i try and get back with my ex or move onto something new with this friend. im not sure of my place with her now and i dont know what i want. advice?Can't stop thinking of my best friend after the kiss? 10 points for best advice.?
Ok i know from experience its so hard getting over an ex. i was with this guy for two years, we broke up for multiple reasons but none of them had to do with us. (kinda like your situation with your brother) but nonetheless we broke up. it was really hard cause you feel like you should be with that person but if you try and force it cause it ';seems right'; thats just going to push you further apart. So heres what i would do. Talk to your ex, ask her how she feels about the seperation and if she wants to move on... you need to be straight forward with her and communicate how your feeling. if she feels like she needs some space then you need to respect that and move on; but also tell her your doing so. so she doesnt get blindsited by it. Next you need to stop and think about your best girl friend. did you ever think of her before in that way? do you see a relationship actually going somewhere with her? etc. cause if you just jump into things with her then you may risk her ending up being a rebound and ruining your friendship. Maybe you should just take sometime to breathe, get your head straight, and let things play out the way there supposed to. dont force anything. everything happens for a reason! i hope this helps you and remember! keep your head up!





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KatyCan't stop thinking of my best friend after the kiss? 10 points for best advice.?
uhmm, first...why did you ppl break up in the first place??.





But yeah, you should get back with her. Nothing should hold you back with something you want. Just be careful, cuz after what she's been through with your friend forcing him self on her must of been to much.





So talk about how you feel with her. And if she dosnt feel the same way then just look into being friends and if your wanting the other girl you like ask her out:)





GOODLUCK;DD...





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Such a sad story. I think you need to let your ex go, and let her heal. As far as a new relationship, you are young, and if she is your best friend already, that is a great starting point to a nice relationship. Definately time to move forward!
I would say to let your ex go.... Give her the space that she needs.... Try to date your best friend. Me and my best friend have 2 kids together and have been together for 5 years... It's worth a shot.... Anything is possible
It depends who you care for more. If you feel like you still love your ex then try to get back with her. You really didn't say how your feelings were for these girls.
Let your ex move on, and maybe try going out with your best friend.
Do whatever you feel is right, we can't tell you what you feel. Hope it all works out.
i think your best friend. because after a while i understand you must be bored with someone for over 2 years..right?
Go with your best friend she might be the one
I say go for the babe that loves you(:
I think you should let the ex get over the awful thing that happened and then when she feels like dating again maybe start things back off slowly and see where it goes from there. As for your friend, while you are letting you ex get over what happened, I would keep the friend close, but not so close that you ex won't even consider dating you. Just untill you and you ex get back together. I realize this is not an immediate solution which would be preferable, but it might work.


Good Luck, I hope it works out for you. I'll pray for you.
I have been in your exgirlfriends situation. Its not you. she feels ashamed and that its all her fault that you brother did that to her. I know its wierd but thats how it is. Nothing can really salvage your relationship with her BC she will always connect what happend with you. Friends make the best companions BC you started out friends and got to know each other first. give her a chance.
Hi,


You need to find a way to set your physical feelings asside, and figure out what you want to do emotionally.





You have to decide if you truly want to help your gf get over her rape by your brother......sure she is freaked out. Sure she might not want to talk about it with you for now....Do you want to stick by her, or not. Yes that is a tough one for you.


Easy, no way..........I would think she needs you now more than ever, but that is not an easy spot to put you in either.





Look into your heart and decide what is best for you.......


Only you know......A hot chick can be an easy way out of a very tough situation.......


I wish you the very best in this awful time!
Well, sad to say, but its going to take alot for your ex gf to move forward from the rape... and unfortunately, she may blame you for it happening, or for not stopping it, or she may even picture him doing it when she is with you. She has a long road of recovery to go through. I'd definitely offer her your friendship in helping her through it... In the future, who knows what that could lead to.





As for the sister like friend... You said you cant stop thinking about it... is that because you feel bad for doing it or because it excited you? If you feel bad for doing it then the answer is clear.. Dont move forward with her.... If you liked doing it, then explain to her first that you still love your ex gf very much and you may always have feelings for her...... make that known first so that your sister like friend isnt hurt if you cant get over the ex... its always best to be open and honest about your feelings... less people get hurt that way.





And since your only 17--- Geez, Have fun... Dont get boggled down at such a young age.. you'll regret not exploring more as you get older.





Best of luck to you.
I don't know what to advise you to do you are only 17 and should have lots of friends and relationships perhaps don't date anyone in particular for a while just be friends with them all and see what happens.


As for your ex and her experience with your brother if I was her I would go to the police and report him for assault/rape or attempted rape he shouldn't be allowed to get away with what ever it was he did to her, she may need to talk to a counselor it sounds as if she is quite traumatized. Your brother should be taught a lesson before he does the same to someone else.
You need to let your ex get over this trauma. What happened to her is one of the most awful things to happen to a girl. It's really up to you where you go with your best friend. You might like to stay friends for now and see how it progresses. Good luck and so sorry for your ex girlfriend.